What are the biggest mistakes single men or women make on their first date which usually torpedo any chance of a relationship?
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some14some
Men: asking for sexual favor, women: asking for expensive gift.
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NICOLE77
men; not asking any questions...
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smartacus
I'd say that men, probably more than women, do not try to be themselves. They go for image management too much, saying and doing what they think their date will like. Just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may.
Some men also talk to much. Listen to your date and don't talk about yourself.
Talking about past relationships is another torpedo, I think.
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TabbyR
Being silent. There is nothing more annoying than having a one sided conversation because the guy/girl is nervous. And bringing up your bad history on the first date. Unless you are talking about something that relates to the past, don't overwhelm the person on the first date with information!
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rjd_jr
Being too eager is number one turnoff, like asking for a date while still on the first one. Also showing off and bragging is a big no no, but still being too needy or clingy is numero uno turn off.
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papasmurfinjapan
burping at the dinner table. farting in bed (if they get that far on the first date)
and for me the biggest turn off is
checking their phone/answering calls from friends during our date.
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serindipity
Asking if her if she has sex on first date and if her father owns a brewery .
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Altria
Not putting out. It's amazing how many people make this simple mistake.
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timorborder
In the case of men, there are a couple of mistakes. One is taking out their false teeth and rinsing them in the complimentary glass of water after a good meal. Another is blowing their nose using a hankerchief and then examining the results like the Oracle of Delphi.
In the case of women, I would have to say taking out their colored contact lenses and sucking on them to get them clean. The other big mistake is mistakenly drinking the water that a man has used to rinse his false teeth.
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beowulf
For men it is very simple, desperation, it will kill your chances. Women have to do a lot wrong not to get a second chance.
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Addicted
From experience, showing how spoiled he/she is
example: Expects people to pay for her. Takes things for granted.
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nandakandamanda
Garlic breath.
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greensatindress
When the man makes the woman pay her share or worse pay for all because he "oops" forgot his wallet, forgot to go to the ATM, had his money conveniently stolen etc... Also, talk of ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend.
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blaze524
Timorborder: that was great post; I couldn't stop laughing.
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blvtzpk
timorborder: Beat me to the punch! However, I was going to say 'blowing one's nose on the tablecloth' which I have heard of happening.
Anyhow, some first date faux pas:
Having serious wipe down with the oshibori at the dinner table.
Sucking and slurping up your food with your head down in the plate.
Forgetting to do a 'safety flush' upon visiting datee's abode.
Digging out the contents of your nose and examining them.
Passing wind, audibly OR inaudibly, at either end.
Scratching oneself, audibly OR inaudibly, at either end.
NB: These points apply equally to the gentlemen in the audience.
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williamsmith
Smoking.
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Taka313
I'd go with showing your date your severed head collection. Not that I have one. I just have a list. KIDDING!!!
Taka
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JeromeInJapan
FARTING!!!
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knucklerap
Dinner? On the first date? Too boring. A drink is enough. If you do have dinner, share your dessert.
I always tell her how good she looks. You can't fail with that.
I almost never kiss on the first date (unless she's a sleaze), but I hope she'll be imagining what it's going to be like the next time so I always keep my lips unchapped and my hands and nails really clean and nice smelling.
Always wave with two hands (elbows in, hands close to the face) when saying goodnight.
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timeon
blvtzpk, I think you just described the perfect Japanese ikemen
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usaexpat
women: talking about marriage or children Men: talking about ex-girlfriends
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ca1ic0cat
guys, what ever else you do or don't do put on a decent and polished pair of shoes. Strange, but true...
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KitsuneYoukai
Not letting each other know how they really feel. When you don't express it how is the other person to know that you really like her or him? Also, talking about exes.
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adaydream
Being impolite to their date or people they encounter on this first date. < :-)
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Azrael
I agree with cal1c0cat. Worn-down shoes on a date make a man look... bad. In fact, that detail makes them look unsuccessful (not as bad as LOSER, but just unsuccessful).
There is not such thing as a "rule" or "standard" of bad things to do - well, there's all ranges of taste out there concerning people. However one thing that makes the "run for your life" alarm is, if the guy deals with the service (waiters, clerks, guides, etc.) with contempt. Excess of arrogance towards subordinates is a trait of abusers.
If the guy asks to borrow money from you, that is also an alarm-ringer.
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noborito
women asking about salary's. Funky teeth (for blind dates) by funky I mean, extra fangs that jab their way out of the girls mouth.
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shmave
I was thinking the same. That and B.O.!!! If you can smell him/her with "hello," chances of taking that attention away throughout the date is going to be difficult.
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Youdontknow
The biggest mistake is simply having greater expectations that the first date will lead somewhere else that night...ie, the sack! Treat your date like you would a cherished family member and ALWAYS ALWAYS be YOURSELF!! Because if things do work out between you, and you later stop being the person you were on your first date, there's a very likely chance that you'll head for a break up sooner or later.
Just relax, have fun and don't thing you're getting your leg over that night! (This goes for women too!)
If however, you're both looking for nothing more than a quick one nighter, then forget about the drinks and dinner, okay, maybe a few drinks might help, hit the covenie and get a packet of 3 and enjoy!
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Spidey
Too much tongue...
Talking about the ex.
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keshii
Being impolite to other people, like the waitress, etc, on a date. It's a clue to how they'll treat you later!
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blvtzpk
A guy talking his mum...oo-er!
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romulus3
nothing worse than when a woman gets drunk and throws up on the train between bars. nothing is ever worse than that. nothing.
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Farmboy
Some people attempt to talk.
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helloklitty
Is this true of the Japanese? Here, they barely acknowledge the existence of the waitress. There's no, "Thanks Hon, really appreciate the water," that you'd hear in the U.S. Still, they can become excellent mates - my wife for example.
I no longer use that yardstick.
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Sarge
Man: Hey, baby, where have you been all my life?
Woman: Well, for the first half, I wasn't even born.
Spidey - Could you tell us more about your ex?
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vonion
men: going to the rest room and leaving the site through backdoor without paying women: paying meals for the two with unhappy face
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tokyotom
not enuf acohol
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kirakira25
I had a first date once who talked about how he felt Hitler may actually have been misunderstood. My feet didn
t touch the ground as I ran out the door. Anotehr one - spent the night patting the guy on the shoulder as he cried into his pint about his ex. Another major no-no. Beyond that, talk to my face, not the twins, ask me questions, and dont be needy. No-one wants to feel like the music has stopped and the ball has landed on them so they`ll do.Back to top