Do you think women are more selective than men when it comes to who they choose to date?

Wednesday 07th October, 04:35 AM JST

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bamboohat at 11:24 AM JST - 8th October

NO. they just take more time, and use a different strategy.

A man will look into a crowd of women and within a second choose the 5 or 5% that qualify.

For a woman, it might take a couple conversations and a few dates to whittle down the choices. But the percentages are the same. 5 or 6% are datable, and the rest aren't.
Patrick Smash at 01:20 PM JST - 8th October

No, women tend to go for complete arseholes like me. Or is that being selective from a certain point of view?
jojonds at 01:32 PM JST - 8th October

japaanese women are easy. they would date anybody. all you have to do is turn up.
Foxie at 01:35 PM JST - 8th October

I think when posters replied NO or NOT IN JAPAN, I think they are forgetting the fact that they are also non-J women living here too. Me and my gaijin women friends here in Japan are certainly selective about men, though they are limited stock of them for us. Still we won't date the men for the sake of dating....:)

Really, I am shocked you think that way. I am a non-J woman too and i am surely not dating a Japanese man because of his nice car. His nice character came first in my choice.
Jizzeez at 02:53 PM JST - 8th October

Having too long a checklist is obviously a problem. Some people are pickier than others. I had a first date where the woman turned up with visible dandruff in her hair and another who obviously didn't shave her legs.

These were non-starters for me, but maybe other guys wouldn't have been bothered. Judging people by looks is wrong but everyone needs to make an effort. I always put my best clothes on, have a shave, shower and wash my hair. I can't help it if someone doesn't like my looks but I think I have more chance of a second date if I at least try and tart myself up a bit!
blvtzpk at 03:35 PM JST - 8th October

and another who obviously didn't shave her legs.

Outrageous! The gall of the woman! ;)
Ah_so at 10:02 PM JST - 8th October

Pulse: check Backbone: check Drunk: check

That's a green light - all systems go!!!
stealth_one at 11:32 PM JST - 8th October

In Japan,women are obsessed.He has to have a "decent" job,good income,not a first son in many cases,gentle,do it all type and have a full head of hair. There are more but its a pain.But when I say to them,if the guy has everything you want,what can you give him? I hear "my heart" or "I will look after the house." If a guy has to trade away his singledom for that,its hardly a win win.
XXXXX at 12:47 AM JST - 9th October

Sure, why do you think there are more women available than men?
flatearther at 03:12 AM JST - 9th October

Yes, Captain Obvious, women are more selective. At least the women I know are, for good reason.
bdiego at 06:53 AM JST - 9th October

Yes and they should be. Agree with Captain Obvious.

stealth: You've been reading too many old books and not leaving the house.
stealth_one at 08:41 AM JST - 9th October

bdiego:No, it is the benefit of being self employed and hearing it from the horse's mouth time and time again.
saeiry at 03:11 PM JST - 9th October

Definetly, YES. Men would just date anyone.
bobbafett at 06:11 PM JST - 9th October

YES. Men would just date anyone.

I didn't go on a date for 1 year because I did not meet anyone I considered worth the hassle. Women want my money and the status I can give them in front of their peers. Most women here are users and takers.

I never met one here who could give something back as stealth_one pointed out and because I don't think with my little head I don't cave in to the many succubi slithering about the place.
genkipilot at 10:48 AM JST - 12th October

men don t choose....men get lucky.

it s a myth that guys will go out and pick up women, they have been chosen by her.