tmarie's past comments

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    tmarie

    **Hate me for saying this. But I think a woman's place is home. :)

    And for those of you running down the women with no marriage and children, I am not married and have no children. The reason for that is my health. Could it be that the women that some of you have described suffer from health issues? **

    You believe a woman's place is home and yet you are unmarried, no kids and work? How about you put your money where you mouth is or stop spouting such things?

    Posted in: Women execs ruin companies, magazine claims

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    tmarie

    Female CEOs are no different than male CEOs exept gender. You don't get to the top playing nice and being friends. Sadly though, when a female is the one "behaving like a man" people comment much more on how horrible they can be. Abusive mothers? Perhaps they've learned the ropes from all those "abusive" fathers who are never home, never have time for their kids so feel the need to treat their staff as their own children?

    Posted in: Women execs ruin companies, magazine claims

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    tmarie

    That might be your observations but based on this article it doesn't seem like too many have maids, hosuekeepers and staff to help with the kids.

    http://www.japantoday.com/category/national/view/yokohama-says-it-has-no-children-on-daycare-center-waiting-list

    Female scientists I would agree with - teaching is seen as "soft" and a woman's job unless HS or university teaching. Anything "manly" like research is going to be tough going for women - due to overtime, being male dominated, drinking expectations, lack of family/work balance... Not surprising few females go into such areas considering how their male countreparts are treated like dirt, let alone female staff.

    Posted in: IMF's Lagarde urges Japan to increase women's participation in work force

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    tmarie

    Toshiko, this may have been true in Japan decades ago but with many workers moving around, many don't live in the same city as their parents so it is impossible for grandma to look after the children. Nor should it be expected of grandma - though try telling that to city hall when it comes to the point system for the daycare lottery. I live in an area where most workers are from outside of the prefecture. There is no other family close by for most families. One cannot expect grandma to be the babysitter these days which is why daycare is needed for families where both parents work.

    Many educated women go into teaching these days because public schools have great maternity leave and childcare leave. Nearly all of the female teachers I worked with over the last decade were married if over the age of 30. About half of them had children. However, they are worked off their feet due to monster parents, needless paperwork and endless club activities.

    What maids? Very few people in this country have maids, let alone silver service workers who come and clean the house a few times a month. Grandma isn't taking care of the kids because grandma doesn't live in the same city, let alone in the same house, as most families these days. Dad may indeed have "friends" on the side but very few can afford a mistress these days. Your posts remind me of listening to old biddied talk about the "good old days". It seems you are very out of touch with the reality of working mothers and women in this country.

    Posted in: IMF's Lagarde urges Japan to increase women's participation in work force

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    tmarie

    10PM?? Anyone ringing my doorbell at that hour is going to get told off - more so if they're NHK.

    This is vandalism pure and simple. Call the cops, press charges. NHK needs to either be funded from taxes or turned into an optional programming like sky perfect.

    Posted in: NHK tags house of man who refuses to pay fees

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    tmarie

    And how many monster male managers are there out there? Gee, guess those headlines don't sell papers. This is gender bashing at its "best". Pathetic.

    Posted in: Women execs ruin companies, magazine claims

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    tmarie

    Aren't most or al of thee nations also involved in some sort of nuclear research themselves? I'm no fan of North Korea but I can see why they continue to tell other nations to screw off. Yes, why doesn't everyone stop researching, stocking, buying, developing...?

    Posted in: 12 nations demand N Korea halts nuclear weapons program

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    tmarie

    I would like to conduct of survey of women and find out just how many of them actually want to work outside of the house.

    Why waste the money? The waitlists for daycare is proof that a) many women want to go back to work and are unable and b) Japan isn't stepping up enough to help them. Why waste taxpayers money on research that is unneeded when we already know that many women woudl like to go back to work.

    Cos, while I understand your point, there was an article just a few weeks ago that actually show very few SAHW are looking after elderly parents or family members FT these day. Not to say this isn't a problem but most caring for family members are over 65 and wouldn't be working FT, nor paying pension annyway. I 100% agree with you that more needs to be done in helping families dealing with the aging population.

    Funny to read Foreigners complain in the name of Japanese.

    Have you ever considered that the female posters on this board suffer as well because of the issues Japanese women face? Foreign women don't automatically get daycare for their kids because they are foreigners. They have the same struggles with finding childcare, dealing with bullying PTA, getting passed up for promotions, not getting hired for jobs... because they are female. Add in that many of the men here are married to Japanese women why in earth it is funny that people speak out about things that affect them?

    Posted in: IMF's Lagarde urges Japan to increase women's participation in work force

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    tmarie

    **Whoa whoa. I'm not sure, but has anyone asked the housewives if they want to work? I'm around them all the time, in the countryside and in the cities, and even the ones is the most loveless of marriages seem pretty happy not grinding away in an office. **

    So why all the waitlists for daycare, an increase in the average marrying age,women refusing to get married and fewer babies being born? Yep, some are indeed happy to stay at home but many are not but don't have much of a choice once bub comes along. I know many women who refuse to get married and/or have kids because they don't want to be forced out of work due to the lack of daycare.

    Posted in: IMF's Lagarde urges Japan to increase women's participation in work force

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    tmarie

    Shindo, a regular visitor to the shrine, insisted that it was a “private matter”, playing down the potential for diplomatic fallout from a visit by a member of the government.

    A private matter but the press was there and he felt the need to speak to them? Private my behind. Plenty of other places to go and pay your respects to those who lost their lives...

    Posted in: Cabinet minister visits Yasukuni shrine

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    tmarie

    It could be both but I can't say I've heard him go on about the love of this place without a paycheck attached to it.

    Posted in: Richard Gere appears as Tora-san again in Orangina ads

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    tmarie

    **Just because Lagarde is a woman does not mean she has women's best interests at heart, obviously.

    As many have said, the first step is to actually have equality in the workplace. Then the women who want to work will.**

    Why would you suggest she doesn't have women's best interest at heart? I know plenty of Japanese women who want careers and the same pay check as the males they work next to. Many J women here want to work but can't due to lack of childcare - hence the waitlists. She's not suggesting women have to go back to work, she's saying why not make it easier for those who want to go back to work.

    As for gender equality in the work place, that works both ways. Maybe mom wants to work and dad wants to stay home but seeing as how women here are so underpaid it's not funny, it's not possible for dad to stay home. Paying women and giving them equal opportunities helps men as well. A shame the oyajis that run this place don't get this nor care to get it.

    Posted in: IMF's Lagarde urges Japan to increase women's participation in work force

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    tmarie

    can you imagine parents trying to commute with kids/babies during rush hours, that would be insane on many levels

    I see it on a daily basis. I don't think having kids on packed trains is ideal nor safe but I think that is another issue Japan needs to deal with as well.

    Posted in: Chiba city says no more children on daycare waiting list

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    tmarie

    Well said. For Koreans there's nothing wrong with double standards as long as it's against Japan. It's just business as usual.

    For Japanese there's nothing wrong with double standards as long as it's against Korea. It's just business as usual.

    Posted in: Anti-Korean stickers posted at several points along Shikoku pilgrimage route

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    tmarie

    The amount of coverage on this way insane. Top story while the Ukraine and the like was 2nd, 3rd, 4th... Speaks volumes about the audience. Seriously, is it such a massive issue? How many more seasons do we have to listen to the whining of ball size, weight, speed.... Because they changed the damn ball?

    Posted in: Baseball commissioner apologizes over livelier ball

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    tmarie

    Is it great that the waitlist is supposedly gone? Yes. But I do question the quality of all these private daycares that have sprung up. Not trying to rain on a parade here but I've read reports on this and it isn't nearly are rosey as the media and the government wants to paint it.

    Plus, why isn't the government encouraging companies to build these daycares, not private companies who see a business chance? Would be better for the kids, the parents and what worker wouldn't like the option of having Jr. at a close company run daycare with great standards.

    Glad to see the waitlist is supposedly gone but I can't help but wonder if the kids are in quaity daycares with trained staff. That being said, better than massive waitlists - like in my area and much of urban Japan.

    Posted in: Chiba city says no more children on daycare waiting list

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    tmarie

    Great. Urge them to go back to work when there are already massive daycare waitlists, fathers working insane amount of hours and doing very little around the house and insane amounts of pressure on women to be baby factories. I 100% understand where IMF is coming from but there are numerous things that need to be done before more women are actually able to go back to work. Why not stress better work/life balance and support for those working moms already? Stay at home women are looking at those working and thinking "no freaken way" - and I don't blame them for that when Japan makes it so damn difficult. That being said, things really won't change until the women step up and demand change.

    Posted in: IMF's Lagarde urges Japan to increase women's participation in work force

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    tmarie

    Gere is a devout Buddhist and has a strong connection and love for Japan.

    Could you support your claims on this? I was under the impression he was more central asian Buddhist, not Japanese. Doing a few well paying CMs and a movie or two with Japanese themes doesn't equal a strong connection. It means making wise business decisions. I like Richard but like any other "actor" I see doing ads here, I can'T but think it is all about the money. Which is fine but when people make it seem like they're doing this because of their love of Japan, its rather amusing.

    Posted in: Richard Gere appears as Tora-san again in Orangina ads

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    tmarie

    Yes because if mom works the kids refuse to go to school, right? Good lord, where do folks come up with this stuff? Having a mom home doesn't mean their kids turn out perfect and normal. If that were the case, Japan wouldn't suffer from teenage shut ins, bullying issues and kids refusing to go to school. And if you look at the average time Taro spends away from home in JHS/HS, you'd see that mom often gets home before they do in the evening/night.

    Posted in: When wives work, consumption rises accordingly -- spending rises for household services, eating out, female clothing and social expenses. It will lead to the positive cycle that Abenomics is aiming for.

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    tmarie

    You are obviously unaware of the degree of anti-Japanese racism in South Korea. Do you know that a Korean pop idol was refused broadcast because they used a "Japanese word" in their song? In contrast do you know how popular Korean dramas and KPOP are in Japan? Are you even aware of the extent to which anti-Japanese Korean racism is being spread outside in other third party countries?

    I am not unaware of it at all. Assumptions on your part. So some folks are anti-Japanese. Does being anti-Korean help matters? Are you aware of how Japan helps spread anti-Japanese racism by posting discrimnatory stickers and "Japanese only" posters, flags and signs to be covered in the news? The constant bashing of Koreans on this site by folks like yourself only makes Japan look bad. Indeed, Korea certainly has it's issues woth anti-Japanese feelings but you do yourself, and Japan, no favours by bashing them in return.

    And I am sure you're aware that Jpop and the like is also popular in Korea, right? It seems the younger generation is much more open and forgiving. A shame that older folks like yourself seem so hell bent on stirring the pot and promating hatred instead of looking past things and trying to work together to put differences aside and start getting along. This Korea was trying to do that. Did she perhaps go over the top with a billion stickers? Sure but the push back from Japan on the matter is disgusting - and hurtful. And sadly, becoming far too common here.

    Posted in: Anti-Korean stickers posted at several points along Shikoku pilgrimage route

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