Liberian visitor

That is a laugh! The way women are treated in Japan and Japan holds the 2nd Assembly for women. Good luck ladies and stay in the women only train carriages.

That must be some library!

And Japan ranks where in its treatment of women...........................LOW, wonder if Japan is invited!

There's a difference between being treated LOW and actually sitting at the top. Japanese women are in complete control of this country. They get more benefits than any other country in the world. Marriage is not a word of matrimony. It's a contract. Women don't need to pay anything for their lives.

You've got it all wrong. This Liberian President is here to learn how Japanese women control their men. Live here for a while. Get to know the truth. Or ask any Family lawyer and they'll tell why they take female clients for free. Cause they always win.

Megumi - are you Japanese? Shame on you.

Just because you personally feel that way, it doesn't represent the entire Japan. I'm very disappointed to have read your comment.

I wonder if she ran a nice BBQ or similar at the Liberian embassy for all of her countrymen who work in Japan. And fishy, while rather strongly put, there is a sliver of truth in Megumi's comments about how this place would collapse if not for women...

Kaerimashita-

Yes, I understand that the women in Japan hold power but I'd rather prefer to call it a "back bone". To say women don't pay anything for their lives is way too extreme, and to put Japanese women in one category is also not a good idea.

While there's a lot of improvement that needs to be made, I have to say that there are many more couples that share work at home with husbands compared to years ago, and many more women who work outside while receiving help from husbands. And there are many loving couples in Japan. If/when you see couples who recognize a marriage as a contract, it's not because of their nationality but it's because of their personality.

Japan is in the top 5 economy. Their teartment of Females in the society is very poor compare to place like UK America and Australia. Imagine the position Japan would be in if they allow women equal status. My Partner is very worried for her mother (55) who works 60 per week as a chemist. Her mother also has the duty of caring for her ageing Parent and her husband ageing parents whom are in there late 80,s. Her Father works 50 hours pre week. I have never seen her father help at all with caring or chores around the home. I have suggested that the family should having meeting so that can apply pressure on the father to start helping the mother with the family workload. She just said to me that this is how it is and a meeting would only annoy the father. This is typical of a modern day Japanese Family.

To say women don't pay anything for their lives is way too extreme

It's a ridiculous comment. When you're married, the money is the family money, not one person's money or the other.

I am the money generator in our family, and all of our finances come from the work I do. But my wife keeps a well-run house, makes my meals, does my laundry, takes care of our kids, and everything else. If she weren't doing that, I'd have a lot less time and energy to be doing work that brings in money, and we'd have less money overall.

When the money does come in I take an amount for spending money, and she manages the rest of our money, paying the bills, buying food, clothes and everything. She most definitely does pay for this stuff - I'm not paying for it. I'm at work generating more money for us.

So it's a ridiculous to say Japanese women never pay for anything. Some never do, but that's not just Japan, that's everywhere in the world.

Strangerland - thank you!!! it takes 2 to tango. When people start to say it's my money or it's your money, then you're inviting a problem.

John-san - I see what you're talking about and understand, however, there are people like your partner's father who never helps his wife, but there are also ones that support their wife as much as they can. there are always good apples and bad apples..

again, to put all Japanese in one category isn't a good idea.

Sorry Fishy. My mistake. I will change the last statment to a query. "Is this typical of a modern day Japanese Family" ?

Hey John-san,

Well, I would not call the fact the husband never helps his wife with the work at home a modern day Japanese family. There are more and more couples that both husband and wife work outside and they help each other (I'm not saying everyone is like that, but having my children going to schools in Japan, I know many "modern day" Japanese parents). There are many dads who pick up their children from daycare, there are many couples who take turn, etc. It is a fact that women spend more hours doing house work than men, however, I see many Japanese men/fathers who try to do what they can on weekends or simply when they can.

However, it IS a modern day Japanese family problem that people (more women) having to take care of aged parents and there's not enough support and this problem really needs to be solved, but I think the problem is very complicated because there are simply not enough young people to take care of old people nowadays in Japan and the population is declining. So this problem isn't just between a husband and a wife, the problem is broader.