How do you feel about workplace romances?

Monday 23rd June, 04:35 AM JST

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Triumvere at 03:34 PM JST - 23rd June

Highly risky, but potentially rewarding.
GW at 03:34 PM JST - 23rd June

not so much now but it is really common for men & woman to meet at work, half the oyajis of the office I associate with are all married to women they met at the office, heck that is why many companies hire women so they can get their salary boys married off.

This "system" seems much less prevalent than in the early 90s, I think more & more women are just not satisfied with the slim office pickens these days.
yurichan at 03:57 PM JST - 23rd June

fine by me
Youdontknow at 04:10 PM JST - 23rd June

In England, I got involved with a beautiful woman I worked with. We tried to keep our relationship a secret but everyone soon found out. THAT wasn't a problem.

The problem came when we broke up several months later, all because another female colleague said something that wasn't true, about me. My girlfriend never even gave me the chance to sort things out and tell her the truth (looking back, I realise how much better off I am without her anyway). I had to walk past her desk every day to get to mine at the back of the office. It was one of the most heart wrenching experiences of my [love]life! She wouldn't speak to me at all and it just made everything so difficult. My work started to suffer, as did hers, and eventually she left.

Several months went by and she came to a party our office had organised. I was actually terrified of seeing her - out of sight, out of mind and all that - but we ended up going home together that night. However, it did not end well and our last words to each other were rather...ahem...bitter.

Then I came to Japan and met my wife.

Can workplace romances work? I think they can, but in my opinion it's never a good idea to get involved with someone at work.

When I worked Summer Camp USA in 1996, we had a motto "Don't Screw The Crew!" - best summer of my life!
2020hindsight at 06:03 PM JST - 23rd June

I've seen it work with people in the same department. But that does take some work, and the participants have to be sensible. My recomendation is a different department where you're not likely to meet during the work day. I've done it before and I'm in the same situation at the moment. It can have potential to be distasterous, though.
wilbur at 06:50 PM JST - 23rd June

don't dip your pen in company ink
ToughGuyBanker at 07:38 PM JST - 23rd June

Romance doesn't matter anyway. If you're gettin' some, who cares where it comes from? Make sure you make no promises and owe them nothing. Make sure they have taxi fare home. My place ain't no hotel. Go home when I'm done.
KitsuneYoukai at 02:20 AM JST - 24th June

Don't do it. That's my motto! Don't need the gossip and trouble, or someone questioning my integrity. They hardly last anyway from what I have seen. That's when the gossip and discomfort of having to see and deal with them on a daily basis begins.
motytrah at 02:40 AM JST - 24th June

In the US the motto is "Never fish off the Company Dock". I've wondered how that works in Japan given the number of woman who aren't on a career track. At least compared to the west.
rajakumar at 06:38 AM JST - 24th June

Workplaces romances, is not my business. They people involved, have to handle gossips. The gossips, may be taken notice by top management. Top management can fire employees, for workplace romances.
VOR at 07:02 AM JST - 24th June

Are you all nuts. Get it where ever and as often as you can. Don't let the job get in the way.
KyouNoNippon at 09:35 AM JST - 24th June

When I worked Summer Camp USA in 1996, we had a motto "Don't Screw The Crew!" - best summer of my life!

So you did screw the crew?
moonbeams at 12:36 PM JST - 24th June

Fine, but having two consecutive relationships from the same place is a bad idea..
carlosgodoy1 at 02:26 PM JST - 27th June

I, for one, am completely in love with my job.
whyamiinjapan at 12:22 PM JST - 2nd July

Like a pig in a poke, it's in the bag, baby. Or is it like poking a pig? I can't remember. Anyway, I think two women would be the safest bet, followed by a man and a woman, followed by two men. All these people following each other around. Actually, animals would be safest. They can't talk and don't seem to get jealous. Except for this sheep I once knew . . .