Tessa's past comments

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    Tessa

    Whenever I feel down and out, I just take a nice long walk outside and find things to be grateful for. It never fails to cheer me up. I think doctors should prescribe "a brisk walk" as a kind of medicine.

    Posted in: Exercising three times a week significantly cuts depression risk

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    My husband and I are currently taking care of my mother-in-law who is in the first stages of Alzheimer's. People with the disease become really intolerable. They say extremely hurtful things and are in a permanent state of paranoia. They unlock the door and accuse you of leaving it open. They hide things away and forget where they put them and then accuse you of stealing them. Even things like a department store bag or a used envelope! They can't count and accuse the gas person, newspaper delivery person etc.of short changing them.The call the police continuously about apparitions they see on their intercom system. They lose parts of their memory which results in them piecing together different events to create a distorted new 'memory'. They say the same things over and over again. They drive the people around them to insanity. So while I don't know the details of this man's case and deplore his actions I can empathize.

    I hear stories like this on a near-daily basis. What makes it worse is that physically these people are strong and healthy, which means that they cannot be man-handled as easily as children, and certainly not reasoned with (imagine having to care for an adult-sized four-year-old with a bank account and access to a telephone). Families get ripped apart. One woman told me that she was constantly having to deal with her senile mother accusing her teenage son of stealing from her in the night, and it was tearing her apart. Another woman could no longer invite her friends over to visit, because her senile mother would rifle through their belongings and sometimes steal them. And yet another quit a very good job because her irate neighbors were constantly calling her at work and complaining about the antics of her elderly mother. She is now a full-time carer, and has cut herself off completely from her friends and colleagues.

    Female and male caregivers in this situation gradually become more and more socially isolated. It's not surprising that they snap. Whenever I read stories like this - and they are becoming increasingly common, as the population ages - of course I feel sorry for the victims, but my heart goes out to the perpetrators too. Just how much can one person stand?

    Posted in: Man arrested for attempting to strangle 77-year-old mother to death

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    She sounds lovely and sincere, and they seem to be a devoted couple.

    Posted in: Empress Michiko celebrates 80th birthday

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    Another day, another scandal. Blah, blah, blah.

    Posted in: Trade, justice ministers quit as Abe loses 2 of his 5 women ministers

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    Actually her life doesn't sound very different or more difficult than the average catwalk model. I don't know what she's complaining about.

    And I've always found it very curious that so few Japanese models make it on the international scene. My own informal research gives me the impression that most popular Asian catwalk models are Chinese or Korean.

    Posted in: Hours of prep make perfect for Japanese model

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    I think it's considered safe in Japan. I see plenty of kids doing these things alone or with other kids.

    I see uniformed little kids on the train, alone or with friends, and I marvel that they can commute to school or juku every day without adult supervision. This would be unthinkable in the neighborhood that I come from (where most kids nowadays are chauffeured to and from school by their mothers). I hope that this is something that doesn't change in Japan, but I fear that it will.

    On the other hand, the private school where I currently work in Japan has a touch-card system. Children and staff cannot enter or leave the school without showing their personal card to the machine, and when they do it sends an automatic text to their parents, or our bosses. Our whereabouts are known at all times. I have mixed feelings about this ...

    As a child I enjoyed an enormous amount of personal freedom (I didn't have to come home until dinner time, even on school nights!) and I was also allowed to keep secrets from my parents (within reason). They didn't expect or desire to know my personal whereabouts, and they trusted that I was safe in my own neighborhood. They didn't snoop in my room, or read my diary. The idea of keeping tabs on me 24 hours a day via GPS would've horrified them.

    Children were allowed to be children, back then.

    Posted in: Nowadays, for fear of child predators, it is no longer considered safe to let young children go by themselves to and from school, to a friend's house, play in parks or at the beach, go to shops and so on. Was it like this when you were young?

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    I did an image search for "junior idol," I wish I hadn't. Did someone find 14, 11, 9 year olds in bikinis? I found a five-year old. To add to my shock, I also found a couple of kids who appeared to be so-called "haafu."

    The pictures were disgusting, they were quite simply highly sexualized photos of innocent children, and could not be described as anything but whacking material (unless there really are grannies out there who enjoy collecting pics of tiny little girls wearing tiny little bikinis with their legs splayed out, and licking ice creams).

    What the heck are the parents thinking? How could a five-year-old consent to having her photos taken and used in that manner? How is she going to feel in the future knowing that her parents sold her body, and the photos will probably be circulating forever?

    And for those of you who are attempting to defend, justify or normalize the practice: shame on you. You'd never get away with it in your own land, and you know it.

    So disappointed right now.

    Posted in: The fuel for Japan’s pedophiles

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    After the incident, Tanouye’s mother gave him a dose of his medicine and he fell asleep, the affidavit said.

    Seriously, what was this idiot mother doing taking her nutcase, medicated son on a long-haul flight for in the first place? She of all people must have known that he wouldn't have coped with it very well. Yeah, yeah, I know he has rights - but so do the rest of us.

    Posted in: Passenger arrested for sexual assault on Hawaii-Japan flight

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    She's telegenic?

    Well, have you seen the average Japanese politician?

    Posted in: Obuchi apologizes after political funds misuse reports

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    When my sister came to visit a few years ago, she was really amused by the construction sites and all the unnecessary jobs that they seemed to provide. For example, the uniformed men who are paid to stand and wave a flag and direct pedestrians past the site. Have these barricades replaced them?

    Posted in: Kimono-clad princesses offer apologies for roadside construction in Kyoto

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    his first cabinet was relatively scandal-free.

    You have to go "oh-oh" when that's regarded as a good point for a prime minister.

    Posted in: Obuchi apologizes after political funds misuse reports

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    If you would not let your daughter or little sister pose like that then it is WRONG in ALL cases.

    YES!

    If any man in any western country was caught buying a child pageant photo book his wife would divorce him, he get fired from his job, and get shunned by his peers, community, you name it.

    YES again!

    This article has been very distressing for me to read. I'd heard and read many stories about the so-called kiddie porn paradise of Japan, but never been willing to believe them (and never bothered doing any research of my own, obviously). Now they are right in my face. Japan is not a poor country, where parents need to sell their own daughters in order to feed the rest of the family. How on earth can anyone justify this as "cultural differences?"

    One thing's for sure, I'd never want to raise a daughter in this country.

    Posted in: The fuel for Japan’s pedophiles

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    @bicultural

    I use the Osaka and Keihanshin major train/subway lines. The only workers that I know who get to leave the office precisely at 6PM are either government employees or dispatch workers. And OLs.

    Posted in: Japan's sozzled salarymen: the lost tribe in a modern pickle

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    If all these salarymen are working so late, every night - why is my train so crowded with salarymen at 1800? 1900? Why are all the restaurants and pubs near my office filled with men and women letting off steam after work at 1800?

    My local train lines and subway lines only start to get crowded around 19:00. (In fact, so-called "rush hour" is regarded as the hours between 19:00 and 21:00, no earlier.) If you consider that most of those passengers have a one-hour commute to get to their local station, and a further 30-minute walk or bus/bike ride to their actual homes, then in fact most of them are not saying "tadaima" until after 9PM at the earliest. Then it's dinner, bath, TV, and sleep around midnight. Wake up again at 6AM and repeat the whole cycle, five or six days a week. This is definitely not considered normal or healthy by western standards.

    No doubt plenty work themselves to death. But a majority? No way. No. Way.

    Oh, you are right there. The majority of those people who work themselves to death are males. There's a reason that Japanese women are the longest lived in the world!

    Posted in: Japan's sozzled salarymen: the lost tribe in a modern pickle

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    Beautifying the city and keeping its streets clean became a focus for Tokyo that still remains.

    This is one of the great things about Japan - it never got over the attitude of having to prove over and over again that it belonged with the big boys. Never got complacent. I'm really optimistic about the 2020 Games, and I think it will herald a new age of modernity for Japan. the whole country will be on show for the first time in years, and it will have to really get its act together. I predict that Japan will become a far easier place to live in and travel around as a result.

    Posted in: Japan must work to ward off 'Olympic Curse'

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    I'd love to ask everybody What do your children call you? English or Japanese, or other?

    Posted in: Mothers react to being called by their first names after years of just being 'Mama'

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    I have heard countless anecdotes from my friends and students who refrain from letting their own children to play in a local parks because residents complain bitterly about the noise.

    My municipality is bursting at the seams with various facilities for elders! There's one near my home that is clean and modern, and although ostensibly open to all, it is really just a community center for old folks. They are allowed to go in at any time and drink tea, stay as long as they like, and take part in various cultural lessons for 100 yen a day. I rented a room there for my kiddies' classes. Within three months we were chased out by the oldies, who complained about the noise and about us supposedly misusing the facilities. We had no place else to go, and ended up disbanding as a result. I'm sorry for those kids.

    In the past couple of years two nursery schools in my neighborhood were closed and converted to elder care centers.

    Posted in: New daycare centers held up by residents opposing noisy kids

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    It's pretty darned big from where I sit.

    Take an umbrella with you if going out.

    I can't really recommend that. My friend's dad decided it would be a brilliant idea to take a stroll this afternoon. His umbrella turned inside out and dragged him down a stairwell. He's in hospital now with a broken leg. Some mothers do 'ave 'em!

    Posted in: Typhoon slams into Japan; 68 injured

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    The Japanese military spirit didn't go away, it was just channeled into industry.

    Truer words were never spoken.

    Posted in: Japan's sozzled salarymen: the lost tribe in a modern pickle

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    Tessa

    Wow! Just ... wow! A 17-year-old girl has won a Nobel Prize! I never imagined I would see the day. We are watching history in the making.

    Posted in: Malala, Satyarthi win Nobel Peace Prize

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