Thursday February 16, 2012

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    kirakira25

    Gurukun - clever!

    Posted in: Man robbed of cash and clothes on way home in Tokyo

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    I have to agree with Pachipro. I worked for another very large Japanese vehicle manufacturer years ago in the UK, and the Japanese there were wonderful, it was the British management that caused all the problems.

    Posted in: Toyota chief apologizes over recalls, accidents in House testimony

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    kirakira25

    Thank god then that the doctor fitted me with an IUD and not an IED as I originally mistakenly requested! Got a bit confused! THAT would`ve set the alarms off!!!

    Posted in: New ticket gate that checks for explosives tested at Akihabara station

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    Great. I am shocked at how badly maintained a lot of these public schools seem to be. And I am sending my daughter into one from April. It looks pretty on the outside thanks to a recent paintjob, but the inside is dank, dark and crumbling.

    Hey, that could be a metaphor!

    Posted in: 13 children hospitalized after falling ill at Saitama school

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    I am a part of this society that kyokosmile allegedly insulted too, but I have to admit she is right - where is the outrage that would follow a story like this somewhere like the UK? I dont see it carrying a prime-time spot in the news, or commentators getting together to lament the state of "broken Japan". Its just move on, business as usual...and then it happens again. And again. And again. Im not saying the UK is any better than Japan - its not. But I can`t understand the lack of reaction by society to these kinds of stories.

    Posted in: Bodies of two infants found in supermarket freezer

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    I feel terribly sorry for the poor person who found these babies. Not something you could ever erase from your memory I would imagine.

    Posted in: Bodies of two infants found in supermarket freezer

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    People who say we are all jumping to conclusions are right. But the facts certainly don`t look good. So young, stepfather, covered in bruises and an unexplained death....hard not to jump to conclusions.

    Posted in: Child abuse suspected after bruised 3-year-old girl dies

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    What is it with this society and grown adults being unable to make lifelong important decisions - because of their parents??!

    A friend of mine has exactly the same problem right now. He is LOVELY, gorgeous looking, a doctor no less, a fabulous catch for anyone - but her parents dont think so beacause she went to a "better" university than he did (hers was within Japan top 4, his within top 10)! They think she can "do better" - trust me, there is no one better than this guy! I would marry him myself if I wasnt already taken!

    Posted in: Anna Umemiya's relationship with footballer over

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    Was this just a hug? If so, totally inappropriate, but the woman seems to be over-reacting to me if she has him charged with indecent assault! It depends on the definition of "embrace".

    Posted in: Man arrested after embracing female employee in hotel

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    kirakira25

    You know what, I just have to post and say that the women on this thread (womanforwomen, tmarie, kyokosmile, pepin (I think you are a gal??!)) etc etc - how nice to have a thread where we are all different, some with kids, some without, some working, some not, and yet are all supportive of each others opinions and differences of....

    Not to leave out the boys who are also shooting very valid opinions (AzabuSamurai your comment on women in the office being the worst offenders is right on the button!)

    Anyway - really enjoying reading all the comments here on this issue. Getting the warm and fuzzies this morning....!

    tmarie - yeah, the cake set brigade annoy me too! I am technically one at the moment as on maternity leave and I can`t WAIT to get back to work! I REFUSE to set foot in a nail salon - I will feel like I am crossing over to the dark side!

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    goddog - smartest comment Ive read today! Whats the problem? Just BYO bag!

    Posted in: Doggy bags slowly infiltrate Japanese dining scene

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    tmarie - I had EXACTLY that conversation!!! OMG - are we married to the same GUY???! Mine is out at a nomikai right now! Is yours at home???!!!

    Seriously you are right, Japan needs to get it together. Modern parenting and financial support should be a team effort if both parties want it that way. I know there are pros and cons for all different styles of parenting, and I know many still advocate the old days of Daddy never home and Mummy looking after the kids by herself....but lets be honest, given the state of society today (27% with depression, "herbivorous" males? etc etc) that strategy doesn`t seem to be working out so well for them either, does it?

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    kirakira25

    @kyokosmile - yeah, you know, going to the house and threatening suicide was probably not the smartest thing to do, but you know, how easy it is for anyone to sit and rationalise that when we havent been in that position. As I sit here and type one-handed with my 2 month old on my knee while my 3 and 5 year olds destroy the lounge (gotta go soon!) it is easy to say that your actions were wrong. But if these guys were suddenly removed from me, I couldnt begin to predict what I would do except to say with complete certainty that I would totally lose the plot.

    So dont beat yourself up for what you did, and dont let anyone else either. A Mothers love for her baby is (hopefully in most cases!) an irrational, inexplicable thing. Im not saying what you did was OK, but I can understand why you did it, and I couldnt honestly say I wouldn`t react the same way.

    @MichaelTodd - you make a very good point. I agree with Kyokosmile that when things go wrong they can all turn against you, but forging good relationships with the in-laws certainly doesn`t hurt. My own Mum has done the same thing with my MIL and they have even been on holiday together a few times! My MIL says if I ever leave my husband and flee to the UK with the kids she wants to come with me!!!

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    I agree with Taj - I cant see how the Hague convention would help in this situation (please someone enlighten me if I am wrong) - the issue here is with Japans draconian child custody laws, not international law. Pressure needs to be brought within Japan by the many many Japanese families suffering with the same issues, teaming up with those suffering similar fates in international marriages.

    @kyokosmile - I have seen you post often on this subject, and never addressed you directly, but I just want you to know that, as a mum of 3 including a new baby boy in an international marriage with a Japanese, you are in my thoughts every day - and all my friends thoughts for that matter! I just want you to know that complete strangers all around are sending you out support-vibes and praying that you are re-united with your little boy. Don`t give up hope! I am CERTAIN your patience will be rewarded one day - and your boy is going to want to know who separated him from his Mum for so long and why. You WILL win in the end.

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    kirakira25

    I would like to see this guy named and his face plastered across all the newspapers. What an excellent example to set everyone here! He deserves national recognition for what he did.

    Posted in: Man saves woman from train after she falls onto tracks

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    I have a friend who has 3 kids and is a medical researcher in a private company. She has a wealth of experience, is very gifted, and all that knowledge would have gone to waste if her company hadn`t fully supported her.

    I agree that children should come first. What annoys me is that nobody expects the father to leave work early to pick up the kids.

    I was earning double my husbands salary when I came here - yet I was the one who had to give it all up for the children, which I did willingly, but it left a core of anger in me that even though he earned less than me he should stay at work as he has more "potential" (i.e. he`s a man!)

    Minello is right - it is a sad world we live in. Unfortunately, this is the way it is and we have to make the best of it.

    I personally think working women are setting an excellent example for their daughters - no daughter of mine is ever going to be left with the impression that she HAS to get married to be secure.

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    kirakira25

    spike is right. Some friends of ours have just taken a major salary cut. But they haven`t cut down on their lifestyle at all, just gone begging to their families, who luckily are pretty well off. It really irritates me though. The wife is 38 and they have two sons, but she STILL has a credit card that Daddy pays for!!!

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    kirakira25

    I have a 5 year old little girl. I can`t imagine raising a hand to her, ever, no matter what she did (the only exception being the one time I slapped her hand away as she reached for the hot stove and then I sat her down and explained afterwards). I was more upset than she was!

    I have heard that the UK now has a zero-tolerance policy on physical discipline. But I think the whole world has gone mad when people can`T see the difference between a slap on the hand and a pummelling on the face bad enough to cause a brain haemorrhage.

    Posted in: Woman held over fatal abuse of 5-year-old stepdaughter

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    **The ones to blame here are the adults involed who brought inocent children in their mess,not governments or cultures. It is sad that Two adults who said they love each other can't come to an understanding for someone they love their own flesh and blood,but they put pressure on governments to understand

    I have to say I agree with this. My husband and I are very happy but we have also sat and talked about "what if" and we have both agreed between us that, barring one of us becoming violent or an addict or something, we would never separate each other from the children because that would be so detrimental to them. We have worked out a worst-case scenario, agreed on it, and filed it away in the hope we never have to look at it again. Our children are OUR responsibility, together or not. Certainly not the governments.

    Posted in: U.S. warns Japan child custody laws could harm bilateral ties

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    kirakira25

    **who commits suicide by stabbing themselves with a knife?

    My friends husband did.

    Posted in: Man found with knife in chest outside Kawasaki apartment

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