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  womanforwomen at 10:54 PM JST - 16th October

  asianyetgaijin, thanks for sharing. It has a lot to do with the personalities too. My mother is just one great person who sacrificed everything so that me and my siblings could have both parents when growing up.Both my parents are wonderful people but they are from two different planets. No I cannot imagine not having either of my parents while growing up.

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  Klein2 at 11:17 PM JST - 16th October

  asianyetgaijin....

  I have seen it all. I have felt strongly both ways. My mother and father divorced over what seems now to be a pretty trivial set of circumstances, with no fighting and mutual respect. Each went on to have a happy life, eventually, but my mother got involved with some... hmm... less than perfect people with problems that got worse over time.

  My bias now is to think that nobody is going to care for kids as much as their parents will, and parents have a responsibility to their kids. People have to live with their decisions and row their own boat, so to speak. "Keeping it together until the kids turn 18" has gotten a really bad rap from the ME generation, but how is it different from other sacrifices that people make for the welfare of loved ones? Children deserve to have PARENTS (not just parent) and children deserve that sacrifice from both parents, if that is what it takes.

  People marry unstable people, have unrealistic expectations, lack humility, and cannot pay attention. Then they wonder why a court cannot solve their problems. To paraphrase REIKIZEN--"Buy in haste, repent at liesure." And kids always pay a price.

  This whole Savoie family is messed up permanently. It sounds like others who are posting have reached much more mature solutions given this environment. Congratulations. I doubt a "better" legal environment would have helped most of you because you are mature enough, and circumspect enough, that you did not need it.

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  amerijap at 12:16 AM JST - 17th October

  Tokyo has argued that signing the convention may not protect Japanese women and their children from abusive foreign husbands

  This well explains the reason why even foreign husbands living in Japan will lose the right for child custody when they lose their Japanese wives. This gives us nothing but the idea of demonizing tactic that suggests foreign husbands are dangerous than Japanese even some males, because they are highly vulnerable to temper tantrum. It's simply begging the question. It's not just the lack of Japanese family law's flexibility or compatibility with international law. The gap between the Japanese family law and the Hague Convention is deeply rooted in cultural understanding on family and child-rearing.

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  amerijap at 12:20 AM JST - 17th October

  Japanese even some males

  I meant Japanese males(even in comparison to some "abusive" males).

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  nigelboy at 12:44 AM JST - 17th October

  Tokyo has argued that signing the convention may not protect Japanese women and their children from abusive foreign husbands

  The above statement has been used repeatedly by western media but the actual position I witnessed on the Japanese sites are that of basic polilcy of "民事不介入”　which is "non-intervention of courts".

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  flyingfish at 05:35 AM JST - 17th October

  as i posted initially on this,its clear that there was no legal reason to arrest him.if hed been ethnic japanese then they never would have stopped him taking his own children. only bit of good news is it seems clear that j gov will not do anything against dual nationals..

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  bcbrownboy at 07:06 AM JST - 17th October

  Of ALL the individuals involved in this scenario, Mr. Savoie is the only one who should not be charged with a crime. ALL the others should be charged with at complicity to abduct children, at the minimum.

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  sfjp330 at 07:18 AM JST - 17th October

  The Japanese authorities should send Ms. Noriko to Tennessee to face the charges of abduction. She is still a wanted fujitive living in Japan until she clears the matter with the U.S. court.

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  kinniku at 10:43 AM JST - 17th October

  "民事不介入”　which is "non-intervention of courts".

  Probably better or more clearly translated as 'non-intervention of criminal courts and the police in civil affairs. It was basically set up to prevent the police from invading people's privacy although their have been problems in the past with this being used as a reason the police could not to get involved in things such as domestic violence cases etc.

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  michaelqtodd at 05:36 PM JST - 17th October

  @Cicada Thanks. I do not dwell on the past or feel any bitterness.I have unconditional love for my daughters mother and as you say my best path is to forge a relationship with her. After some contemplation of this I believe that the J cops have done well. Christopher is released but still under investigation.Japan thus avoids a confrontational situation without having to agree that what he did was OK. Basically they have just swept the whole thing under the table and will be hoping that he never tries to return.If he doesnt they can close their file.Kids however particlarly Isaac,8 will remember this each time they walk down that road to school

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  JACKY1289 at 10:48 PM JST - 17th October

  I believe that not only foreign fathers, but also japanese fathers are waiting until the law changes to have a legal right to access to their lovely children. Mothers have to realize that children need both parents. How can mothers make children by themselves? Because of the bad economy in japan if the father cannot bring more than 50man per month, or if the mother found someone who can give everything she needs, or if the family members in japan don't like the foreign fathers still if mothers say that fathers abuse children, no matter how much children love the father. Eventhough if it is a lie japan courts believe the abusive mothers and give the children rights only to mothers. Mothers start to receive Govt. support as a single mom and to overcome the stress without a guy mothers keep on taking children to pachinko and sacrifice Govt money to pachinko. When nothing works well finally mothers kill their own children. Before thinking about japanese abusive mothers Japanese Govt please think about children who face the future of japan. If Single abusive mothers abuse these fatherless children you japan will have no enough rooms in prison to put these future criminals.

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  tkoind2 at 01:28 PM JST - 19th October

  Japan should be ashamed of this situation. The laws here are backwards and outdated and Japan should stop hiding behind idiotic claims and sign the agreement.

  Until then any foreign parent is in danger of having their own flesh and blood snatched away from them by selfish Japanese parents who seem to care nothing for the well being of their children and instead make decisions for their own egocentric idiocy.

  Japan should fix this without delay.

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  Youdontknow at 01:48 AM JST - 20th October

  They state that the law is in place to stop kids being kept by 'abusive husbands' (should be 'fathers'). But what the law fails to do in protecting these kids, is realise that some mothers are abusive too!! But no, Japan believes that that is not important, only foreign parents are 'abusive', therefore the abducting Japanese parent has a safe haven when they return to Japan.

  Japan needs to change this ruling and give up these fugitives to the respective countries.

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  bdiego at 07:51 AM JST - 20th October

  Obviously the law isn't there trying to stop abuse by husbands. That's because the law applies to all husbands. If the mother is abusive, she will still get custody the vast majority of the time. And it's moot anyways considering we're talking about visitation rights, not abuse.

  What's sad is most of this is really about beaurocracy because most Japanese feel this is a problem too.

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  butterfly1 at 08:57 AM JST - 22nd October

  Mr. Savoie is back in the states and there is an interview with CNN on their homepage he did after he returned...

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