I'm happy not to fit typical Japanese mold
TOKYO —
In 2005, Taro Aso, one of Japan`s former prime ministers, said that Japan is “one nation, one civilization, one language, one culture, and one race, the like of which there is no other on this earth.”
His comment sparked outrage because he failed to note that Japan is made up of my different groups such as the Ainu, an ethnic minority found mostly in Hokkaido that is indigenous to Japan; ethnic Koreans who were brought to Japan as foreign laborers during WWII; Chinese and other foreign residents; and so on. The idea that Japan is a homogeneous country also ignores the fact that there are increasing numbers of half-Japanese people due to globalization.
I was born to a Japanese mother and an American father who was in the U.S. military. Most of my life was spent between Japan and the United States, so I grew up in both cultures. For example, I ate Japanese dishes such as tonkatsu and miso soup for dinner and chocolate brownies for dessert and was accustomed to hearing both English and Japanese being spoken at home.
Despite that, I never gave much thought to the fact that I was half-Japanese. Back then, it didn`t matter to me, and I naively thought that everyone else lived the same way that I did.
It was only until I moved back to Japan five and a half years ago and began attending a Japanese middle school that I put much thought into my ethnicity and upbringing. The diversity that had characterized my classroom in the United States was replaced by a sea of Japanese faces. I was the only one out of a school of 300 people who had ever been abroad, and everyone was curious about the transfer student from the United States. One day a male classmate asked me about my nationality. I told him that I was Japanese, and he answered, “No you`re not, and you`ll never be one.”
That was the beginning of an identity crisis that lasted throughout my middle and high school years.
My mother had always firmly told me that I was both Japanese and American and that “other Japanese people were going to have to get used to the fact that Japan was becoming more diverse whether they liked it or not.” That still didn`t stop me from doubting that I was Japanese whenever someone brought attention to my appearance. I may have had Japanese citizenship, but I didn`t know the conditions that made one Japanese? Was it citizenship? Ethnicity? An ability to speak the Japanese language or navigate oneself through Japanese culture?
In high school I met other people who asked themselves the same questions. Some, like me, were half-Japanese. Others were people who looked Japanese and were born in Japan, but spent most of their lives in other countries such as the United States or Canada and found it difficult to identify with Japan. There were also ethnic Koreans who were born and raised in Japan and spoke Japanese as their mother tongue. As a result, many of them felt more Japanese than Korean.
From that I realized that defining Japanese, or any other nationality for that matter, is not that easy. If you try to define Japanese as Aso did, you`ll not only come off as being a racist, but you`ll also ignore so many other different groups of people who deserve to be called Japanese just as much. Moreover, each person has his own way of defining himself. Some people believe that in order to be Japanese, you must have Japanese blood. Others think that you must be able to speak Japanese fluently, and still others believe that having Japanese nationality is a requirement for being Japanese. However, what is most important is how you define yourself.
I may not fit the typical Japanese mold, but that`s fine with me. I`m perfectly happy being the bridge between two different cultures, because that`s what makes me me. That still doesn`t mean that I`m not Japanese. I consider myself just as Japanese as American. Turning my back on one country would be like letting go of a big chunk of my identity: impossible.
Contrary to what many people believe, Japan is a diverse country, and will become increasingly more so if more foreign workers are allowed in. Some of these workers will integrate into Japanese society and others may marry Japanese nationals and have children. To sum it up, there will be even more people who cannot fit the typical Japanese mold that politicians such as Aso describe. That is something that Japan will have to realize and accept.





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Smorkian
Great article.
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Christina O'Neill
There are many languages and many different cultural backgrounds, but only one human race. Aso is obviously displaying his ignorance in genetic studies. Better to be thought a fool then to open his mouth and confirm it
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OrangeW3dge
Aso was just, an aso. I don' think you can seriously take anything he said as philosophical or wise. He's the one who said women are just good for making babies. From my experience here and abroad, Japanese are every bit as diverse as any other nationality, and perhaps, a bit more. We had this discussion on multi-culturalism a while ago and I beg the view that modern society in Japan is as diverse and, if you will, multi-cultural as the greatly revered "America". Certainly as much as UK. The British are "one" people up until you get into the big city, and that tends to be tru here as well. The United States for all of their claims to be diverse tends to force homogeneity on it's residents with their "English" language and puritanical Christianity public moral. Japan has Shinto and Buddhism side by side. The majority of people, if you bothered to check, came from distinctly different races (Chinese, Korean, Indian, Mongolian...), and although much has "blended" many of these origins still stick out. People talk differently, walk differently, wash differently, so Aso-san is babbling delusional geriatric diatribe of "the good old days" when children respected their elders and everything was idyllic in Grandma's garden. You don't believe me, just go down to the Mall someday and you will see that everything is not like the Edo Village anymore. And by the way, this is NOT something that "Japan" will have to accept, but what a few navel-gazers (local or foreign) will have to accept. Japan does live in the 21st Century, with the exception of some of it's inhabitants who live in the museum of their minds.
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BurakuminDes
Really enjoyed this article - wise words from a teenager! It highlights well the myth of Japan being a mono-culture - that myth has-been old racists like Aso hold. To lie and state that Japan is "one culture, one race" basically excludes citizens like the author and the millions like her. When they are, in fact, the future of Japan.
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Greg Demmons
Sorry young lady, but your thoughtful, and fairly well-written observation and experience disqualifies you from being Japanese! Seriously, though, I feel bad that you have had to encounter this type of ignorance. But you should know that this type of ignorance exists in many areas of Asia. My wife, Canadian-Japanese from "purely" Japanese heritage, lived with me in Korea, where a woman one day decided to spit at us on the subway in Seoul, accusing her of being a whore because she was with an American soldier (I have a shaved head from my days of living in Tibet-Buddhist monastery). The woman was speaking in Korea, which I understand and speak, but my wife does not. I explained that we were Canadian, and that my wife was "ilbon saram" (Japanese). It made not difference. Now she had to save face. This is what you have and will continue to experience here. Do not despair, however, as you seem very aware of yourself and what is happening around you. Life will offer you great opportunities, so follow them, no matter where they take you!
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Doug Birbeck
i think everyone in Japan who is part foreign has their own feelings about this issue. i'm English and my wife is Japanese and we've lived here over 10 years and have 2 kids. they are both, however 100 % Japanese and 0% English. you couldn't tell my son is a 'half' by looking at him, only his christian name is English, but my daughter has fairish hair (which will save her having to dye it later on in life). we've never lived in England with the kids and indeed they have only been there for a week so far. when they are 21(?) they will have to decide which nationality to keep, which is a shame as having a UK passport may be very useful in adult life as they could live and work in any EU country. when my son was first born, i was full ofideas for teaching him about his English heritage, but now i will only tell him about my family members. if the kids are interested when they are older, they can find stuff out about England themselves. even if i had Japanese nationality, i will always be English. i feel sorry for the ethnic Koreans etc who have always lived here, but they could easily apply for Japanese nationality and anyway Japanese people don't look down on Koreans and Chinese people so much now.
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cleo
Doug, I'm interested. Why would you choose not to pass on your English heritage to your kids? My kids have never lived in England either apart from a few family visits, but I have always seen to it that they are aware of their English side and made sure that they not only speak English but understand my local accent so that that they can converse with their British rellies when they do meet. Both my kids are very visibly haaf, yet they have had no problems at all fitting in with Japanese society; they've never (to my knowledge, and I think they'd have told me) come up against the ignorant 'You'll never be real Japanese' attitude. The English side of them has only ever been an advantage, and in many instances a big advantage.
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Smorkian
"Seriously, though" does not exempt that from being an absolutely horrible thing to say. There are plenty of thoughtful, well written observations written by Japanese people including Ms Kubo's article. Isn't this the flip side of the same sort of ignorance Ms Kubo is saying she has faced as a person of mixed race in Japan? "Oh you are half, you are not Japanese" sounds an awful lot like "Japanese people can't write thoughtful observations on their lives". Both come from ignorance, and even in jest it's just not funny or appropriate.
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OrangeW3dge
"Smorkian" - OK, bud. "Doug" - Here's a little tip: teach your kids EVERYTHING, and don't leave anything out (especially the part about how Mommie met Daddy and why they fell in love and wanted to have precious little babies just like them) Because if you do it becomes harder to explain why you kept things from them. Relationships are built on TRUST, and they will lose that trust if you hide, cheat , or lie. Be a big boy yourself and own up to the truth, NOW. We have 4, two are boys from Texas (I'm sorry, I know that was a mistake) and two are girls from Hawaii (better, but still...). I am a Chicagoan (pity me) who is half German, half Dane. Their Mother is Miyagi-an. In all jest, we are an ill-sorted bunch but we love each other as much as the blue-bloods. And I would defend them to my death regardless of who their attacker may be, and without regard to race, creed, or nationality. I live here because this is my HOME, and I don't care how you label me because in the turn of the worm it may be me labeling you, you see. I have lived with red-necks in several cultures and several languages and I can tell you, first-hand, that they are all same. Happiness and prosperity, education and problem solving should take up your time, and leave the pettiness to those who are petty.
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Sasoriza
What serious, intelligent and mature article by such young lady! I haven't read such wonderful piece here on JapanToday since...very long time.
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ExportExpert
Well written article and I can relate to it through my sons experience here, but Angela needs to ease up on plowing through those romances she'll be breaking too many hearts !
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sillygirl
excellent article. all the best to angela - she will go far with her wonderful attitude. my son feels exactly the same way and now i wouldn`t want it any other way. i felt so unsure for so many years but seeing him grow up comfortable with himself and to know there are so many others out there also in tune with who they are. to the future.
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JeffLee
Taro Aso is not just another joe. He served as prime minister of Japan, and president of the then ruling party of Japan. When national leaders, former or current, make remarks about their countries, their comments are generally taken seriously.
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yabits
Beautifully written article!
Please write to us again, Angela.
P.S. (I hope that "plowing through romances" means romance novels, and not chewing the guys up and spitting them out.)
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sillygirl
@JeffLee - angela just proved (as one poster said) Aso is an "aso" and he also proved it to the world with many of his warped "ideas." i don`t think people take him very seriously.
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Angela Erika Kubo
Thank you for your feedback on the article. I`m surprised that so many people liked it.
I
m just commenting to say that when I wrote that Im "plowing my way through romances", Im just reading a lot of romance novels. Its my hobby. Dont worry, Im not hurting any men.Hope I cleared up that bit of confusion.
Thank you again!
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Smorkian
Angela, you sound like a smart woman and you're a good writer. Please do write some more interesting articles for us!
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sillygirl
i second that!!!
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dammit
But unfortunately that's exactly what you'll have to do in just a few years. Apparently that's what it means to be truly Japanese. Looking and sounding typically Japanese, and occasionally voicing an assumption that all other nationalities are sub-human scum, with the possible exception of Americans who can be idolised and scorned all at the same time, and Britons who can be admired for having a royal family (as in Imperial family) and a history, but still be a filthy bunch of rioting foreigners with nothing in common with Japanese (now that the Beckhamu is out of style.)
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Smorkian
No you don't. You have to choose one country to be a citizen, but that's just paperwork formality. Is your identity wrapped up in your passport?
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illsayit
@Orange-have an agenda you want to pull? Why dont you write something then.
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illsayit
like I think this article is cute.Id have my kids read it for encouragement of their position, but it's when people like you insist on how things ought to be done concerning this article and raising kids, I really get my hackles rising. So stating that youre German, I suppose you do teach your kids everything about how the education system there is so dictatored to, that there are Germans seeking asylum in the US because of the education system there. Making sure you tell your kids that?? I think your agenda has hit the fence.
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Back on topic please.
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laughnowcrylater
I agree with most of you this was a really good read. Seems like a hard choice to have to make if you are part Japanese. I guess some will still look down on you even if you choose to be Japanese because you still look different. just my thoughts
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Einherjar
illsayit:
link pleaze
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That won't be necessary since it is t aking the discussion off topic. Please focus your comments on the article.
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oberst
that's Japan's loss if this attitude persists.
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Mio Selena Jevons
I am half Japanese, half English myself, but I was brought up and have lived in England and therefore have a British nationality. I could relate a lot to this article, and it was great to see that others had similar experiences. I also did not think about identity or nationality during my life in England, though as my Japanese genes were stronger I look fully Asian, and it is actually since I've been living and working in Japan these past 2 years that I'd been having an identity crisis; I had been determined to prove that I am British, no matter how I look or how good my Japanese was! But your paragraph on not being able to turn your back on your 2 cultures hit me. I hope to embrace both from now on.
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Angela Erika Kubo
@Mio I
m so glad that youre choosing to embrace both cultures from now on. Its what helped me get over the crisis. You may feel confused with your identity being half-Japanese, but dont forget there are so many wonderful things that come with being bi-cultural. The most obvious is that you have a greater opportunity to learn about two cultures instead of one.0
BlueWitch
Love this article very much! 素晴らしい~ (^V^)v
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patrese
I had the opposite experience from you in that I grew up 100% Japanese but Canadian born and I lived in a small rural and a very unsophisticated city during the 60's in the wilds of Alberta. Of course, I'd have done anything to fit into the mainstream and for the most part did. I did encounter racial strife often though and was often called a "chink" even by kids I knew. To someone trying to fit in this was like a dagger.
Despite my racial differences, I was accepted into the most popular group of kids in school but even then, I did recognize that there was something different as my friends all had scads of girlfriends while I had very few. Over the years, I did move to much larger Canadian and American cities and learned to like being Japanese. I always loved Hawaii as it was the one place on earth where I was in the majority (in looks and language) but never actually lived there.
To get to the point, I married someone who was White and have had mixed kids who view the mix as a complete blessing. Both the Asian and White kids accept them fully and they've never heard even a hint of racism in their lifetimes. In fact, although this also has to do with their appearances, kids single them out in an effort to be with them. This has occurred so often that my children do not believe anyone will view them negatively. Growing up, I noticed how well received my lovely hafu cousins were and I had hoped for the same reception for my own children which in the end has occurred.
Wherever we have lived or traveled (fairly world wide), complete strangers continually stop them to tell them that they're strikingly beautiful and the like and speak so nicely to them. This continues to this day despite the fact they are now 15 and 16 and they are told this one to three times a week in my presence let alone when they are by themselves.
Perhaps, it's not an advantage where you are but you will find places where you will find your mixed heritage to be a gift just as my kids see it. Best of luck
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GW
Angela,
Like other have already said, excellent, well written, cheers all round, you are wise beyond yr years, keep going, JT wud be wise to keep you writing for them
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LoveNot
This article says nothing new, cliche after cliche.
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Elbuda Mexicano
Dear Angela Erika Kubo, I really loved your article! Keep them coming! I am Mexican, no doubt about it, 100% Mexican but I also speak English like an American and my nihongo ain't that bad either, but my kids, 3 years old and 7 year old, make fun of my nihongo, especially my son, saying, papa ha nihonjin janai dakara wakarain deshou, so it does hurt my feelings, but what does papa do?? Well you know, I can make some yummy Mexican food, and when my son starts saying something like WAA! Ii nio! Tabetai! I get him back and say, sorry man, you are not a real Mexican so you can not possible understand nor appreciate this Mexican food, he starts crying, my Japanese wife jumps in, makes my son say sorry for making fun of my henna nihongo, and then I say sorry to my son and tell him that he is really Mexican too, we all sit down, do the ITADAKIMASU routine and as long as my Mexican food is not too hot, not too spicy everybody is HAPPY. Did your parents ever do this to you? If you made fun of their English or Japanese language abilities? Sincerely, Mexican Papa
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lucabrasi
@ Elbuda
Why stop there? The sky's the limit! Why not learn to speak like an Englishman?
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sfjp330
Article states: "Contrary to what many people believe, Japan is a diverse country"
Japan is diverse if you're not working for the companies and making a living. The attitude of the Japanese companies remains same. However, when they talk about the diversity, there is a difference in viewpoint from Japanese management perspective to Japanese workers versus American workers working in American subsidiary in Tokyo. If few Japanese female workers complained to management that their older Japanese male bosses were being disrespectful to them. The human resources manager questioned all of the women in the office. Every Japanese woman reported problems with the Japanese men. In contrast, the American women reported no problems at all. Confused, the human resources manager questioned the Japanese male managers. The answer? The Japanese men responded that they understood American expectations related to sexual harassment, so they were careful about what they said to the American women. They were perplexed by the responses of the Japanese women. "What is the problem?" the Japanese men wanted to know, "They know that we don’t mean anything. Any Japanese person would understand." Communication, which has never been straightforward and easy in the first place, is becoming even more complicated as organizations take on global partners. Maybe this is what Aso meant by one nation, one civilization, one language, one culture, and one race.
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Nicky Washida
I have just read through this article with my British-Japanese daughter. Shes only 7, but she really enjoyed it and asked lots of questions. She said no one has ever said to her that she is not Japanese, (maybe still too young for that?!) but they often comment on her long curly hair which is kind of unusual.
She says she feels more Japanese than British right now because she has only lived here, but she likes also being British and speaking English because - her words - "everyone thinks its really cool". And there in lies the rub for you Angela: I think you are going to encounter many people as you get older who are jealous of your obvious intellect, your linguistic skills, your life experiences and the opportunities that will present themselves to you as a result of all this. Im guessing being of mixed that you are statistically likely to be a bit of a hottie too! My dear Dad (RIP) gave me two valuable pieces of advice: a) Always have a plan B and b) Illegitemi non Carborundum which is Latin for "Dont let the bas#$%s grind you down". These have always worked for me and I am passing them on to my own daughter (a watered down version of the latin for now!)
But it sounds very much like you already have everything in hand and figured out for yourself, even at your young age. Good for you, and if your parents are reading this, good for them too. They should be very very proud of you.
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Kaito Park
i just made a friend online in Facebook by the name of Okinawa Yutaka he was very insulting! he is a japanese but came to the usa as a student and for work. he told me i was full white... called me stupid, had me feeling pretty bad. hell i almost cried. i reported him on the site for harrassment and decide to delete him.never have i experienced this from a fellow Japanese. They have always treated me very kind and im three different things im Korean, White, Japanese. My mother was american, but my dad was half japanese half Korean. He grew up and has always lived in Japan, my mom died when i was young so i pursued my High School Education here in the US.
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