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Miyaratmosphere at 03:48 PM JST - 10th November
dolphingirl at 02:52 PM JST - 10th November
Go Obama! Get Japan to join! Yes, you can!
kirakira25 at 03:16 PM JST - 10th November
newjapanese? Any response? I am also really interested to hear why you think Japan shouldn`t sign.
newjapanese,
I guess you must feel hella shameless to write such an ignorant comment on JT knowing how draconian the laws in your country are. Note that if you were intelligent enough you would know that if your children were abducted by a "japanese" citizen and brought back to Japan or abducted domestically, the KeyStones would do anything to help you. They are legendary for their incompetence and overpaid salary. When my ex took my 1 year baby boy, the KeyStones just laughed at me saying that he was still the father and that there was nothing they could do. Same old, same old. It's really painful and frustrating but I know that the "day" is close...its getting really closer now. We all hope for the same, that this archaic country sign the Hague Convention once for all.
Dolphingirl, kirakira: I'm with you girls!! Go Obama!!!
Miyaratmosphere at 03:49 PM JST - 10th November
actually I meant: "the KeyStones would do NOTHING to help you"
smithinjapan at 04:09 PM JST - 10th November
Ummm... that's, "I'm curious to HEAR," not, "here".
tkoind2 at 05:53 PM JST - 10th November
Bottom line, this is a very fair agreement that protects the rights of both parents and looks after the interests of the children involved. The current Japanese approach is to discount any consideration of the foreign parent in favor of the Japanese parent regardless of his/her capability to care for the children or the legal or other interests of the family.
Japan needs to join the 21st century on this and many other issues.
gogogo at 06:38 PM JST - 10th November
Gaijinocchio: Actually you make the best point, it doesn't matter what nationality the child is nor the parent if a kid is abducted at all something should be done about it! Japan needs to sign the agreement so that it can stop no matter what race, color, country or background.
NeoJamal at 04:13 AM JST - 11th November
That's brilliant! It's mostly Japanese women with gaijin feverthat marry Americans (with 99.9% if the time with Western European whites), they drop a few kids and before you know it, they are divorced. Quasi-anti-miscegenetion laws like this is a welcoming sight.
onewordonelie at 06:53 AM JST - 11th November
Just thought I'd point that out... Since, unless I'm completely off base, that means there are two things that people want Obama to 'urge' Japan into. One being to sign the convention, to keep this from happening again to other foreign parents in Japan. Two being to deal with the parents who have already abducted their children and are using Japanese laws [or lack of] to keep them there.
And wow, NeoJamal! I love how you hit the bigotry points for both racism and sexism in one comment. Congratz!
igotchu at 10:05 AM JST - 11th November
onewordonelie, add a third, to ensure that all parents have the right to maintain contact with their child in case of divorce or seperation.
perspective at 10:31 AM JST - 11th November
With all of the discussions on this site about child abductions and the Japanese propensity to invariably rule in the favor of the Japanese born spouse, nothing is said to refute the assertion that custody always goes to the woman. I would be curious to see the statistics on how many foreign women lose custody and contact with their children.
Also, not much is said about what happens when the Japanese spouse dies - wonder how many Japanese grandparents assume custody then over the foreign biological parent?
igotchu at 11:20 AM JST - 11th November
Statics like that are not kept by the Ministry of Justice, but you may find the facts by looking thru judicial decisions in divorce cases.
You could also gather your own facts by speaking with various foreign consulates in Japan. Some non-profit organizations for foreign women in Japan might have the information as well.
I personally know of two foreign women who lost custody and contact with their children.
Miyaratmosphere at 03:44 PM JST - 11th November
************That's CERTAINLY incorrect. After being abducted of course, I lost custody of my 1 year old to my japanese ex-husband back in 2007. What makes you think that all women get custody? In my case, it wasn't gender but the fact that I wasn't Japanese. Go Figure.
I would be curious to see the statistics on how many foreign women lose custody and contact with their children.
*****************It's still safe to say that not too many but we are definitely outnumbered by men. There are more Left-behind Fathers than Mothers unfortunately. But still, there are Left-Behind MOTHERS just like myself.
What doesn't kill me makes me stronger.
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igotchu at 04:55 PM JST - 11th November
Cleo, any woman who knows they are on the verge of losing their child without ever seeing them again would get emotional. Its unfair for you to judge her like that. When Japanese women are in the same predicament your courts support them and rarely take their kids away, and never ever gives them to the foreign father.
Miyaratmosphere at 06:32 PM JST - 11th November
igotchu,
thank you very much for your sensibility and understanding. I know that even though I took a very desperate measure and that at the end it was fruitless, I wish I had the wisdom that would have driven me to act wisely and differently. But then, how would I know, right? I wasn't born a psychic..Things happen for a reason. We all make mistakes. Yet for some reason, I'm still alive and not giving up. I still have 2 more to live for. But that one that was taken, my heart will always be within him.
Unfortunately, Child Abduction is not only a Japan problem, it's all over the world. It's time for it to end.
JACKY1289 at 09:15 PM JST - 11th November
PRESIDENT OBAMA, As you always say YES WE CAN!!! As I see these news everyday, my heart is grieving thinking about these unfortunate children who cannot reach to their fathers, as well as few mothers.President Obama, when you come to japan this time,please ask the japan to change their stupid law and allow the rights of children to both parents. This will help even japanese husbands to see their children.JPN govt. supports the single mothers in japan. That is one of the reasons single mothers don't want to show their children to fathers.As I know I think single mothers should't have any contacts with their childrens fathers to be qualified to gain this monthly support.JPN single mothers keep on getting these monthly supports and going for grambling with their own children and keep on abusing these children everyday.At last when nothing is going well, they involve to kill their own children.
perspective at 09:15 AM JST - 13th November
Miyaratmosphere, the point I was trying to make is that this blatant discrimination is always explained away as a "Japanese women escaping an abusive foreign man" usually in tandem with something about the child needing to be with his mother; but that isn't true, the Japanese courts rule in favor of the Japanese spouse irrespective of gender and even favor a grandparent over the biological parent.