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    alimel1969

    Stay safe Yuri. I spoke with my parents out in OK today and looks like you all are in for more rough weather through tomorrow. There were two touchdowns NE of Tulsa within the 20 minutes phone conversation, very scary.

    Posted in: At least 91 dead in Oklahoma City tornado

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    alimel1969

    I like that the mother did what she did. I like that the teens took action and alerted the family. It does bother me though that another child was abducted and assulted just a week prior in the same complex and this little girl was out there on her own playing without adult supervision. I hope that the families living there, or anywhere else, will be more vigilant from now on so that this kind of news need not be reported again.

    Posted in: Mom chases down child abductor in New Mexico

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    alimel1969

    This is ridiculous. Unless his mother somehow forced him to hide his condition to get this job I don't see any liability on her part. Who knows what he told his mother about his employment situation. She might have been told that his employers were okay with his condition. Cut the apron strings already and let adults accept responsibility for their own actions. When I was 28 there wasn't much my parents could tell me as to how to lead my life and whatever consequences came my way was all on me.

    Posted in: Mother, employer of epileptic crane driver ordered to pay compensation over fatal accident

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    alimel1969

    Ahhh....I stand corrected hachikoreloaded. You are correct, as humans we are all fallible and often fall short of perfection.

    Posted in: 14-month-old boy dies after being hit by garbage truck

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    alimel1969

    Yurie, again that falls back to being reactive with regards to peoples postings. No one can imagine something horrific like this will happen to them but think for a second.....in not me then who? We all know it happens and it is careless to believe that you are immune to it. That is where the "better safe than sorry" mindset plays it's part. Look, I hear these stories all the time. I am an auto accident adjuster in the US and investigate accidents everyday. (I work from my home office so that is why I get to be home with my children and watch them the way I want them to be watched). Perhaps this is why I am able to remove my emotions and fingerpointing from this. I want more details before reaching a conclusion. Do not let the ones who are jumping on your posts get to you or make you angry, they are expressing their opinions just like you and I are doing. Don't let them bait you into an argument and remain civil like you are with me and just discuss. Differing opinions are good, it allows us to think in a direction that we didn't come up with on our own. We still don't have to agree with it after giving it thought though, lol. After all, our opinions and the right to express them is ours to choose.

    Posted in: 14-month-old boy dies after being hit by garbage truck

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    alimel1969

    Yurie, I don't think you understand what I said about emotions. I didn't say anyone lacked emotions here, least of all you. I said that many are posting based on emotions. Which directions they blame will be based on their own opinions by experience and observation. Most people are reactive and not proactive. Like with most situations there is a lot of finger pointing but no solutions. As I said before, everyone is right and everyone is wrong, this is not a black and white situation. All parties involved hold a certain amount of responsibility but with so little details it is hard to say who really holds the larger burden of responsibility.

    And truth be told, it's not about money when keeping your children safe, it's about vigilance. You make do with what you have in all aspects of life including childrens safety. With my oldest we were in our 20's and had very little. And, truth be told, little knowledge or experience and made our fair share of mistakes. I don't doubt this mother is probably in the worst place imaginable right now emotionally. Lessons are learned with experience. However I will say this, with as much that is reported in the news about these types of accidents, this is not another lesson that was needed to be learned but should have already been a concern to many parents out there. We all need to approach situations with a "better safe than sorry" attitude, especially when it comes to children.

    Posted in: 14-month-old boy dies after being hit by garbage truck

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    alimel1969

    Yurie, I have a daughter your age and one that is 6 yrs old. Like you, my oldest would leave her sister outside, but I don't. I live on a street that does not have a lot of traffic but a lot of speeders. My oldest doesn't think of the potential danger and expect that her little sister will just mind her and stay put. When my children were toddlers I was always with them outside the home. Inside the house they were always on the same level of the home as I was on. I had baby gates set up, doors and windows latched, only use back burners on the stove, etc. When shopping my littles wore a harness or held my hand always. Only when they started school were they completely out of my sight. It's the parents duty to foresee and avoid possible dangers. It's the promise that I and countless parents made that we will keep them safe. That's why people are reacting so greatly to the parents. And no, making yourself a cup of tea while your sister plays is not neglect....unless you left her outside with no supervision to monitor her safety.

    Keep in mind too that most people are reactive when they read news that a child has been hurt or killed and many times post based on emotions. But this story is not black and white as there is so few details as to what really happened. The truth is, with what little is reported everyone is right and everyone is wrong. SHould the parents been more vigilant of where their children were playing and their surroundings? Yes. Should the driver been more vigilant in his driving and actions in a residential area with narrow street? Yes. Had everyone done what they should have done would this child be alive today? Yes.

    Posted in: 14-month-old boy dies after being hit by garbage truck

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    alimel1969

    The truth is that no one can say with any certainty who is at fault here until the entire story is told. But as a mother I hold any parent with greater burden of responsibility of keeping their children safe and out of harms way.....it's our duty to do so.

    Posted in: 14-month-old boy dies after being hit by garbage truck

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    alimel1969

    At 14 the girl knew what she was doing. However, she did not know or appreciate the consequences of her choices and actions, no matter what she thinks. At this age most kids can only see what is right in front of them. "Adults and parents are stupid, it's our life so we can do what what we want, blah, blah, blah". There are consequences to every one of our choices and most teens cannot see far enough as to how these choices will affect their future. That's why it's up to the grown folks to set rules and laws to protect the children. No, she is not innocent. Yes, she made her choice. But the responsibility of this specific incidence is on the 39 yr old man who was more concerned with fullfilling his fetish and showed no regard to the young girl in front of him.

    Posted in: 39-year-old man arrested for paying 14-year-old girl for sex

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    alimel1969

    Cleo, I actually understand and agree with your last comment. When I worked outside the home I seemed to have had more time than I do now that I work from my home office. In order to be able to work from home I took a pay cut so I do more around the house to balance the loss in income. I also find that I have less of a social life now that I am at home. I don't think that one is better over the other, just different.

    Posted in: Mama-friendships can be deceptive

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    alimel1969

    @kimuzukasiiiii Fair enough...my fault for not being clear enough. I am not assuming that I am better because I am older. These younger mothers at my daughters school never included the older mothers to begin with. Just saying that many of us are at a point in life where it does not bother us as it might of before and most of us have no desire to compete. This is not my first rodeo, I also have a twenty year old so I speak from personal experience of the different mind set based on age of these mommy social groups. My not giving a $hit in my 40's differs from when I didn't give a $hit in my twenties. I hope this clears up any misunderstanding and that I was not attempting to offend anyone.

    Posted in: Mama-friendships can be deceptive

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    alimel1969

    My mommy friends and I call this behavior MOM-petition and they exist everywhere. My child is in kindergarten and I am in my 40's so the young moms leave me alone and I associate with the other "older" moms who have already reached the age of "I don't give a $hit".

    Posted in: Mama-friendships can be deceptive

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    alimel1969

    How can anyone call this a mercy killing? The mother herself stated it was because SHE was tired of caring for her son. Don't get me wrong, I understand that she might have been at the end of her rope and exhausted with caring for her son. But her quotes by the police were about how she felt and how it affected her. No where did it mention that this is what her son wanted. And just how merciful is it to strangle him with a cord? If this were truly a mercy killing then she would have done it as painlessly as possible to ease her sons suffering. It sounds more like she snapped.

    Posted in: Woman confesses to killing 25-year-old mentally disabled son

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    alimel1969

    TBS quoted police as saying that the man will be charged with unauthorized disposal of a corpse.

    But he didn't dispose of the body......

    Posted in: Tokyo man arrested after living with father's corpse

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    alimel1969

    Nothing gets me more angry than a child dying from shaken baby syndrone. This is not a man, and certainly not a father. You want to read about a real father then read about the man who died protecting his daughter in the blizzard.

    Posted in: Man arrested for shaking 6-month-old daughter to death

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    alimel1969

    Very sad news. This girl was loved very much and I am sure her father can rest peacefully having been able to protect his little girl.

    Posted in: Father dies sheltering 9-year-old daughter from blizzard

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    alimel1969

    @Deplore, if that were the case then why bother with doors at all?

    Posted in: Normal behavior in Japan, taboo abroad

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    alimel1969

    Another interesting one. Matome Naver suggests that in the US and Europe it’s impolite to knock on a bathroom stall to check if it is open. They say it’s like saying, “Hurry up and get out!” and shouldn’t be done. Instead, they suggest jiggling the doorknob before entering a bathroom stall.

    Then why has my American self been teaching my kids to knock politely on stall doors? Oh right because the Americans I know have also been taught that it is the polite thing to do. Who came up with this garbage?

    Posted in: Normal behavior in Japan, taboo abroad

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    alimel1969

    It could be worse. At least you know where this guy stands. Better this than entering his establishment, order your lunch, while he shows his best phony smiling face and having him tamper with your food.

    Posted in: Beijing restaurant removes 'racist' sign after fury, but manager refuses to apologize

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    alimel1969

    I am just so sick over this. It's been hours since I read it but I still can't wrap my head around it. The hell these angels experienced is just too cruel to express in words. May they rest in peace and may the animals who did this be caught and prosecuted justly.

    Posted in: Three young Indian sisters raped and murdered

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