Monday May 28, 2012

John Shiomi's past comments

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    John Shiomi

    Even if it really was her grandson, she shouldn't be paying off his debt. He needs to take responsibility for his own finances.

    Posted in: Woman conned out of nearly Y4.5 mil in bank transfer scam

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    John Shiomi

    I think that the problem between communication between men and women in Japan may begin at school. In elementary school boys and girls are often separated by sex... when they line up and where they sit. I think they become ultra sensitive about their sex and feel strong separation by it. Also, kids in school are rarely given the chance to talk about how they feel openly in class. They are rarely given the chance to really express how they feel. Some school have students express their thoughts and feelings in diaries given by the school but this may be hurting their ability to express themselves orally. I cant quite fully understand it by there is something about the Japanese culture that seems to be preventing people from opening up to each other and connecting with other people - especially of the opposite sex.

    Posted in: 61% of single men aged 18-34 have no girlfriend; 49% of women unattached: survey

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    John Shiomi

    There just seems to be a lot of unnecessary paper work and everyone checking each other obsessively that is creating all of this unnecessary work. The system needs to change. But the problem is that the system is created from the values rooted deep in people in Japanese culture. Group, group, group. People need to be given more freedom. People need to be trusted to do work on their own. People need to be given a sense of accountability and responsibility so they feel trusted and begin working from their hearts rather than because someone is looking over their shoulders checking on them. People in Japan seem to value work too much. They get lost in it so much that it becomes their identity. When people have free time they dont know what to do with themselves so they eventually get back into work and stress themselves out. It's a sad cycle.

    Posted in: Pachinko parlors and vending machines use up 10 million kilowatts of power a year, which is just about the amount of the Fukushima nuclear power plants.

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    johnshiomi

    I've been teaching English in Japan for 13 years... 3 as an ALT and 10 with my own small business. Gees... I didnt know that teaching at English conversation schools was considered maligned by some people. In my all my years of teaching experience I've found learning English is more than just about vocabulary, grammar, and idioms. It's about enjoying the process through a good relationship between teacher and student. It's also about learning about culture and new ways of thinking. Without these thing one cannot truly master a language. For some students learning is about using it abroad with foreigners. For others is just a hobby to enjoy. I think when English teachers learn this after many years they can learn to enjoy it much more and find it very fulfilling.

    Posted in: Why is teaching at English conversation schools in Japan such a maligned profession by some people?

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    johnshiomi

    Suicide has nothing to do with the bad economy. It has to do with people's false identifications with their minds. That is, believing that who they truly are has anything to do with their money or job. If you want to learn more read "The Power of Now" or "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle. It's really eye-opening.

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    johnshiomi

    I think President Obama is a person of great character and I respect him highly but giving him the Nobel Peace Prize at this point just doesnt seem right. In fact, it's just down right odd... as may of his staff also think. President Obama was surprised too! If no one deserves the Nobel Peace Prize it shouldnt be handed out to anyone. In my mind the "value" of the Nobel Peace Prize seems to have gone down quite a bit in my book. I honestly think that President Obama has enough character and motivation to make the US and the world a better place without getting the Nobel Peace Prize. I think the nobel committee needs to rethink their selection process in the future. I was surprised to hear the Gandhi never got the Nobel Peace Prize!! Now that's bizarre!

    Posted in: Obama says he'll accept Nobel Peace Prize as 'call to action'

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    johnshiomi

    I got divorced from my ex-wife when my daughter was about 3 years old. We never had to go to court or any mess like that to settle things. Our divorce was emotional but we remained friends. We talked like rational people and I got to see my daughter every weekend. She eventually got remarried and moved to Canada. Recently, she wrote me an email saying that she has been thinking about the past a lot and that she really appreciates me for keeping a friendship with her and loving our daughter. It nearly brought me to tears. She had never said anything like that to me. I think the problems that these fathers have with their wives and being able to see their children ultimately come from something inside of them. They are driven by hatred and anger. Instead of seeing their children as a possession and their ex-wives as the enemy, they need to be build some kind of friendship with their wives for the sake of their children.

    Every time I dropped off my daughter at her mother's house I would say "I love you. I had a really nice time today with you." For over a year I said that to her with no reply from her. Before she left for Canada, we spent our last weekend together and as usual I told her "I love you and I had a really nice time today with you." For the first time she said "I love you too daddy." Ultimately, it's about who you have decided to become that matters most. Your behavior should not depend on how other people treat you.

    Posted in: Divorced, separated Japanese fathers also fight to see children

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    johnshiomi

    I grew up watching the Twilight Zone and love them. As a kid, i love them because of it's shocking, weird, strange, amazing stories. As an adult, i can see the deeper morals and life lessons told in them. Although 50 years old, these lessons never get old. It's funny how these mega expensive hollywood movies have such cool special effects and computer graphics but often lack any substance in content. The 50 year old original TZs blow most of them away even though they are in black and white and very little flash. Having a good story is foundational.

    Posted in: 50 years later, 'Twilight Zone' bridges time

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    johnshiomi

    Nuclear weapons will never be fully banish from this planet until fear is.

    Posted in: Obama offers Iran dialogue; Israel tells U.S. it is time to act

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    johnshiomi

    I love sony products! I am glad to see that they are doing a little better in sales recently. I hope that they can continue doing well with sales in all of their other products as well. Go Sony!

    Posted in: Sony's PS3 outsells Wii fivefold in Japan: survey

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    johnshiomi

    Many Japanese people I know dont wear seatbelts when they sit in the back. They think that only the driver and person in shotgun should have to wear seatbelts. Gees, i hope this kind of thinking isnt the norm in Japan. There's a reason why we have seltbelts in the back... use them!! Recently, I went to get my japanese license renewed and had to sit through a 2-hour lecture/video about safe driving. In the video they showed how the driver got sandwiched to death between the steering wheel and the passenger not wearing a seat belt behind him. Ouch! I often see kids sitting in front on their moms laps without seat belts. Some of them even have their faces up against the windshield. People need a good dose of Newton's Laws. Natural laws dont care about the law or whether you get caught or not... they are always in effect.

    Failure to wear seat belts is a ticking bomb waiting to explode.

    I think we are just so used to going from point A to point B in a car and dont realize just how dangerous driving on the road is. A huge number of people die everyday in traffic accidents. Seat belts give us a better chance of survival.

    Posted in: Woman, child not wearing seatbelts fall out of car at intersection

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    johnshiomi

    It is the moral responsibility for all people to realize their own weaknesses, take responsibility, and correct them. Failure to do so will cause problems to themselves and others.

    According to Abraham Maslow, the eminent psychologist much like food, water, and sleep, sex is a human physiological need. When we have poor social skills (weakness) we fail to have romantic relationships and fail to have physical intimacy. This human need for sex comes out in uglier ways: groping on trains, watching/buying pornography, sex friends, prostitution, etc. All of which long-term are psychologically and morally damaging.

    People need to realize that they have problems opening up with their feelings and find ways of connecting with other people and engage in healthy romantic relationships. As one leaves self and begins thinking about others, happiness ensues almost like a natural by-product. We live in an interdependent world where we need human connection/love for lasting fulfillment and peace of mind. This is just the way the world is.

    Posted in: Low-income bachelors victims of widening 'sex gap'

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    johnshiomi

    According to the psychologist Abraham Maslow know for his "Hierarchy of Needs" sex is a physiological need much like food, water, and sleep. I think if the two brought some love back in their lives physical intimacy will naturally follow. It's not a matter of having enough time, it's matter of having enough love.

    Posted in: Comedian Hikaru Ohta’s wife admits sexless marriage

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    johnshiomi

    fascinating. lots to be learned about how our upbringing effects our adult life.

    Posted in: Noriko Sakai's yakuza upbringing in spotlight

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    johnshiomi

    maybe in the future they will have cell phones that cant be broken. they'll have to find something else to break... each other's hearts?

    Posted in: Uno Kanda and husband’s cell phone snapping contest

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    johnshiomi

    It's funny because in my town here in japan the same thing happened to a chicken farm. All the birds were toasted. Sad...

    Posted in: 150,000 chickens perish as Ibaraki poultry farm goes up in flames

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    johnshiomi

    The mind creates everything.

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    johnshiomi

    Better just to stick to eating veggies, fruit, and other natural foods i think.

    Posted in: Taking the heat off fried foods

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    johnshiomi

    I used to play mah jong a lot. I totally agree with the Japanese rules being really great! Thinking defensively and offensively at the same time is awesome... much like chess. What I didnt like about the game was that it is so addicting. You cant stop playing. You play all day and night and wonder what happened to the day. I could have been out with friends talking and doing something I often thought. Also, the competition really got to me - I went through serious emotional peaks - so happy when I won and so sad when I lost. I felt so selfish and consumed when I played. Mah jong once a year is good. Nice article.

    Posted in: Foreign mahjong pro becomes force on local gaming scene

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    johnshiomi

    The father needed to let go of his anger and just respect his daughter for the choice she made in choosing her husband. All of that pent up anger surely made his illness worse and ultimately killed him in the end at a young age. Its so sad that he couldnt see the light and just end his self-created suffering.

    Posted in: 16-year feud unresolved after death of actress Keiko Matsuzaka’s father

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