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ensnaturae2Nov. 03, 2015 - 03:27PM JST
Many people who have survived bullying ...or who are in a bullying environment..simply..do not recognise, or acknowledge that experience for what it is. Bullying..in all its disguises,is abuse. Criticism that is constructive and results in 'improvement'...is not the same process. It is based in respect and love/care for the 'pupil'..or whoever is being 'critiqued'...and NOT.in any attempt to force a required response...for some other reason A parent who induces a child to perform in a required way...by destructive criticism..is not offering constructive criticism...but is likely to be more concerned with ownself image...for example...A child nagged to do well in school..may produce similar results...at least temporarily...to one who is beaten and orridiculed...but his/herreasons for trying hard and attaining therequired
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ensnaturae2Jul. 21, 2015 - 09:28PM JST
How odd...to guess at circumstances about which you all know so little, and to be so willing to award guilt, and blame.. Possibilities are endless.Establishing paternity,.will not be difficult.
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ensnaturae2Jul. 11, 2015 - 06:30PM JST
There is very good service...in many French shops and restaurants.... Just remember that the people who work there...are not to be patronised. Thats to say...treat each person as an equal...with friendship and politeness. Restaurants are not places where you go to get food, eat and leave...no one is in a hurry in French eating. You will not be ushered out...if you sit and talk for a long time... and if that's what everyone seems to be doing...and not thinking about your needs...then be glad to be a part of a relaxed eating community. Almost everyone here gets 2 ..maybe,2 and a half hours...for lunch break ..it is not polite to demand that the custom changes to make a nation of fast-serve food.
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ensnaturae2Jul. 09, 2015 - 04:46PM JST
can't find the post again where it is pointed out that anyone providing a 'service' in France...might ...very reasonably ...expect to be treated as an equal...not any kind of 'slave'. I have known two Americans driven to paroxysms of rage...by Parisien exchanges with people they expected to be much more subservient. Having sufficient money to pay for someone's time, almost anywhere in France...does not give you the right to claim it...or to decide the kind of behaviour from them..that you are entitled to. Come to France without any sense of entitlement...is best...
I'm most familiar with the complaint 'bad service'....from British travellers or new residents in France. (Born in London but ...with several different cultural influences)... All cultures that have a strong class structure, whether based in wealth/property..or lineage/ancestors etc....no matter where in that structure anyone might identify as an 'own place'...tend to teach expectations that do not work well in less class divided societies. Do not expect anyone to behave as if you have any right to claim his/her attention, or time. If you are a millionaire or a pauper...have the courtesy to recognise that égalité means much in France. ...Not always...but very often.
ensnaturae2Jun. 06, 2015 - 07:19PM JST
Wearing/carrying babies/luggage strapped to your chest ...must be an obvious way to take better care of it...both for safety of baggage...and safety of unseen others who are out of sight...
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ensnaturae2Jun. 01, 2015 - 04:35PM JST
Yes of course you are right, Brian... there are better ways to take care of the children than I suggested...There are certainly mother.. and even very tiny baby ..swimming pool clubs..Compulsory swimming lessons could work...but I think that Japan in many ways... is exceptionally watchful over its children...I do not know the stats on water dangers/accident/drownings for children in Japan...but it may well be the case, as a previous poster suggests... that more elderly people at home, drown in bathtubs....popularly deeper/wider... than western baths... than children in rivers and lakes etc, so perhaps extra precautions would not be acceptable?
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ensnaturae2Jun. 01, 2015 - 12:31PM JST
Those people who think there ought to be life saving kit available....that sounds curious to me...Japan is one of the wateryest countries I know ...with rice paddy fields......(water deep enough to drown a child)...lakes, streams and rivers in every city...After heavy rain ..even the tiny streams are dangerous... Ive often thought about safety, but there`s no way, short of fencing it all...that could keep children right away from any risk.
ensnaturae2May. 27, 2015 - 08:28PM JST
amazing in the vid from USA ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yFkGhpy10u8 (Timtak) where the first thought of the interviewer was... that the boy was lucky to find 20$...and would have that 20$ to spend on himself... no thought of finding OWNER at all...!!!
The child gave it to a soldier, but still no thought of who had lost it... someone who may have been very poor themselves and really needed that 20$
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ensnaturae2May. 26, 2015 - 10:11PM JST
I suppose... that the attraction of Starbucks... apart from wifi access, might be that it offers a slice of a different culture...?
i cant think the food or coffee has much to do with anything...since the prices are enormous, for nothing very amazing.
it might be nice to open an all brit chip shop, or real french patisserie/cafe...with authentic people style, and goods etc..I imagine that would be a huge success... Im impressed with most French local cafes...theres a true french style ...part of it is... you can bring your own choice of food ...from anywhere you like...dont have to buy it in the cafe...just drink their coffee and talk the talk.. ...read the journals...bring your dog in... if it doesnt fight with the resident dog... etcetcetc
and stay a long time...
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ensnaturae2May. 26, 2015 - 04:40AM JST
Yes, dialogue definitely ...for an attempt to 'win'... That is, if 'win' in this case means, 'gain useful insight.' .However..no win is ever guaranteed, I feel sure.
Western verbal exchanges are often challenges, or competetive, combative...full of shades of aggression, criticism, insult, implied 'wrongness', judgement or psychological diagnosis. The first/important part of useful dialogue is to really want to know how the other person feels about the topic. What is it ...in the topic, that is of interest to them. Nothing can be demanded, or required, in dialogue. Look for whatever it is, in the other... that they are glad and willing to give, share. Not what is required by rule or demand. Nothing, ever.. can be demanded. Husbands and wives might build many different kinds of pair bonds. I would not ever want to enter into one which was master/servant. Superior/inferior. Controller/controlled. etc.
Complex but interesting. The bottom line is inevitably, two whole people, capable of separate, independent lives...who choose to resolve difficulties, discuss and share points of view... together. (some small quotes from 'Speaking Peace' ...by Marshall Rosenberg)
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ensnaturae2May. 22, 2015 - 01:54AM JST
I wonder how many more milennia it will take for men and women, globally... to be able to talk to each other as singular creatures, each having his her own mind, and life experiences, instead of mindless meatballs on legs. No one can guess or be taught by anyone else...how any husband, or wife... thinks or feels. It is a dreadful cruelty, not a ridiculous unfunny joke... to think otherwise. Get to know one another ...talk to each other, as singular people with deepest feelings, before the chance is lost. It really isnt funny to be treated in such an ignorant unfeeling way.
ensnaturae2May. 15, 2015 - 03:40PM JST
comparing kamikazi equally..to suicide bombers is the activity of biased indoctrinated minds. No, they are not the same... and there are too many reasons why, to list. Just read the available information, and think about it more carefully. To forget...any of it...if anyone can bear to preserve evidence and memories...given the human propensity to twist the facts to suit fashionable thinking of the day...is a sad and irresponsible path to take. Keep every bit of evidence, keep every note, every thought, every voice from that time... as evidence. Let the world understand as long as it can, what a miserable mess it is possible to achieve, even with the best possible intentions.
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ensnaturae2Apr. 23, 2015 - 07:45PM JST
Well clearly..the worst of it...is not having reasonable charge of the children regardless of fault/blame etc. As for the rest...it appears loveless and futile....If I felt sure there was no way to improve the relstionship, I would not stay there.
It sounds like subjection to a culture, not a marriage at all.ie caring supportive relationship of two people...in fact...even with the children out of my contact...Now...I think I might leave in any case...while making absolutely sure to establish ways to stay in their sight or mind...even if it meant paying for giant posters on their way to school...somehow...make surethe kkids know that all that stops them being with the missing parent...is the law....and that love goes on...How old does a child have to be before it can begin to think in independent terms? Many 14 year olds might be willing to take off...
Years pass quickly...stay in touch, somehow, anyhow...employ private detectives, never give up...
Enjoy the intrigue if possible...dont let it get you down...ridiculous materialistic marriages....t
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ensnaturae2Apr. 14, 2015 - 02:24AM JST
You can get telly from everywhere with free OLA unblocker, I think...
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ensnaturae2Mar. 07, 2015 - 09:17PM JST
The most important issue in all harassment and bad treatment related to parental care.is to remember that, ultimately...it is the children who suffer stress as much as, if not more than their mothers, in these circumstances. If there is even more harassment because of the unmarried status of a mother, and lack of support from its father as is commonly the case in Europe and USA, so that the parent is at the mercy of a hostile society, this may also adversely affect any child's development and the rest of its life, as well as causing the distress for its mother.
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ensnaturae2Mar. 06, 2015 - 08:08AM JST
Not accurate to say... Islam is a religion same as any other religion!.
It is a whole political/legal/religious system in one org.
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ensnaturae2Mar. 04, 2015 - 07:55PM JST
Thank you WilliB....its astonishing how few people recognise the similarity between the brutality of the jihadis, and the brutality of Muhammed himself, and those who hope to emulate him. Please, all readers ... go check up for yourself... the military stature of Muhammed. He was not simply a prophet of peace.. not by any means...An immensely powerful ..military General who fought and won numeros battles...and carried out his own brutal slaughter and enslavement. And he is the model and perfect example for all young Muslims to emulate, and the rest of the world obliged ...by extremist threat, to respect.
Hate and bigotry have nothing to do with the discussion about the religious and political system that YOU will choose for yourself, your children and grandchildren if you support the development of Islam and Islamic law. Have you examined carefully, the system .. religious/political... of Islam?...and do you want it to be your own? What do you know about Muhammed, as political?military and religious leader? Are you aware that he was a fierce military leader and that he kept his own slaves? Islam is not about any kind of religious faith alone... it is about creating a world system of law and order of a very particular kind, with religion inseparable.. from your government. There is no more detailed, precise book of rules than the quran. There is no reason to hate anyone. It is simply a question of safeguarding your preferred rights and freedoms in law and government. It is very unlikely that Muslims will ever make strong complaints against the killings and cruelties of extremist, as long as they reflect Muhammeds own. He is beyond criticism, for Muslims, they are not allowed to say he was cruel or wrong. Hate no one, be kind to everyone. but do not throw away those few precious freedoms won so far, by handing power to a religious organisation of any kind.
ensnaturae2Mar. 02, 2015 - 11:25PM JST
It is not enough for the overwhelming majority of Muslims to reject the jihadi madness.!
It is not enough for the religious leaders of Islam, to say Peace is their motivation.
Are young Muslims around the world...encouraged to revere. and emulate the man Muhammed...as a perfect example...who kept slaves, who practiced butchery....who was prepared to fight with all the violence necessary to protect and spread his faith ...of Islam? Or are they not?
Is everyone else around the world permitted to see and discuss fault of any kind, in the leader of Islam, Muhammed, ...or not? Muhammed kept slaves and butchered his enemies. Was he a perfect example, or not? Is he beyond criticism,... so that how ever many more young people ...will look up to violence and cruelty as a good way to defend a religion, or not?
ensnaturae2Mar. 02, 2015 - 10:57PM JST
The determination to protect and respect religious freedom, fails to take into account important differences in Islam from others of the worlds religions. With many battles, carefully recorded and undisputed, Mohammed was a successful military leader, a General, a statesman, charismatic and bold, as well as prophet. Young Muslims worldwide are exhorted to look up to him as a perfect example ... and this is how many of them think of him. It must be remembered that the violence done by extreme groups, is a reflection of that offered by Muhammed himself, to enemies of his faith, with slavery and extreme brutality the result of actions taken by infidels, against the spread of Islam, and its essential Sharia law. If Muhammed is to be considered perfect, and to be emulated by all Muslims, without criticism, and with reverence, then I fail to see how his own brutality and that of his followers, will be easily excluded from carefully studied behaviour patterns, and detailed events. Perhaps there are Muslims here who can clarify? Meanwhile, while no criticism of the leader himself may be offered, then I suspect young people worldwide, may well be attracted to what appears to be a group of daring, devil may care, followers, following Muhammeds own example and passions in their spiritual fire.. for the faith?
ensnaturae2Feb. 20, 2015 - 05:57PM JST
I always buy my reading glasses, 6 to 10 pairs at a time, in the 100 yen shop. There is no way at all to compare cost and value with any other reading glasses available. Thus..they are disposable, if a little scratched or marked, if squashed out of shape. My eyes benefit from always clear view lenses. I have learned too, that ones sight can be altered by different conditions and events... stress or certain ailments, moods or foods...might all bring about different sight capability, so I have a selection of different lens strengths from 1.50 to 3. And out of my selection..I choose the best for the day. I buy the largest lenses available, those with wire, no-ornament frames...for a painter... they give the least cluttered and widest possible view. Thank you Daiso. Another product I always buy when in Japan is the big packs of chopsticks. I need to do so little washing up, when a set of chopstixs at such a micro price for a huge pack, can be used several times before being recycled for other uses. I have no use whatsoever for style or name brands of anything, and the most basic of kitchen goods available, suits my purposes. I do not want to waste a moment of my life working to pay for nonessential trivia. Basic food supplies are sometimes useful ..although there is not a lot to beat the Kombini onigiri...The scissors and nailclippers proved much more durable than I could have imagined, and the soft crayons in brilliant colors together with good art papers in different sizes, are excellent. Different kinds of bags, in a wide range of sizes and styles, seem to last for ever. I found the padded insoles for shoes, very comfortable.
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Isn't this sort of result wanted?
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