JAPAN NEWS AND DISCUSSION
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- English Instructor (Osaka, Kyoto, Kobe)
- Berlitz Japan, Inc. (ベルリッツ・ジャパン株式会社), Kansai
- Salary: ¥125,000 ~ ¥250,000 / Month
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- FT English Teachers for Kids - Osaka
- Kohgakusha Co., Ltd. （株式会社興学社）, Osaka
- Salary: ¥255,000 ~ ¥275,000 / Month Travel Expenses, Encouragement of Japanese learning*
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- Translator
- ZAIHON, Inc. (日本財務翻訳株式会社), Tokyo
- Salary: ¥6.0M / Year Negotiable
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Himajin
Posted in: Actor-director Kevin Smith ejected from plane for being oversized
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Himajin
Sue, all that and worse....but she's now an 84-year-old old lady in Stage 5 AD with FTD who doesn't know which end is up. Despite her being a nasty person the fact remains that she is my husband's mother...
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lovejapan21, lucky you are, to be a pillar of virtue...you watch what you eat, don't smoke, good for you. That doesn't guarantee a great deal, though. Many, many illnesses are not diet-dependent. You have no guarantee that you'll never need help when you get old. You might try and grow a little compassion. My sister says the same things as you, 'She did it herself, why do I have to help her?' and I think it's a shame, to put it bluntly. She sees my mother's illness as weakness and despises her for it. She doesn't realize that she's teaching her daughter how to deal with her when the time comes, good luck with that...
tmarie, have they tried to get helpers? It sounds like your FIL and MIL could really use a break. If they don't use helpers because 'obaachan wouldn't like it' one day they just have to take the bull by the horns and do it regardless. She has no right to run them into the ground. If she has Alzheimer's or a similar dementia, she has no reasoning skills and it's time the family stepped in and did what needs to be done. Very true too, about people living longer, I know a 75-year-old taking care of his 94-year-old mother (with his wife's help).
It is nearly impossible to care for a loved one with AD, or someone who's bedridden, and also work full time. Even in the US, one or the other of the children end up quitting work to become a full-time caregiver in many cases. That, and dealing with someone with no reasoning skills, no short term memory, and health problems is an exercise in constant surveillance, you never know what they may do if left alone.
When we still thought MIL was ok to be alone for 20-30 minutes so I could run to the store, she built a fire out of chopsticks on the stove because she felt chilly. Try and anticipate things like that? You can't! She gets up at 3 am and is an energizer bunny till 8:30 pm.No naps, no breaks. And due to the AD, she talks 90% of her time awake, and much of it is fight-picking. After a few years of going to her house every day and then her being here with us, I had to throw in the towel. You cannot know what it is like until you've done it. People say 'It's just like taking care of a small child, what's so hard?' With a child there is hope, and joy as they grow and progress. Yes, with an older person you may diaper, feed etc 'just like a child' but you know you're not on a road to anything but the end of the line. You watch as their personality erodes and their bodies shrink. It's not easy, and if outside help is needed, so be it.
Not all elderly are sweet as pie and easy to deal with. Not everyone is cut out to be an in-home caregiver, but-you can still advocate for your loved one once they are in a facility, get medical POA, guardianship etc and care for them in that way. No one is getting off scot-free by putting someone in assisted living or a nursing home.
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Himajin
I'm sorry if that was written in a confusing manner. It's well known that he beat his wife (now ex-wife) and she needed her teeth repaired. He broke someone's nose last week, correct? Even NHK reported it, I don't look at tabloids.
How do you know it really didn't happen??? You seem just as sure, based only on your gut feelings, that it's because he's a gaijin.
Posted in: Asashoryu's retirement: Did he fall or was he pushed?
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Blue Tiger, how many other rikishi have beaten their wives, been given 8 warnings to shape up, and broken people's noses? Amazing that you think he should suffer no consequences for anything he's done. Because he's a sports figure?
Posted in: Asashoryu's retirement: Did he fall or was he pushed?
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Himajin
Oh, so is the castle hitting an iceberg too?
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The Titanic? Isn't it the boat from Disney Sea?
http://www.tokyodisneyresort.co.jp/tds/japanese/7port/waterfront/index.html
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Himajin
Yes, Sarge.
Posted in: What are your most fondly remembered TV shows?
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Himajin
Leave it to Beaver, Father Knows Best, Sea Hunt, Flipper, Carol Burnette, Lassie and Wild Kingdom.
Posted in: What are your most fondly remembered TV shows?
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Himajin
Exactly.
Who says he's an alcoholic?
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Posted in: Namie Amuro's 'PAST < FUTURE' hits No. 1 in 5 countries
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Himajin
They are two out of all the Olympic athletes, and perhaps out of all the skaters going, they are most likely to win. And, it's not unusual! Other news outlets in other countries use the same phrasing--
"Figure skater Joannie Rochette of Montreal, Quebec is the reigning female Canadian national singles champion...snip....and she is one of Canada’s medal hopefuls"
Those damn Canadians, setting their athletes up for failure!
"U.S. and Canadian Gold Medal Hopefuls Grace the Cover of Official Olympic Videogame"
"Olympic Hopefuls Gather to Prepare for Vancouver 2010 at Olympic Excellence Series"
Beijing Olympics as well..." Top American Swimming Olympic Medal Hopefuls for the 2008 Beijing Olympic Games"
This is basic English, stock phrases used every Olympics...you'll have to find something else to grouse about tonight.
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Himajin
I guess you're referring to my post. I just thought that
was a cute 'slip of the keyboard', I wasn't being critical :-)
Posted in: Elderly woman found dead in snow in Hokkaido
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Himajin
Don't think so ;-)
Posted in: Elderly woman found dead in snow in Hokkaido
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Himajin
It said quite clearly that the land bought by the city was the site of apartments these people rented, not their private land. The article is 10 years old, to my knowledge they were provided with public housing.
Posted in: Anger, frustration hindering Haiti quake relief
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Himajin
The anniversary of the quake was Sunday of course they're airing footage of the quake and the memorial services here. Obtuse much?
I've seen reporting on Haiti daily since it occurred.
Posted in: Anger, frustration hindering Haiti quake relief
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Himajin
Using gas for boiling water is still using energy...
It turns itself off.
Why bother? Because some people like to heat just enough fresh water to make their tea, it takes too long to use up the 2.2 liters many pots take, if it's a couple or someone living alone. I don't want to drink water that's been sitting in a pot for more than a day.
Posted in: Electric kettle that beeps when water boils
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Gee, I think it's this part, perspective and northlondon...
No call for an ambulance, didn't stop....
Posted in: Student flees with body of 80-yr-old woman on car bonnet in Tochigi
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Himajin
These one-cup kettles, Tefal etc, didn't have any notification that the water was ready, like a hot pot. Old people and kids have been burned, the warning lets another family member know that someone's playing with the kettle! :-)
Posted in: Electric kettle that beeps when water boils
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They now do ninchishou (dementia) testing on the elderly at the licensing center, and have been for 2-3 years now, but the law has no teeth, they can only 'counsel' them not to drive. At the center of the debate is who has the authority to take away the legal right to drive. This is a relatively new problem for Japan, the last generation of seniors (my husband's grandparents) weren't drivers, for the most part. Now we have this huge population of elderly driving, and many are getting dementia.
In the US not all states have a system yet, but in many, doctors notify the DMV of a dementia diagnosis and the afflicted elderly are refused a license at the next test. Until then it's up to the family to keep them from driving...no easy task with a family member who swears they're fine, a mid-stage symptom called 'agnosia' the inability to tell that you have a cognitive deficit. We took away MILs car forcibly when she had an accident--took the car and sold it the next week. On top of dementia she's pretty headstrong, we decided to just do it, and live with the consequences...she nagged for A YEAR AND A HALF daily, 4-5 phone calls a day, screaming about not having a car. Hell to go through, but better than her killing someone.
If your loved one is far enough along, you can get rid of the car, and keep saying 'it's in the shop', or get a device that allows you to disconnect the battery with a switch. MIL was dangerous behind the wheel (I can't begin to describe it) but active enough that she'd call a mechanic , so we could not do it an easier way. She actually got her next license without our knowing, she said I was busy so a friend took her!
Posted in: 91-yr-old man, driving wrong way on expressway, dies after collision