Friday May 25, 2012

Daycare blues

TOKYO —

It all started with a letter from our ward office. The thinness of the envelope told us everything we needed to know. When we opened it, our worst fears were confirmed: our son, just shy of his first birthday, had failed to get into public daycare.

Three years ago, our daughter had easily landed a spot. No waiting list. At the time, we heard a rumor that there weren’t enough kids to fill our ward’s many daycare centers. But that was before the global financial crisis that began in 2008. Since then, as incomes have dwindled and savings been depleted, many new mothers have returned to work or decided to keep their jobs rather than doing the expected thing and resigning after giving birth. This has meant that more parents are turning to the government for affordable daycare — and more kids are on waiting lists because there aren’t enough places.

My wife and I knew about the daycare shortage. We were also aware that among the 23 wards in Tokyo, ours had the highest number of these “waiting children,” or “taiki jido.” But we were in serious denial. We never doubted that our son would get in, since both my wife and I have full schedules.

After receiving the letter, we rushed to the ward office to talk to a member of staff there, who patiently explained the point system used to determine how deserving a family is of public childcare support. She showed us how our work situation and family life translated into points; the more points you have, the better the chance of your child securing that coveted daycare spot.

We learned that the point system gives priority to single-parent families and those with health problems and disabilities. There’s no arguing that these people are the most deserving of public assistance of this sort, but we also realized that the system favors full-time employees who are finishing maternity or paternity leave. Part-timers and contract-based workers, many of whom have to quit work after giving birth because they have no legal recourse to obtain official leave, are disadvantaged because the point system sees them as unemployed and thus not requiring childcare support.

The system is also dismissive towards parents in school. In the ward’s view, a parent is either a worker or a student, but never both at once. A full-time worker receives more points than a mother who goes to graduate school while working three days a week — as my wife does.

Thus began our mini-crusade to secure a daycare spot for our son. We applied for the makeshift facilities that the ward had set up for spillover kids. We called up private daycare centers and asked to be put on waiting lists with 50 families ahead of us. We contacted local lawmakers and people of influence. We submitted a petition, with charts and signed documents, to ask that the ward reconsider our points.

After talking to many people in the course of our efforts, I came to the conclusion that this point system needs an overhaul. I understand that the process is designed to ensure fairness when ranking applicants — an argument made by ward bureaucrats. But the system’s tendency to favor full-time workers shows that it’s out of step with today’s diverse job market.

The point system is also flawed because it relies on misleading terms that are useful in other areas of government. For example, a friend of ours could not receive the same number of points as a single parent, despite the fact that her husband lives and works overseas, on the grounds that she is married and therefore not technically “single.”

This problem is unfortunate because public daycare is truly a godsend for working parents. We have found our daughter’s daycare to be excellent in so many ways, its staff professional and communicative. An on-duty nurse and a nutritionist ensure that she eats much more healthily there than she does at home.

Municipalities, too, are making great strides in solving the shortage crisis. Many wards in Tokyo have built new facilities and expanded existing ones. Deregulation of daycare a decade ago has spurred an entire industry of private centers that provide fantastic service, sometimes with innovation not seen in the public sector. Yet these improvements remain inaccessible for many parents who fall outside old forms of employment, obsolete models of family life, and outdated ideas about gender roles and child-rearing.

How a society treats its children is how it imagines its future. Amid the sea change taking place in Japan, I hope that local governments will sail into the future, not back into the past.


The author is is an assistant professor of anthropology at Sophia University.

This commentary originally appeared in Metropolis magazine (www.metropolis.co.jp).

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    tokyotom

    wonder why japan has such a low birthrate, so easy to be a parent

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    fishy

    excellent article!!

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    whiskeysour

    scary place. Japan needs more daycares. I will try to start my own daycare service.

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    minello7

    After reading this article,I realise I live in a different world,and if this is the mentality of today ,what a sad world faces my children and grandchildren.Here is an academic complaining about the system,because his child, not yet one,didn't get a daycare place..” But we were in serious denial. We never doubted that our son would get in, since both my wife and I have full schedules" and "We contacted local lawmakers and people of influence. We submitted a petition, with charts and signed documents". How selfish can you get.Finally he finishes with "How a society treats its children is how it imagines its future".Why did he have children with such a selfish attitude.Most countries in the world fullfill their obligations to the children by providing state education from primary school age.Public Daycare and kindergarten is not obligatory.It is provided for those who need it most,and with the divorce rate approaching 50% ,the system is under great strain as it is.We don't bring children into this world to expect other people to look after them,thats our responsability.Those early years are the most important in a childs life ,getting the love and attention of their parents,bonding,guidence,.That is what shapes the future of our children.Sadly this has been forgotten. If your career and your partners career are so important,don't have children.Being single, and married with children are two totally different things.One brings with it resposabilty.

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    nisegaijin

    That's what happens when you deal with government! They decide what's suitable for you, without even talking to you! great job!

    How about close all public day care centers, let private businesses run theirs without regulations, lower taxes, and then let's see if there ever will be a shortage!

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    limboinjapan

    Sorry I can't find any sympathy in me for this family, at first I thought 2 full time working parents but then as I kept reading and realize that one of them is working part time and school part time, this suggest to me that financially they are stable enough to pursue other avenues.

    I also wonder about their lack of planning, why did they choose to have another a second child when they knew they could not be around to raise him?

    I have been raising both my children on my own for some time now, my ex-wife and I planned for having children and did not expect to need the state daycare (or any daycare for that matter)what was unforeseen was that she would be hit with bipolarism (well it may have been foreseeable if Japanese families would not hide these things) anyway, she refused treatment and finally walked out on the children and I, that is when the state system kicked in and I was helped with daycare and later after school care at a reasonable price.

    If both parents "choose" to work and not "have to work" or pursue studies then it is their responsibility to prepare for this and not the states.

    I am fairly socialist in my leanings (universal health care, free schooling, welfare for those unable to work, etc..) but but state run daycare is for those who need it and not those who just want it.

    My Japanese friend and his wife are both professionals and work full time and they knew before having their child that they would probably not get him into state daycare, they know they can easily live on just one income but they chose to both work, so prior to the child being born they made arrangements for a private daycare, this is what responsible people and parents do.

    State daycare is also the safety net when unforeseen tragedies strike and must also keep space open for emergencies(like my neighbor who's wife fell ill and was hospitalized for 6 months).

    For those out there thinking of have children think long and hard, they are not puppies, yes they may be cute and cuddly at first but they are a long term costly (both emotional and financially) responsibility (worth every, tear, laugh and yen in my opinion). Think folks think!

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    goddog

    Even with a double income, if you bought a mansion when I did, and cannot sell it for one third the price, things can look pretty dismal financially for anyone. I wish my ex-wife had worked all along, and put the kids in day care. Would have been much better financially.

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    Debucho

    great article but is "thinness" a word?

    why don't you put school on hold and use that money for daycare? Better yet, why don't companies provide daycare for employees like in the US?

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    electric2004

    limbo:

    Good Post. Planning is the key. With our first child, after one year maternity leave, my wife wanted to work again, but no daycare available at this time in Yokohama, so she continued staying at home and taking care of our Baby. Now several years passed, and we have 3 children (5 years, almost 3, and 1 year). The oldest goes to a private kindergarten (3rd year), and the middle one had his niuenshiki today. And sometimes (once a week) the Baby can stay at nursery in the morning, when it is necessary.

    And they all smile, when Papa comes home in the evening. (one ... two hours family and playtime).

    Sounds and is much more positive than "Daycare blues". Of course, it is not in Tokyo, but in "Inaka" in Ibaraki.

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    bicultural

    Know why there's a shortage of daycare centers? Because parents don't live with their parents anymore. I'm sure the grandmothers here in Japan would love to watch their grandkids a couple days a week while the mother worked part-time.

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    azzassa

    Meet 8-10 other Parents and start to do a own and better daycare-center than a Japanese one!

    Because you can decide who is working with and for your Kid's! You can decide the Food and what they are learning and most important "How they will be treated"!

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    shufu

    I agree with Limbo here. Clearly this author has a lot of money for his wife to be studying at Grad school, so why not ship your kids off to one of the private international schools which other parents are pulling out of left right and centre.

    I dont understand why you have kids if your only interested in shipping them off to kindy as soon as they reach the entrance age? Surely it would have been sensible to either wait until your wife has graduated, or your wife should have waited to go to school. Seems like common sense.

    Also on a personal note, this article is so crazily indulgent. Clearly you think your child is the best and you deserve the dirt cheap childcare more than others who truly need it.

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    bcbrownboy

    Yep here is Japan. Land of the fair doctrine. Suck it up. Better yet, don't have kids until you have a plan to take care of them. Putting a one-year-old into daycare is akin to child abuse. If you can afford not to do it, don't do it. There are classes on-line, and correspondence courses. Don't be so self-centered.

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    bdiego

    As bcbrownboy pointed out, putting a one year old child into day care is a matter of last resort. If you can't take care of your children, don't have them.

    More importantly as others here have pointed out, clearly you are less deserving than the full time workers you listed. It's perplexing to think you should be put in front of them when they clearly need it more than you and your wife does not need to be working part-time going to school. She wants to. There are definitely a lot of people using daycare who have no choice and barely get by. I hope you appreciate this.

    Sure, why not give you more points for your situation. It just shouldn't put you ahead of more deserving applications. Everybody thinks "I deserve better than my neighbor", and you haven't yet made the case that you are more deserving. Just that you should have gotten more points and still gotten rejected.

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    bdiego

    Azzassa, this author and most people recognize that Japanese public daycare is actually excellent. It's one of the only things the Japanese government does right. That's why he wants to get his child in, in front of poor working mothers who have no choice. I don't blame him for trying, of course.

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    Frungy

    On thing the author doesn't mention is whether grandparents are part of the points system. I know that when a lot of my colleagues have a sick child or can't get their child into daycare the grandparents step in and take care of the child while they're at work. Both my wife and I are foreigners living in Japan and we have no grandparents living here, so barring an "adopt a grandparent" system we're often in a real bind when our child is sick and can't go to creche.

    Looking at this article I see a real prejudice against foreigners and those with partners working abroad, for example not taking into account the availability of grandparent, treating someone who's partner is living in another country like a regular family rather than a single parent, treating contract workers (which covers most foreign employees) as "unemployed", etc.

    That being said I have no sympathy for the author. If his wife has time to study then she has time to take care of the child. End of story. This isn't sexism, I'd say the same thing is the male partner was the one studying. By all means ask, but don't make a fuss if you're not accepted and know that you have alternatives, as opposed to some who have none.

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    taj

    "We contacted local lawmakers and people of influence."

    He lost me there.

    IF they were asking that more slots be made available in general, rather than one for their son, specifically, I may be more supportive.

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    Foxie

    As an Assistant Professor of Sophia University, he must be getting a decent salary compared to others. I agree too with other posters, if you have kids, just take care of them. It is selfish wanting to work or study when there is no absolute need for it. Kids should get priority.

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    Tessa

    It's easy to say don't have children if you can't care for them yourself. But realistically, most families in big cities need two incomes to get by (think of the cost of cram schools, for example). And many couples now live far from their own parents, because of work transfers etc. Japan claims it wants to increase the birthrate, well providing more child care would go a long way to solving the problem.

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