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jpntdytmrowMay. 24, 2016 - 05:31PM JST
Marriage is not easy. It is particularly difficult when companies include long work hours, extra and unexpected work, obligatory participation in non-work-related events, including weddings and funerals (like the boss's grandmother!! I kid you not). Weekly meetings after work with much required alcohol consumption, rare nights at home with the family, particularly hard to handle when a woman has children to tend to, bathe, cook for, read stories, illnesses to deal with, without any help whatsoever, and a spouse comes home high from a great and productive night out in Ginza with entertainment and may not have any patients in dealing with children vomiting, having diarrhea, 39 degree fevers or babies that will just not go to sleep despite the looming hangover of the father.
I am lucky that my husband never referred to me as a "dragon" or a "parasite" like some of the commenters obviously see women. Those are the very men who are most likely not a full partner and enjoying the depth of family and friendship a marriage can offer.
This is a reality in Japanese families. Add to this a job that the wife may have to juggle. She decides it is better to let her busy and over-worked husband sleep alone and focus on his career. I have a letter from a former executive "explaining " how it was essential for me to be supportive of my husband's career.
Couples often seem to hate one another here and do not actually communicate and have fun. After decades of marriage, grown children, we are better friends. The hellish early child-rearing times are over. What next. Okay, get to know one another again. We bought a great new bed. Sleep really well and together. The new mattress is so good the other does not even know when another is getting up in the middle of the night!
We do not discuss our marital problems with others. Tempting. But, it is our rule. Sometimes we are so busy we have to make appointments to meet. Social media can be so interesting that one forgets that one actually lives with other humans! So, we limit it and make time to be together. As sexual activity naturally wanes, there are a lot of other things to do and are fun! We try to stay at least physical. Build things. Take power walks. Recently, we were really angry at each other. We walked in silence for like, 2 hours, burning calories and stuck out in the middle of nowhere, but it was great! Go ahead and be angry but play paint ball or buy water guns! Don't think about divorce just because he or she is a jerk at some point! Admit our own weak points and kiss and make up.
Set up a bar at home and sing bar songs, rock songs, Country and Western songs, enka, whatever. Record them and listen and do the unthinkable-- LAUGH!
I do not want to be a stuffy old couple. We plan on being human around any ensuing in-laws and/or grandkids.
We have had to lighten up!
Not easy, but in it for the long haul! Till death or murder do us part! 31 years down, few more to go!
Keep positive, JT.
Posted in: Retirement can create multiple tensions at home
jpntdytmrowMar. 16, 2016 - 09:20AM JST
For sho! Leave this ridiculous place and get some real training from pros,
do some real acting or writing or anything, but why would anyone waste
all that training and education to become a ludicrous J-talento?
Dead end and meaningless career!
Of all the things not to have on my tombstone..."J-talento" is in the top 3 at least!
Go do something real!
Posted in: Becky remains secluded at home following enforced leave from show biz
jpntdytmrowFeb. 17, 2016 - 01:18PM JST
Humas can still be used in the sex industry, organ donations, battle fields, prisons......but seriously,
it has to be thought about. What can people do that robots cannot?
We have to admit that all things being equal, all human beings are not being raised and educated equally.
Food, shelter, schooling, financial security are not what greets all new borns.
It is a reality.
Posted in: Intelligent robots threaten millions of jobs
jpntdytmrowJan. 24, 2016 - 01:20PM JST
Here's a deal: he shoots himself, I vote for him!
Posted in: Confident Trump says he could 'shoot people' and not lose voters
jpntdytmrowJan. 24, 2016 - 08:51AM JST
There was a home in our rural town whose cottage industry was making these balloons and delivering them to companies. The home burned down some years ago. But, I wonder when I see these in say, car dealerships, if they are made of special materials that withstand heat and cold changes. They seem not to be the average kiddie party types sold at 100 yen shops.
Posted in: Balloon burst
jpntdytmrowJan. 07, 2016 - 11:12AM JST
Japan will send a huge cache of plutonium—enough to produce ** 50 nuclear bombs**
—to the United States as part of a deal to return the material that was used for research, reports and officials said Tuesday.
"Some 331 kilograms of the highly fissionable material will be sent by ship to
** a nuclear facility in South Carolina by the end of March**,
Kyodo News reported Monday in a dispatch from Washington that cited unnamed Japanese government sources. "
No one comments on THAT!?
Posted in: Japan to send plutonium cache to U.S. under nuclear deal
jpntdytmrowDec. 30, 2015 - 10:58PM JST
a few of the hard to chew and swallow foods I can think of that elderly might avoid altogether for their rather "rubbery" textures.
Posted in: Authorities appeal to elderly to be careful when eating 'mochi'
jpntdytmrowDec. 26, 2015 - 08:48PM JST
Happy holidays, to all the commenters here!
Totally forgot what the article was about and before we knew it, we were on You Tube cruising down the mean streets with Isaac Hayes and John Shaft.
Where are the people with guts?
"Shaft. You're damm right!"
Posted in: On Muslims, Democrats find an unlikely ally: George W Bush
jpntdytmrowDec. 26, 2015 - 01:44PM JST
Not at all. Nor is it outdated for a woman to offer her seat to a man who is in need. What goes around comes around as they say. The Golden Rule and all that. Just be kind. It feels good, too, no matter the social status or gender.
The other day, a middle-aged woman occupied the 4-seater compartments on a rural train. I asked to sit. She begrudgingly let me. THEN, she took off her hiking boots AND socks and began massaging her FEET!
Amazing! No, manners are limited to one gender!
Posted in: Do you think that a man giving up his seat on a bus or train to a woman, holding a door open for her or holding her chair as she sits down is outmoded?
jpntdytmrowNov. 23, 2015 - 10:09PM JST
from the ROCKET NEWS (not) 24
"Other anomalies include Finland which ranked high among European countries with 74% of people willing to throw down. Perhaps because they have the solemn duty of protecting Santa’s workshop at all costs."
I completely agree with obvious complete lack of knowledge of anything by the (insert own adjective here) who wrote this article.
Whatever may have possibly and even remotely had teeth in this article is completely null and void by the obvious lack of knowledge of say.....oh, 20th Century history, particularly ....WWII perhaps?!
Look at a map and that in and of itself should be a clue that Finland was lucky not to have become like Estonia or any other country bordering the USSR!!!
People with memories of that experience are still alive.
Thanks to Mocheake and Noble 713 for drawing attention to this. Why oh why do we have to have Rocket (news)24 around?
Posted in: Only 11% of Japanese people willing to fight for their country: Gallup survey
jpntdytmrowNov. 20, 2015 - 09:41PM JST
Meanwhile, the EDUCATIONAL program for CHILDREN,
'Sesame Street' Introduces A New Muppet Character With Autism
Updated October 22, 2015·5:03 PM ET
Thanks for sending this to the 2020 hosts of the Paralympics http://www.paralympic.org/
Where does it stop? Retired persons not contributing to society? Anyone over ...let's say...70?
Wonder how long this article will stay in the archives before being removed?
jpntdytmrowNov. 11, 2015 - 03:35PM JST
Note to self: If caught on highway having raw eggs dropped on my car, remember location of bridge. Exit next ramp.
Drive back to bridge. Stop at a convenient store to buy .....raw eggs.....as many cartons as they have. Go to bridge. Get out of car and throw eggs at the jerks on the bridge until the police arrive.
500 eggs would take a long time to drop so how were they able to have so much time for this act TWICE in ONE day from the SAME bridge!?
Posted in: 2 brothers arrested for throwing eggs from bridge at cars on Tomei Expressway
jpntdytmrowNov. 03, 2015 - 09:01PM JST
Well, the readers have spoken. No one asks us for our opinion but hopefully someone is reading.
Rumsfeld is not respected and people do not agree with this honor being placed upon him.
This article seems like a candidate for one of those articles of significance that
will be soon labeled as "no longer available" when wanting to refer to it again at a later date.
jpntdytmrowOct. 31, 2015 - 08:36AM JST
Ogata for Prime Minister, please!!
Survey of some better seniors in a Japanese high school class showed me that most thought Japan should not take in refugees. Reasons were: Japan is and island. Japan has not fixed Tohoku. The Olympics are too expensive. It is too hard for foreigners to adapt to Japan. There are not enough jobs for them and that will lead them t riot.Japanese cannot communicate with foreigners. There are not enough nursery schools to take care of them. Japan is too far and they will not enjoy it here.
Only a few said they thought Japan should accept them. Many said they honestly had not heard about the situation.
Posted in: Ogata urges Japan to do more to help refugees
jpntdytmrowOct. 31, 2015 - 08:32AM JST
I agree with blocking off certain areas to avoid the traffic stress.
"Let the children have their night of fun and laughter." Winston Churchill (different holiday, though;o).
Posted in: No tricks: Halloween all the rage in Japan as costume play
jpntdytmrowOct. 31, 2015 - 08:28AM JST
Parties all over. Kawasaki, Odaiba, Hachioji, Kokubunji Station on the 24th, even kindergartens are getting into it!Mine has had a real scary one for 10 years! Kids love it! One for little ones tonight with a local parade.
Posted in: Police to be out in force in Tokyo for Halloween on Friday, Saturday nights
jpntdytmrowOct. 30, 2015 - 04:55PM JST
Exactly. I have fond memories of writing nengajo by hand and being excited to get the stack on New Year's Day. I have all of my grandmother's letters saved.
nakanoguy01Oct. 30, 2015 - 04:03PM JST
"i know more and more people have stopped sending negajo, but it really is nice to get something from old friends once a year letting you know how they are. i hate facebook letting me know the minutae of everyone's daily lives. TMI!"
Posted in: New Year postcards go on sale
jpntdytmrowOct. 29, 2015 - 04:58PM JST
I watched this several times and noticed every time that the woman, is basically doing in English what many Japanese women do in Roppongi, and that is laughing an anything a "gaijin" man says. It would be great if the show were really about the business and other talents of these women alone and things that would make them more interesting.
It seems more like a Hugh Hefner type show with his groopies of "intelligent beauties."
Didn't seem like the women had much to do with giving us a new image of the image of "Japanese women" so often seen in the want ads of men looking for "the right Japanese woman." Kind of GHQ-ish.
Or, 1970's-ish? Maybe Bubble era at best? Something old-school.Watch. Japanese women who can speak English.
Posted in: Introducing Japan's first English reality show
jpntdytmrowOct. 24, 2015 - 07:52AM JST
Japan comes UP to the level of KUWTK.
jpntdytmrowOct. 09, 2015 - 08:06AM JST
Basically liked all the replies.
Owned a Chevy Blazer. FUN! BUT, parts corroded and brake pads wore out on rural winding roads in Japan.
Parts were hard to get and expensive and the gas mileage.... well, could not afford to keep that joy ride!
Have owned 3 Toyotas. Why three? All extremely good, rarely any trouble, save some road damage to tires.
Parts easily accessible. Brake pads on same winding roads NEVER needed replacing! All cars were bought used, in great condition. Japanese take good care of cars so used ones are naturally, still good! So, why did I replace the cars?
Because the shaken became too much for the value of the car, so I replaced them with bettr but used cars. What happened to the used cars? Well, they found a new life in "some countries in Asia."
There are any number of used car dealers from various Asian countries willing to ship a good used Toyota or part it out.
They are coveted in Central Asia, too. I would want a reliable car in the desert and on treacherous narrow, steep mountain roads where landslides occur and there is extreme temperature change. Next car, a used TOYOTA!! 100%
Posted in: Why do extremists drive Toyotas? asks U.S.
Search the Largest English Job Board in Japan.
Jun. 01, 2016 - 10:40AM JST
Don't most households have 2-3 TVs? Its 2016, not 1950.
Actually, it's 1965. But with smartphones.
Posted in: Woman assaults 14-year-old son over TV channel dispute
By Japanese nomenclature, my humble abode is called a 'mansion'. So "high rise" may or may…
Posted in: 114 children under the age of 5 fell from high-rise Tokyo buildings in last 5 years
As long as the press has the freedom to publish whatever they like (minus lies and…
Posted in: Combative Trump says he raised $5.6 million for vets, bashes media
Jun. 01, 2016 - 10:39AM JST
one would also be a burden to society.
Please, not that Aso Taro's view again....
Posted in: No. of suicides falls to 24,025 in 2015
Jun. 01, 2016 - 10:38AM JST
Don't most households have 2-3 TVs? Its 2016, not 1950.
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