New book on dating blames the numbers - not the women

@Burning Bush

And women get free sex, too.

I'm sure that would be the feminist opinion

Sounds like a fun read but would be interested to find out the sex ratios in specific fields. A good data point would be the stem subjects like math and physical sciences. As far as the other fields a ratio data from medicine, economics, legal areas, and teaching degrees. The ratio could be ranked by percentage of women attaining basic degrees in these subjects although graduate level degree might be even more unusual.

His book sounds like it touches on a couple of important points but really does its damnedest to deflect all blame away from women's specific behavioral traits.

The reality is that college-educated women who are really only willing to date college-educated men are in a really bad >dating market.

Because women largely refuse to "date down" socially and economically. Men will happily date a woman of lower status if she's sufficiently attractive, the sex is good, she's not annoying, etc.... A woman who works on Wall Street would never give Joe who works at Gamestop a second glance. So raising the economic status of women, which has been a major objective of feminism, has also served to seriously restrict the dating pool for them.

I just know a lot of single women, really wonderful, smart — they’re good company — attractive women in their 30s >and 40s who share with me various woes of their single lives,

I bet if you dug into these women's dating histories in gory detail, you would find an ENDLESS stream of decent-quality potential suitors that they ignored. Women are always "shooting for the moon", searching for their Prince Charming, and it's easy for them to do that in their 20's when they are receiving sexual interest from the entire male population aged 15-50. It's also easy for them to turn down less-than-perfect men because they no longer have an economic incentive to get married as soon as possible. Then they hit 30-35 and realize they are now the dating equivalent of a used car with a bad transmission, and nobody wants them anymore.

I know a young woman who fell in love with her first sex partner @ the age of 20, and has been in a serious relationship with him ever since (~4 years). So every time I hear a 35 year old say she's looking for "the love of my life", I just wanna say "Why didn't you find him 10-15 years ago? You're 35. Your life is already over. Maybe you shouldn't have listened to all those feminists who brainwashed you about sexual liberation and being career-minded and women's empowerment, not realizing that you were sinking your own chances at long-term happiness in the process?"

All that vaunted college education and still too stupid to find love. Personally I love watching the sort of psychological stresses the "leftover women" go through. Karma for the men they probably manipulated and psychologically abused when younger.

Women have always had it for free.

There's this thing. It's called pregnancy. Sometimes there's sex that results in pregnancy and then the guy's like, "Are you sure it's mine? I don't see why I have to pay any money to support you or have this problem taken care of."

There's also this thing a current political candidate or one of his advisors says and is kind of an idea women have had to deal with for centuries, and that's they could say no to their husbands and the husbands could still force them and that wouldn't count as rape because a wife has no right of refusal. Kind of weird that concept didn't go away with the dawning of the Age of Reason three hundred years ago, but there you have it.

Must have been great to be a woman before feminism and get all that free sex, huh?

But men used to have to work for it.

There used to be something called courting, whereby the man would buy the woman gifts, several dinners and shower her with praise.

Yeah, there's this other thing, too, where guys who do all that stuff then think they're entitled to be paid back with sex. And if the woman isn't forthcoming, they get really, really, really angry because she owes them for their effort, right? Otherwise, the poor guy wouldn't have spent all that time and money and effort, right?

But, yeah, by all means, blame feminism for ruining dating for women.

@Commodore Shmidlap

Yeah, there's this other thing, too, where guys who do all that stuff then think they're entitled to be paid back with sex. >And if the woman isn't forthcoming, they get really, really, really angry because she owes them for their effort, right?>Otherwise, the poor guy wouldn't have spent all that time and money and effort, right?

What would ever give you the impression that human sexuality is not fundamentally transactional in nature?

What we are seeing now is more and more men are dropping out of dating and marriage partly because women have done a consistently poor job of rewarding the men either with sex or at the very least feminine signs of appreciation. I remember females even from years ago who have prepared cookies and the like to demonstrate their interest and affection. Men appreciate stuff like that, but most women these days would rather treat men like ATM machines or weekend entertainment (because the vapid and yet highly-stressed female LOVES to be entertained) instead of kings worthy of offerings.

There's only so many times where a man will get screwed over by a serial first-dater (chicks who go on 1st dates with men just to get free dinners, with NO romantic intentions whatsoever) before men simply decide their lives are better off playing videos and watching Internet porn.

Western women in particular are failing to incentivize men sufficiently to either lock them down for a long-term relationship or at least keep them in the dating market. Beta males, who face high obstacles to dating and sex, are making an entirely rational, utility-maximizing decision about how to enjoy their scarce resources, which seems to boil down to "share neither your time nor your money with the human female".

http://captaincapitalism.blogspot.jp/2008/10/yes-men-do-leave-market.html

http://www.breitbart.com/london/2014/12/04/the-sexodus-part-1-the-men-giving-up-on-women-and-checking-out-of-society/