What are your views on relationships in which one partner is at least 20 years older than the other?

Saturday 12th September, 03:47 AM JST

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onewrldoneppl at 10:00 PM JST - 13th September

i don't hate. i congratulate.
johnnyreb at 10:43 PM JST - 13th September

i hope to have one in 20 years.
Azrael at 11:43 PM JST - 13th September

In Spanish we call them robacunas (cradde-robber), viejo verde (basically, old pervert, mainly for guys) and chiquillona (old woman + way too younger man, aka sugar-mommy). Gigolo stands for young men pairing up with old women for money, but that originally is an Italian word.

I think such a large difference (as in 20 years, a considerable generation gap) is questionable, but as long as both are grown adults, there is not coercion, extortion, psychological pressure (such as the younger one seeking a parental figure they can sleep with) or a try on inheriting from an elderly person who is not completely aware of herself/himself, to each their own and good luck.
nisegaijin at 09:15 AM JST - 14th September

who am i to judge? if they enjoy each other, God bless them.
ratpack at 10:02 AM JST - 14th September

Wow...high five for me if i am the older one. My neighbour is married to a woman less than half his age (he is 54 and she is 25). I really don't understand what the attraction is for her (i certainly understand what the attraction is for him) but they seem to be happy and like i said.....high five me if i am the older one.
2020hindsight at 11:04 AM JST - 14th September

It's fine. I would say that they both get something that they wouldn't get with same age relationships, which is the reason for entering into it. It's not just one way. People wouldn't enter into such relationships if it wasn't.
Brainiac at 11:11 AM JST - 14th September

It's fine as long as the older partner is healthy. But once he (or she) starts to suffer illnesses in his/her 60s/70s or 80s, then the relationship deteriorates because the younger partner, who is still in the prime of life, is usually unwilling to become a caregiver or nursemaid.
smartacus at 11:13 AM JST - 14th September

There seems to be more acceptance and less of a tendency to be judgmental when it is an older man with a younger woman than there is when it is the other way around. I wonder why that is.
sk4ek at 11:17 AM JST - 14th September

Good luck!
Klein2 at 11:58 AM JST - 14th September

If I marry a woman, divorce her, and she marries my son, I can avoid inheritance taxes when I die, right? Sweet.
Wakarimasen at 01:43 PM JST - 14th September

See more of this inj Japan than in most European countries. Almost exclusively the men are older. Because have money? Cleverer? Genetics? Or maybe because J men around same age as the woman are likely to be childish, spoiled and no fun.
TSRnow at 01:54 PM JST - 14th September

20 is OK, I guess....

But I wouldn't have my child marrying someone older than me! Sorry, but I'm being real honest here...
pawatan at 02:18 PM JST - 14th September

I don't see a problem with it, though I would only want a partner close-ish to my age. Maybe a fling with a younger person but not any sort of lasting relationship. It's too hard to find common ground when the age gap is too large.

But that's just my personal opinion. I have no problem with others dating/marrying those of a radically different age.
XXXXX at 03:36 PM JST - 14th September

12yrs, been there, done that. 20? hmmm it depends.
abromofo at 06:19 PM JST - 14th September

By the time people are over about 30, it's not a big deal in my opinion. However when a male is significantly younger than the female, it's an evolutionary anomaly. That is to say, it doesn't put your offspring in the best competitive position.