Monogamy vs a bit on the side: What makes a person promiscuous?

Friday 26th December, 01:00 AM JST

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Azrael at 04:50 AM JST - 27th December

Go Mrs. Cleo! I support you ~^0^~

Monogamy is indeed for grown-ups. People can be past 59 years old and yet, still a teenager in mind and social expertise. A grown-up is in control of his body via their mind, not viceversa.

I think the main fear of those that reject (not disagree philosophically, but rather reject it from a visceral viewpoint) are simply afraid of commitment and the HUGE responsibility it represents. Indeed, a grown-up controls his or her own actions and owns up to them. THAT is the main ugly point some people seem to reject. Their partner's health (like, STDs delivered to their door including AIDS), peace of mind, the emotional health of possible children involved... There's a lot of things, not only economic duties. If a person knows themselves promiscuous off the bat, they ought not to get into a compromise with someone who hopes for something "meant to be" aka, stable and lasting.

Indeed, like Mrs. Cleo pointed out, if monogamy is not even in a person's plans, they ought not to get into a "committed" relationship like marriage or civil union, if they know from the start they will not honor the vows they are taking. It'd be responsible, even.
buttamimi at 08:33 AM JST - 27th December

A bit on the side is nothing new. Apparently, Prince Charles had more than one bit on the side. President Clinton, infamously, had a bit on the side. The late president of France, Mitterand, had an illigitimate child with a bit on the side. In fact, it seems less than normal not to have a bit on the side. I suspect that President Bush may be an excepttion to the norm.
helloklitty at 08:55 AM JST - 27th December

Old saying: A monogamous man is like a bear on a bicycle. It can be done, but the bear would much rather be running around in the forest.
helloklitty at 09:14 AM JST - 27th December

I always let a lass know up front that no one woman can satisfy me, and that the relationship will probably end due to my cheating. So let's just have some fun for a few months.

And then she says, "Just leave the money on the dresser."
flammenwerfer at 09:39 AM JST - 27th December

If two people stand in front of the altar or the registrar or wherever and vow to build an exclusive relationship, what's unfair about expecting them to do just what they vowed to do? Why is is selfish to expect a person to respect the promises they made? If people don't want to have that responsibility, they don't have to take the vows.

In Japan there is no altar, no vows: thats optional tacky stuff with a fake gaijin priest. Marriage is reduced to its basic civil union - a contract. You sign on the dotted line hand it in at the city office and youre done - its binding. If you want to make the whole vow thing, go ahead. If you don't have a common agreement of what is expected from eachother then why get married in the first place? You don't need vows to do that.
goodDonkey at 10:15 AM JST - 27th December

Infants have their infancy. And adults have their Adultery.
meiwaku at 10:29 AM JST - 27th December

There has to by some gamy to mono or men will run as quick as they can to the nearest hen house.
meiwaku at 10:30 AM JST - 27th December

hellokitty. excellent proverb!
Nessie at 11:28 AM JST - 27th December

The bonds of matrimony weigh heavy. It takes two to lift them, sometimes, three.
Betzee at 12:12 PM JST - 27th December

I take a rather Buddhist view of men who flit from one woman to the next as stuck in some endless cycle of birth, death and rebirth.
ptolemy at 12:31 PM JST - 27th December

What makes a person permiscuous? Other promiscuous people. Welcome to an adult world where everyone like to get their freak on. Just because you say "I do" to one person doesn't mean you say "I don't" to others.
helloklitty at 01:13 AM JST - 29th December

The question should be, "What makes a person monogamous?"
hakujinsensei at 10:20 AM JST - 30th December

Whats with all the need to own your partner? I can't stand horomon, my wife does. She goes to enjoy what she likes with people that seem to enjoy it and then comes home and shares the rest of her life with me. Sometimes I go out and play and then come home and enjoy our lives and family together. Whether someone does that with their clothes on or off is irrelevant. If you are not adult enough to have an adult relationship, then dont get married and create a personal hell for you and the person you claim to love. Now before you get too high n mighty with me, remember that David, the man that God loved, Gods annointed had many wives and concubines and his father, also annointed had a thousand concubines... God is far more concerned what you do outside of the hotel rather than what you do inside.

A gaijin but ordained pastor
PuffinMuffin at 03:21 PM JST - 30th December

What makes a person promiscuous?

Society and morality. Those or rather, the person him/herself.
BlackFlag at 03:29 PM JST - 30th December

if only all christians were as lenient as god, or even better pastor hakujinhsensei. adultery is ok and women have sex to further their position financially or emotionally! hallelujah!