Latest 15 of 23 Total Comments Show All

• 

  southofreality at 11:53 AM JST - 28th March

  This incident is less like the Ibaraki stabbings or the Okayama train shoving and more like the family ax-murders in Tokyo late last month, where the son had his hands cut off. All can be said to be mental-health-related issues, but the two Tokyo family murders can also be used to show the level of domestic violence in this country. Leaders refuse to do anything about it while kids and parents keep on killing each other and the familiy members caught in the middle of the disputes.

• 

  scaredintokyo at 02:06 PM JST - 28th March

  In stuck married to a Japanese man (Im not Japanese), we have two kids. He is very violent. I am scared that one day this will be my and my kids.

  But leaving, with children, is so very difficult. Im trying to leave, but when he has taken passports, cut off access to money, wont allow me to work, wont let me have friends, when I have no money to support us if we get out of Japan, when his family refuse to help, despite the fact he beat me in front of them. Then what is left to do.

  Domestic violence shelters demand payment, and are very hard to get into. Ive tried.

  If I divorce I run risk of his wrath, he would kill me before he let me and the kids go. And even if I do, Im not likely to get custody of my children.

  What next I really dont know. But try to be kind on the mother, she might well have been desperate and trying to get out for years before he finally murdered her.

  Japan has to realise that mental health issues need to be taken seriously. Sorry does NOT fix everything. How many times has this woman been expected to take an apology and get on with it.

  My heart goes out to her and her family. I just hope I manage to get mine out before I end up dead too.

• 

  Starviking at 02:14 PM JST - 28th March

  Scared in tokyo, my advice would be to gather what evidence you can of your treatment, then take you and your kids down to your country's embassy in Tokyo and refuse to leave unless JGov does something about it. JGov never does anything unless they are shamed into it.

• 

  Nessie at 02:22 PM JST - 28th March

  ScaredInTokyo, your situation sounds intolerable and I sympathize. I won't offer any advice, because bad advice is worse than no advice. But I will say that your post makes me very sad, and I suggest that you get professional assistance.

  Japan Helpline -- 0570 000 911 Japan Women's Resource Center (AJWRC) Japan -- (0)3 3780 5245

  And some forums here:

  http://www.brokenspirits.com/board/forum.cfm?f_id=13

  Good luck.

• 

  romulus3 at 04:27 PM JST - 28th March

  scaredintokyo,

  you need to talk with someone at your embassy. its the most important thing you can do.

  Moderator: Readers, back on topic please.

• 

  Bubble08 at 05:56 PM JST - 28th March

  Moderator, how can you be so insensitive as to say "back on topic", and probably not allow other related comments to enter this discussion page, when this is possibly the only way scaredintokyo has been able to explain her awful situation and ask for help! Other readers, who this site is ultimately designed for, obviously don't mind about her request for help, and are only too willing to offer their assistance.

  I really hope scaredintokyo can freed of this horrible man, and can go some place where she and her kids are given their basic human rights...and this is obviously NOT Japan!

  I was also in a very similar situation in Japan, but fortunately I could escape BEFORE the baby was born, and am happily a single mother in a country where mine and my daughter'srights are respected...which is much easier than being married to scum!

• 

  Himajin at 06:21 PM JST - 28th March

  I would ask the Mod to let others who have information for this woman post it, she can ask for no more posts if she feels she has enough information? I ask because I have known of two similar cases, and they went through hell before they got out.

  Thank you.

• 

  laconic at 08:38 PM JST - 29th March

  I haven`t been following this story on the Japanese news so I only have the above article as reference, was this definitely a case of domestic violence? Or was it stress from being the only breadwinner, financially responsible for 7 people?

• 

  borscht at 11:03 PM JST - 29th March

  On another site it mentioned that the breadwinner was in debt to the tune of about 48 million to the local ward office because he took out a series of low-interest loans (about 1% interest) but that the man's main customers were moving out of Tokyo or closing up shop and he, the breadwinner, was under 'stress.' That in no way excuses him stabbing his family to death. He might feel shame that he couldn't support them anymore, but does that mean 'they' have to die? Why couldn't he see that living in poverty as a family is better than being dead?

• 

  DubyaKiller at 11:13 PM JST - 29th March

  The death penalty, and those victims families who demand the death penalty here (not that I have ever been in that terrible scenario), is not helping society in Japan. Japanese society needs to learn why certain crimes are carried out (the violent murder of this family/ the recent train station stabbing spree/ the guy pushed under a train by an 18 year old/ the little kids stabbed to death in Osaka etc). So why not refuse to carry out anymore capital punishment and instead put these criminals through analysis and a phsyciatric programme to try and find out what made them kill, whilst they serve life sentences in jail ? Maybe then we can get a little nearer to being able to recognise warning signs in advance. Even if the programme ends up saving 1 life, then it would have been worth it. And it would have a slightly better epitath if tragic deaths such as these then result in someone being protected in the future.

• 

  Ivespoken at 02:50 AM JST - 30th March

  OK!! Now i'm getting kind of scared to go to Japan!! How many people over there are going to kill people and then themselves?! HOW MANY?!! Hope that guy rots in prison and gets put in the chair of death!! lol

• 

  DubyaKiller at 03:00 AM JST - 30th March

  Like I said, read the post above. So Ivespoken, your answer is to add one more death with capital punishment ? Now that would really solve the problem wouldn't it.

• 

  scaredintokyo at 08:00 AM JST - 30th March

  If he hurt people, committed violence against his wife and family in the home, it is domestic violence, no matter that if in his twisted mind he did it because he was stressed out being the breadwinner, or debt or whatever. There is nothing which can justify this.

  Thank you for the numbers, things are very bad for me - and I will end up dead with my two kids unless I get out - but Im trying to leave and setting things in motion now so I can get out in the near future.

  I just hope Japan lets me leave with my kids before they have to bury us too. If I hadnt have read this, I doubt I would have been strong enough to try and leave.

• 

  conqueror_of_Uranus at 05:23 PM JST - 31st March

  I thought my family had issues.

• 

  borscht at 08:07 PM JST - 1st April

  I wonder if the average stressed-out, debt-ridden Japanese male sees suicide/murder-of -family as the only way out whereas weirdos (i.e. some foreigners) would rather struggle to make it as a family regardless of financial straights?

  ScaredinTokyo,

  Im trying to leave

  Don't try -Do it! Leave. With your kids. Now! Before we read about you in JT.

  I just hope Japan lets me leave with my kids

  God, I hope so, too. Get a good lawyer, one with enough courage to stick up for your rights as a parent (regardless of nationality.)

Register or login to add a comment!