JAPAN NEWS AND DISCUSSION
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- Corporate Business English Trainers
- ACT Systems, Inc.（株式会社アクト・システムズ）, Tokyo
- Salary: ¥269,500 ~ ¥280,000 / Month
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- English Instructor (Osaka, Kyoto, Kobe)
- Berlitz Japan, Inc. (ベルリッツ・ジャパン株式会社), Kansai
- Salary: ¥125,000 ~ ¥250,000 / Month
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- FT English Teachers for Kids - Osaka
- Kohgakusha Co., Ltd. （株式会社興学社）, Osaka
- Salary: ¥255,000 ~ ¥275,000 / Month Travel Expenses, Encouragement of Japanese learning*
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kirakira25
I suffer with hayfever and dry eyes. Fortunately, at least right now, I don`t suffer with everyone in the street laughing at the glasses on my sorry face. I would like to keep that going, at least for now.
My vote is for eye drops!
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kirakira25
I suspect he will just be glad you are not "causing him trouble" anymore! Here`s another option for you: your son will be at elementary school soon. He will be reading and writing within a couple of years. Any chance you could get a message to him that you ahve set up a private email address for him. Give it to a kid at the school to pass to him, or even pass it to him yourself if he is able to walk to and from school alone.
Then you can pass messages privately to each other without the father or his family knowing. Of course, I am assuming you can read and write Hiragana, but if you can`t, it is not hard to learn, plus the little bit of Japanese you need to tell him how you feel and what it going on.
Don`t know if this is a good idea or not, but just wanted to suggest something because my heart is breaking for you. Good luck!
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kirakira25
Best partiest - one award I would be glad to receive!
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kirakira25
Ah! That could explain the staring then! I refuse to sit on those little stools - yeuwch!
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kirakira25
I see in the news this morning his wife is filing for divorce. Think it is going to take her a bit longer to get over this.....
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kirakira25
Ah yes! The age old reason for why nothing ever changes. Apathy at its best.
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kirakira25
Yes, and they have the details and permission to hand the children to me or him. But no-one else. By family I mean for example an uncle, aunt or grandmother.
In this case, the mother should have been listed as the sole carer.
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kirakira25
I would also just add that the kindergarten DEFINITELY has some questions to answer to. I would be livid if my kindergarten/hoikuen handed my kids over to ANYONE without my permission, even a family member. My Mum and best friend (who also has a son in the same hoikuen as my son) can`t pick up my son without a phone call from me first.
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t know about my daughters kindergarten, but we have a "code word" that we use and she knows that ANYONE who picks her up and doesnt use the code word, even someone she knows, she cant go with without a phone call from me. It was tested just the other week when I mistook the pick up time and my friend tried to take her home with her to call me from there. My daughter refused to go and the teachers were most amused that the reason was my friend didnt say "Chestnut" to her first!We`ve changed the password now but I was SO proud of her!
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kirakira25
I feel sorry for anyone who feels that a father is not necessary to a child. I used to believe the same thing, before I was married and a parent. In fact, I was always planning to be a single mum, and adopt some children. Financially I was set up, I had my own home and could easily have supported us. In the UK single parents can adopt if their circumstances are acceptable. Most people who argued against me were my male friends.
I did grow up in a reasonably loving family but with a largely absent father who was only sometimes great when he was around.
However, I have totally changed my tune now. I am lucky enough to have married a Japanese guy who is the most amazing father to our kids, and every day I am stunned and delighted to see how much they completely adore him. If the worst should ever happen, and I hope it never does, I could never in all conscience, no matter what he did to me, keep him from the children. It would never be in their best interests.
My point is this: I can see why so many Japanese, particularly young and female Japanese, feel like a father is not necessary. I used to feel the same. Perhaps what we had in common was a largely absent father (theirs perhaps due to work, mine certainly due to alcohol abuse).
BUT now having experienced and seen a loving father first hand, I can absolutely see the benefits of a GOOD father for the children, and I thank god every day now that I caved and agreed to marry him!
I think Japanese law is draconian and needs to be changed - having old laws that don`t adapt with the times is certainly nothing to be proud of! The law as it stands now leaves way too much opportunity open for vindictive and vengeful behaviour, on BOTH sides, almost always at the childrens expense. How sad that is.
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kirakira25
I don
t know about the mens side, never having been in there, but on the womens side, I feel uncomfortable sometimes about being naked, but only because it seems to be acceptable behaviour, especially in some countryside onsens I have been to, to allow your children (and sometimes adults too) to surround the only foreigner in the place and watch with huge, amazed eyes while she showers!I don`t have a problem with nudity at all, mine or anyone elses, but it is hard to relax with 8 pairs of eyes on you not 4 feet away from you, and the main target of the staring is somewhere between your chin and your belly (or these days if I am entirely honest chin and knees :( !!!)
But despite the uncomfortable atmosphere at times, I do love onsen, and once I am in the bath, I generally find people really friendly, especially once they find out I have kids - always an ice-breaker when one is chatting with naked strangers!
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kirakira25
Azrael makes an important point actually. My very close friend went through a similar experience when she found out her husband had been screwing around and brought home an infection that could have caused serious health consequences for the whole family. She had to watch her tiny kids strapped down screaming in a hospital while loads of blood was drawn out of their little bodies to test for the presence of this particular infection. Forget about his infidelity, I don`t think she will ever get over that experience. (Happy to report they are all OK now, although he came close to death at one point, from the infection AND from her and her friends!)
Morality aside, he has potentially endangered the health of his wife and kids for his own selfish needs, and that for me is pretty unforgiveable.
However, I do believe that even though he is a sports star he is also entitled to a private life, and I feel bad for the whole family that his behaviour, abhorrent though it is, is being paraded through the media like some kind of entertainment. I don`t particularly like the guy, and have always believed that when something (or someone) seems too good to be true it usually is. But I think this is a matter for him and his family, and to a lesser extent the sponsors and whether or not they want him representing their product, but it has nothing to do with the media, the public or anyone else.
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kirakira25
@Cleo - completely agree with you, however, my family started to object to marmite on toast for dinner after the first 50 times it was served!!!
No, in all honesty, I am not as bad as all that. I have just always hated cooking. It`s a really big problem, considering that I am supposed to be a housewife now!
The only thing I will sweat and slave for in the kitchen in Dundee cake! It is worth it! (And so am I!)
@DickMorris - yuh huh, whatever...
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kirakira25
Hmmm, this is a constant struggle for me. Do I strap on my pinny and do what would make my husband and MIL sssoooo happy and make him some traditional homecooked food?
Or do I strap on my symbol of women`s enslavement and spend hours slaving and sweating to produce something completely unappreciated anyway as my mothers, grandmothers and great-grandmothers have doen before me?
This is my yin and yang. My black and white. My rich and poor, good and evil.
I think I have already had way too much coffee this morning....; )!
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kirakira25
If anyone is wondering about the behaviour of Japanese laughing at memorials etc, I think you need only read YuriOtani`s post to get an explanation.
I am neither American nor Japanese, but even I find the description of the attack on Pearl Harbour as "nice" pretty offensive.
I don`t care who was right or wrong, but an attack where so many people lost their lives - anywhere in the world - can hardly be described as "nice".
Disneyland can be described as "nice" - maybe therein lies the explanation. Do you see Pearl Harbour as some kind of historical theme park? How about Hiroshima and Nagasaki, where my kids great-grandfather lost his life and set in motion a chain of events that affect my husbands family to this day?
Nothing is fair in love and war. There is good and bad on both sides. This should be remembered with dignity so that, as many people pointed out, it may never happen again. Jibing at each other is not dignified.
On a related note I also feel ashamed about the other news report that a town in the UK is objecting to twinning with a Japanese town because of war memories (I am British). Move on people.
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kirakira25
@Disillusioned: thanks for the book recommendation - I will definitely get it
@whatsgoingon, dolphingirl, ysukuni et al:
thanks for your support too! I don
t feel like a good mum most of the time - like I think I spend WAY too much time on here when I should be cooking or cleaning(!) - but my kids are healthy and happy, even if my MIL isnt with the state of my apartment!yasukuni is right - speaking to new mums about their lifestyle is the ultimate contraception I think!!! But prospective parents should know that same little monster boy tries to feed me from his own plate, always asks me if I am OK, loves to brush my hair himself and his favourite time every evening is when he jumps out of the bath, I wrap a huge warm towel around him, and he sits on my knee on the bathroom floor while I rock him in my arms and we do hairbrush karaoke together (current favourite is Bohemian Rhapsody!)
So, you see, it is not all so bad!
nandakandamanda - I am SO sorry for what you have been through and how stressful it must have been, and I am glad she is getting the help she needs. I sincerely wish more people would. Good for you all for getting through it all.
I too pray for this whole family. The article doesn`t mention the father, but I am assuming if he is still around, he and the kids are going to find it hard to get over this - I hope THEY get the help they need too.
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kirakira25
@dolphingirl - backatcha babe! 0x0!
You know, on a more positive note I have found the morning toast is a great way to teach elementary geometry....!
@wontond and @netrek - interesting points you make actually.
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kirakira25
Really?! Is that statistic true? If so, I am amazed! I knew Japanese liked their canned coffee, but not that much!
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kirakira25
Excuse me Ganda, but I think your comment is chotto out of order quite honestly. All kids toilet train at different times with different degrees of success, and some have major problems (like my daughter ref: previous post). Putting additional pressure on kids AND parents with comments like "they should be trained by x yrs old" just makes the problem worse.
It also sounds very much to me with this scenario that if it hadn
t been nappy problems it would have been something else that pushed her over the edge. She couldnt cope and the nappy thing was just an excuse.Article Unavailable
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kirakira25
@Cleo - LOL!!! `Night all!
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kirakira25
Yeah Yelnats, I agree. I wish I understood more about economics because I find it so interesting reading everyones opinions, but I am just not educated enough in this field to contribute any of my own. Keep `em coming guys, because I am enjoying reading these perspectives on my "adopted" country.
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