What advantages does married life offer in an era of increasing divorce rates?

Friday 09th May, 06:00 AM JST

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Farmboy at 09:20 PM JST - 9th May

These days, being married for thirty or forty years has become so unusual that it is seen as quaint and interesting...especially if you're still enjoying your life.
cleo at 11:12 PM JST - 9th May

Gosh, less than two years to go and I'll be quaint and interesting!
romulus3 at 11:22 PM JST - 9th May

romulus got married and enjoyed a very amicable divorce. Now I get along better with my ex wife than before. Really strange that. shes a good mate but made a shocking wife. however she is a great mum and thinks I am a great dad to our kid. probably thinks I made a shocking husband. now we have family outings and enjoy them. really weird. well we stay real close and work together for our childs happiness but the hell with being chained to each other forever. we thought that a joke and gave it up.
zurcronium at 12:19 AM JST - 10th May

being in a relationship that is committed and having kids is fundamental to life itself. Marraige is the package we use for this experience. Sure it does not always work but not getting married to avoid divorce is like not eating for fear of pinching a loaf sometime later.

Its a good thing when it works. Kids make parents better humans. Take it from someone who was single quite a while, and enjoyed it, before I got married and had kids. Life is better now along many dimensions.
Rizvi at 04:37 AM JST - 10th May

Good wife is a paradise in the mortal world. Severe problems becomes void by sharing with good wife. All successful men have background either by loving mother or faithful wife. But patience is a prerequisite.
Everton2 at 08:05 AM JST - 10th May

Marry a beautiful and rich woman and see how much better a husband you can be
illsayit at 08:42 AM JST - 10th May

Obviously this question cannot be commented on by people who are not married, cause they wouldnt know.Even the watching of parents who have fallen apart is no example, because most married couples would be able to see where they have gone wrong, as the child can.

Marriage's advantage is that it will save the world. How can the world get along, if we cant even get along in marriage? I dont think it is possible.

Children are an expression of that love; it is not a good idea to endorse the idea that children are property of the mother and father. Why do couples who cant have children, yearn for, or cry over not being able to? Children, also tests our faith in the world, and our ability to be able to get along.

Marry into love and you will see how beautiful and rich you can be, until then, You Will Not Know.
Triple888 at 10:12 AM JST - 10th May

Strange question. How does being married compared with divorce rates? Don't make sense.
Everton2 at 11:14 AM JST - 10th May

Children are not an expression of our love in marriage. Research has shown that marriage and subsequent procreation has more to do with ego and mortality acceptance. To create a likeness of ourself that will furnish some continuity for our often short and arguably miserable lives. Whats love got to do with it , nothing! This notion about expressing love is often confused with our natural instinct to simply have sex. Marriage offers sex on tap basically. I am convinced that divorce has more to with how we come together as partners. In some traditional societies or sexually repressed societies marriage partners are simply chosen by the parents. The two people getting married simply have nothing to do with the decision to do so. For whatever reason these marriages seem to last much longer than in other societies. And even after moving to the West with all its influences these unions continue to survive. Perhaps we could learn something there.
WMD at 02:30 PM JST - 10th May

Regular sex for sure, unless you're a japanese salaryman of course where you lover is your company.
keech2 at 06:42 PM JST - 10th May

Romulus

Great job on the divorce and finding a way to make a new and difficult stage in a relationship work for all. I mean that seriously. I've always found it unbelievable how horrible people can be to each other during a divorce, especially when children are involved. You and your ex-wife's attitudes are fantastic. I'm happy for you, your ex-wife and your child.
Betting at 11:33 AM JST - 11th May

I'm not particualarly for or against marriage, but most people here seem to have a pretty negative opinions of the "institution". True, in most countries divorce is on the rise, but does that make marriage a bad thing? I think the cause of this is that most people marry for the wrong reasons. A lot of girls I know here in Japan just want to marry, just because they want to marry, which seems kind of silly to me (even my sister back home always used to talk constantly about getting married just because she wanted to). I can hardly imagine many of those marriages being happy and healthy in the long run. I think that kind of marriage is good for making kids, but little else, it won't provide much else for the husband and wife.
Sarge at 11:35 AM JST - 11th May

"increasing divorce rates"

This may not be a bad thing. It means fewer people are staying in bad marriages.
Betting at 12:28 PM JST - 11th May

Actually, I think I did a "Hilary" and mispoke myself. In many countries divorce is rising, not necessarily most countries.

"... fewer people staying in bad marriages", and that is not a bad thing is it. If we can terminate an unsatisfactory business or political agreement, we should be able to freely do that same with marriage.
1keiron at 06:54 AM JST - 12th May

Its abit of stupid question really, infact it makes zero sense..Marrige is not about stats/rates and comparing with divorcees