JAPAN NEWS AND DISCUSSION
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- Assistant Language Teacher (ALT) in Kanto region
- RCS (RCSコーポレーション), Kanto
- Salary: ¥180,000 ~ ¥250,000 / Month includes performance bonus
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- Assistant Language Teacher - TOKYO - late-March start
- Interac, Tokyo
- Salary: ¥230,000 ~ ¥255,000 / Month
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- Assistant Language Teacher - Kanagawa Prefecture - late-March start
- Interac, Kanagawa
- Salary: ¥230,000 ~ ¥255,000 / Month
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fishy
yes, 100% agree about this.
agree about this, too ;)
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fishy
Zenny,
Sorry.. I generally agree with things you say, but it actually is a fact that visitation right isn't enforceable. Lawyers/court can advice people, call them and etc, but there really is no punishment, and that is why sadly there are people who cannot see their children even though they pay lots of $$ to their lawyers/court. There are people who follow court order regarding visitation right, but there are also people who ignore, and there is no punishment for those who ignore. Same thing about child support $$. Ones that decide they don't want to pay anymore... even if they refuse to pay after a court order, there really is no punishment.
So, it is really best for two people to work thing out towards their mutual interest (to make their kids happy and give them what they deserve).
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fishy
There's actually truth in this. Even when a parent has visitation right, of the other party says no, there's no way to really enforce it. I agree on that. However, I have been saying this many times.. TWO PEOPLE work things out without involving law and court, and if TWO PEOPLE (parents) set their priority right and put their children before them, they can forget about all those legal terms and visitation RIGHT and all that.. And I do know divorced Japanese couples who never involved lawyer/court and they are letting each other share their kids and kids have access to both families. When people involve court/lawyer because of their incompetence to work things out after the split, #%$T%#$T happens, so... work things out between the two people and don't let the kids see #$%Y%T.
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fishy
yes, she accepted the money. she tried to find a job, tried to go to college.. she tried to live there. but she couldn't take it anymore when savoie's new wife would drop by to get the kids and drop them off, and they critisized noriko and all that.. she felt miserable.
it was only when she couldn't take it anymore, she decided to return to japan.
the way she did wasn't good, but i can see why she felt that she couldn't be there anymore and wanted to return to THEIR home country...
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fishy
i thought she wasn't going to the states to get divorced. she and the kids went there in order to re-start, not to end. and when she and the kids went to the states with savoie, there was no money talk.. he only presented the $$$ after he told her he wanted a divorce.
they had talked about divorce while living in japan but noriko thought they were not going to after all and start again in savoie's hometown.. that was a trick, though. she didn't know..
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fishy
and i agree with you Nigelboy. 100%!
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fishy
i know i was just joking.
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fishy
junnama-
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fishy
oh well... HA HA, EVERY LITTLE THING goes to counrt in America!!
Posted in: Savoie's suit against judge dismissed in child abduction
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fishy
zenny-
thanks, and sometimes by involving a lawyer can make things even messier because lawyers often give their clients more ideas to get MORE... the more ideas they get, the more they want, and by talking to a lawyer, people often realize how much they CAN get from the other party.. sigh.
i repeat what i had said before.. but just because one parent has the custody, that doesn't mean the other parent cannot have the access to the kids. people can decide who to have custody without involving lawyer/court in Japan. you simply put a check mark on the divorce paper to file to the government office. this is just for a precedure... the rest is up to the couple/parents. they sit down and decide what the arrangement will be for the parent who does not live with the child.
i do realize some divorces are NASTY and MESSY... and I understand it and I'm not denying it, sfip330. but i want to say that those nasty divorces are not majority.
Posted in: Savoie's suit against judge dismissed in child abduction
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fishy
sfip330-
Of course, if you've talked to a DIVORCE LAWYER, then he/she will tell you all the nasty messy stories. And as Nigelboy stated, less than 1% of divorce in Japan involves lawyer/court. And no, I'm not a dreamer. I know sometimes @#$#@%#$ happens when couples split, but I'm just speaking from my experience and of friends I personally know of. If you're reading news like Savoie's case, of course divorce in Japan seem terrible.. same thing about talking to divorce lawyer.. they'll tell you all the terrible things you can imagine.. but the reality is, majority of people work things out. Those who can't, unfortunately, makes news!
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fishy
Well, I don't think so. The reason why things are messy for Savoie and the family is because Savoie and Noriko couldn't be mature and responsible enough to arrange things FOR the kids. One parent having sole custody doesn't mean the other parent cannot see the kids. One parent can have custody and if they work things out, the other parent can have a regular access to children and those Japanese divorced couples with kids I mentioned in my earlier comment, all of them, the mothers have the custody. However, they talked and worked things out so that even though on the paper it says the mother has the custody, they still make sure that the kids get to see daddy, too. In this country, parents who do not have the custody CAN see their kids and spend time together when they work things out before they let things messy.. and though those mature, responsible people don't appear on news (because it isn't news worthy), most people work things out before divorce. The ones who couldn't do that involve lawyers and battle over their kids and they are on the news.
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fishy
I said..
sfip330 said...
and here I go again...
Most divorce cases in Japan do not include lawyers, and as I have stated in my comment (see the first quote above -- those are my words) it is very very important when parents split, they need to see beyond their OWN happiness and SET THE PRIORITY RIGHT. And there is NO LAW in Japan that says divorced parents cannot have access to their children. If both parties are responsible and can cherish their children's happiness, and they make sure the kids are happy and even after the split, they have THE SAME INTEREST TO MAKE THEIR KIDS HAPPY. Even when parents divorce, this MUTUAL INTEREST SHOULD NOT CHANGE. When a couple divorce and when they cannot see beyond their happiness, that is when the law is involved. Other than that, two mature, responsible people SHOULD BE ABLE TO sit down and talk, arrange things to make sure that their kids can get what they deserve.
It's NOT about the law, it's ABOUT THS TWO ADULTS whether they can act like adults or not. I personally know several Japanese couples who are divorced with children and their kids have access to both parents and they visit grandparents on both father's side and mother's side. What they did was NOT to involve the law but use common sense and LOVE FOR THEIR KIDS after deciding the couples wouldn't work as couples.. but they knew that they were still parents and loved their kids.
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fishy
google Ken Thompson, Australia.. then you'll see an example of an Australian mother taking their little son away to Europe.. Took the father 2 years to find where the son and the mother were..
Anyways.. This IS a huge problem not only when the parents are Japanese and non-Japanese... and I kind of agree with Zenny.. Japan just signing the convention won't really change the situation although like smith said, it is a good step forward.
this happens in so many parts of the world and when the kids have double nationality, one country claims the kids belong to their country while the other country claims the kids are theirs.. In Savoie's case, America might see this as a case of American children while Japan see it as a case of Japanese children..
kids' happiness should be the priority but when parents are divorced, often they cannot see beyond their own happiness.. they have to set the priority right when they split, and that goes to ALL parents in ALL countries..
having said that, by Japan signing the convention and if it becomes big news and makes people here more aware of what's happening, it is definitely a good thing as the first step should be for people to be AWARE.
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fishy
always be a demand for --- translators/interpreters, teachers, sports ( baseball/soccer etc) players, cook.
endangered - rental video/DVD/CD shops.
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fishy
i'm assuming there are many pictures of her and people would probably buy the book just to see the pictures, not to actually read it lol
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fishy
Zenny- Yes, you are correct. However, most Izakayas and stores don't check people's ID unless they look VERY young. 18-year-olds can easily buy beer, chuhai, and other alcohol beverages at most local supermarkets as well. What I meant to point out was that the LEGAL drinking age and ACTUAL age that most people start drinking in Japan do not match, and it is widely accepted -- NOT saying it's good (so you know I am NOT encouraging minors to drink alcohol).. just stating the fact.
Posted in: 18-year-old female university student dies of alcohol poisoning
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fishy
Zenny-
LEGALLY, you have to become 18 to drink alcohol, but it is so widely accepted to drink once you enter college or once you turn 18.. parents and 18-year-olds might go to izakaya together when they enter college, or some 18-year-olds might treat their parents at Izakaya with their first pay check and kampai with beer..
I'm not saying it is good to drink underage, but there was even an argument and government once discussed the possibility of lowering the official drinking age..
18 is minor, but not children.. i don't think any universities would say No to bringing alcohol to a school party..
it is sad but i'd say this was an accident, and people who have just started drinking alcohol should take it easy and not drink much... Drink little first and learn what your limit is...
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fishy
Ifeelmust-
Not necessarily. This girl obviously didn't realize her limit, and some people have higher alcohol tolerance while some have very low tolerance. This girl being 18 and she didn't know how much SHE could drink.. so she might not have had TOO much alcohol in the eyes of others but unfortunately she might have had very low alcohol tolerance.
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fishy
i like her music.. well, as long as her music is downloaded and her CDs are selling, people singing her songs at karaoke and etc, she gets money every month.. she's lucky she can do what she wants to do without worrying about money as long as she doesn't spend like Lindsay Lohan.. hope she goes back to school and finish this time, and hope the media will leave her alone.
so, this means that Columbia is admitting that people with fame and money can get into Columbia even if they don't have the ability?????????? lol
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