tmarie's past comments

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    tmarie

    Risky, I mentioned above that I thought they asked to change in the female locker room. Frankly, I agree, find them their own room to change in. I also think life would be easier in the bathroom debate if such people just used the "handicapped" bathroom as they are private. Easier for all that way. I use them all the time myself. Cleaner and private.

    Posted in: Transgender worker sues Yakult group firm for being forced to come out

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    tmarie

    I always find it amusing when men like to tell women they wrong for how they feel. In this thread alone plenty of male posters are going on and on about how legally this person is female so suck it up and how it's none of their business. It most certainly IS my business if I'm in a changing room with someone who is dressed in drag and insisting I call them Taro. Again, fine sharing a bathroom with stalls but changing rooms cross my tolerance line. Get the surgery and come on in.

    Posted in: Transgender worker sues Yakult group firm for being forced to come out

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    tmarie

    **The worker asked the company to change her health insurance card, while wishing to continue using the former male name in the office. She also asked the company to allow her to use a locker room separate from one for male workers.

    In the last article I believe it said they wished to use the female locker room. Repeating it three times in a meeting is a bit much but I don't understand how someone wishes to keep their male name and use the female locker room without having to explain themselves. If Taro comes to work one day and decides to walk into the female locker room and I'm in there, you can bet I'd be asking someone why Taro is using the female locker room.

    I'm more than happy to support folks in whatever it is they want to do, feel they need to do but as a female, sorry, I'm not comfortable sharing a locker room with someone who has male parts. Bathrooms with stalls? Fine. Changing room? Nope. Sorry. Thumb me down all you want but I don't see why I and other women need to feel uncomfortable if someone hasn't had reassignment surgery. I've spoken to numerous women on this issue and pretty much everyone I've chatted to doesn't care about sharing bathrooms but everyone said they would feel VERY uncomfortable in a changing room.

    Posted in: Transgender worker sues Yakult group firm for being forced to come out

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    tmarie

    How many women have been murdered/raped by local men? Far more than by Americans/foreigners. It's shame that it takes a foreigner to get women's safety made an issue in this country.

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    tmarie

    While I think this is a very silly article, it does hit/hint at a problem here - which is basically the work environment in Japan. I have now worked in three countries and Japan is by far the worst for petty squabbling, refusal to help coworkers, gossip, revenge, bullying and just all around childish behaviour. I've seen it all from women AND men.

    I do think though that there more women who are quicker to throw people under the bus. Why? Because many are stuck in going no where jobs while watching idiotic and unqualified men climb the corporate ladder. Of course they're ticked off at that. They're pretty powerless in the grand scheme of things when it comes to company management but they can certainly make daily life a nightmare for those they don't like. I've worked in places where men are scared to upset female OLs because the OLs can make things VERY difficult for these men. I spent two years watching women go for lunch together and men going in the opposite direction - nearly everyday. Work parties were a nightmare to organize because people actually refused to sit next to someone and all that jazz. Often it was the women complaining they wouldn't attend if they had to sit next to someone and the like. It's often a power thing and sometimes those without real power and who find opportunities will find power somewhere else.

    My worst coworker ever was a Japanese female. Bullied everyone, was a nasty cow. The best boss I have ever had has been a Japanese women but many men WERE scared of her. Why? Because she called them on their BS and worked hard to get where she was rather than just be pushed up the chain like most here.

    That being said, silly article.

    Posted in: 34% of Japanese men afraid of their female colleagues, according to recent poll

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    tmarie

    That poor family and community. I'm guessing the kids didn't have lifejackets on.

    Posted in: 2 brothers killed after jet ski collides with boat on Gifu river

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    tmarie

    Bu, you aren't paying 100%. You'll also now be getting dependent spouse benefits and tax breaks at your city level. If you decide to enroll your future child into kindy, you'll pay a cheaper rate than a family where both parents work. The info is out there if you'd like to educate yourself on the matter. The way the system is set up hurts women who don't tow the housewife line. Why would you want to punish the working poor any more? Women get paid peanuts in this country and it needs to change. Only way to change that is to get PT working married women to realize they'd be better off earning a living wage and paying taxes rather than support a crappy system that keeps them in unstable, low paying positions. If anything I'm trying to life better for working PT moms. A shame you don't see that. If the system changed and your wife wanted to go back to work, she'd be paid what she's worth. Now? She'll make far less than what she deserves. Thing is though, many are okay with that due to the benefits they get.

    Posted in: Abe pushes equal pay for temp workers to lift economy

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    tmarie

    Bububu, you might want to go back and check my posts. I have zero issues with working mothers. None at all. What I have issue with are those who play the system and don't want to pay their taxes, pension and health care due to the spouse benefits. HUGE difference. Go and read Cleo's post because you clearly don't get how the system works here and hurts those who are not married, widowed, divorced single moms.

    Posted in: Abe pushes equal pay for temp workers to lift economy

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    tmarie

    Fizz, I guess a few didn't get your comment. Spot on.

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    tmarie

    What's not mentioned are the spouse benefits that many wives here enjoy. Many married women here are more than happy to work under the 1.3 million limit to ensure they get a pension, health care, tax breaks and discounted things like kindergarten and daycare for their kids. When you factor in that the majority of temp workers are women, (and I'd be willing to bet married women) the idea of paying equally is Abe's way of forcing this benefit to be done away with without actually dealing with it directly - as he knows that would be the end of him.

    This benefit hurts women in a huge way but the majority here don't care because they benefit from it. Over 50% of single mothers live in poverty, 1/6 kids. And in the men who can't find a decent paying jobs and you have a huge issue that is only going to get worse in the future. Actually paying women what they are worth would help this issue but I won't hold my breath. No way are companies going to start paying benefits to housewives and no way do these women want to pay their way. None of the women I have spoken to who work PT are interested in working FT nor are they interested in paying pension and health care.

    Posted in: Abe pushes equal pay for temp workers to lift economy

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    tmarie

    Will city daycares/schools be opened earlier to help support the families where both parents work for the government? I've got a family in front of me with two kids (one in daycare, one in ele school) who are both government workers. No way in heck can they start work between 7:30/8:30 with the childcare hours. When the heck is Japan going to wake up and realize that the number of hours one spends at work doesn't mean productivity??

    Posted in: Gov't employees to start work early, finish early in July, August

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    tmarie

    ** You would make no attempt to protect your child if they were attacked by, say, a Siberian tiger if it means possibly killing the tiger? Shrug and say "Too bad for you, we intruded in their territory. I pick the tiger over you, son"?**

    Oh dear, is that what you took out of my post? Not worth wasting my time if you clearly don't have common sense to understand that is not what I said at all.

    Posted in: Cincinnati Zoo director defends killing gorilla to save boy

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    tmarie

    There was at the time. It's been quite a while now. Yes and she's been called a gold digger since the very beginning. Gold digger jokes have a longer shelf life?

    Funny you should be defending someone who is obviously lying about the violence to get leverage in a divorce. This a common procedure, in fact. Were you there for the entire relationship? I haven't defended her at all. I'm questioning the sexist "gold digger" comments. Your post is a fine example of why many victims don't come forward, be it male or female.

    Posted in: Depp's estranged wife files domestic violence police report

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    tmarie

    I don't get this, they have been only married a year, why did she marry him if this had been going on for "years and years"? I don't condone violence to anyone but this really doesn't sit well with me.

    You don't need to get it. Plenty of women and men marry someone who has a history of abuse. It's fine and dandy to say "Don't marry them" but there are a lot of issues and whatnot involved in DV. Anyone who has ever tried helping someone in such a situation knows how easy it is to say, how frustrating it is to watch and how difficult it is to get the person to leave.

    Frankly, I'm tired of all the gold digging comments. Why is NO ONE making comments about HIM leaving the mother of his two kids for a much younger woman? No "trade up" jokes, no "get rid of ion the old one" type things? Oh right, because regardless of if he beat her or not, she's a gold digging whore. Would folks be making the same comments if their daughter married an older man who beat her? I highly doubt it.

    Posted in: Depp's estranged wife files domestic violence police report

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    tmarie

    Fishy, if you've read my posts on this kind of topic, those with little kids at home are not the ones I am talking about. If one has little kids at home, managing housework and a small child is no easy feat.

    Posted in: Retirement can create multiple tensions at home

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    tmarie

    I hope you, and tmarie, keep this in mind if you or any of your family members happen to be face-to-face with an endangered or at-risk animal that has the ability to kill you. That you can say this shows serious problems in how you view others.

    Been in the wild with endangered and at-risk animals. If they had decided to attack me, frankly, too bad for me. I was in THEIR space. I feel exactly the same about family members - be it wild animals like such as the ones I believe you are referring to, zoo animals, sharks...

    Posted in: Cincinnati Zoo director defends killing gorilla to save boy

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    tmarie

    You were the one that said you didn't know which side of the fence I was on, I believe. Just clearing it up for you.

    "They" being the people trained to do so. I would hope so since that is their job.

    Posted in: Cincinnati Zoo director defends killing gorilla to save boy

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    tmarie

    A very small number considering how many people ride the trains.

    The only time I have ever seen anyone upset at staff has been when the shinkansen was about four hours late and the staff in Shin-Osaka station did pretty much nothing to help anyone. Last train was long gone and JR wouldn't fork over money for taxis. Lots of screaming at staff there but they all stood their dough faced repeating "moshiwakenai". Surprised no one punched one of them - or perhaps someone did.

    Posted in: 225 attacks on conductors, other staff reported by 16 train companies in 2015

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    tmarie

    Do you seriously think that a gorilla's life is more important than the child's life in this situation?

    This poster summed it up nicely for me. **Lowland gorillas: possibly 100,000 individuals, maybe less.

    Homo sapiens sapiens: 7.4 billion people.

    I wonder who is more worthy of protection and care.**

    As for the poster question which side of the fence I am in, I am 100% against zoos but know that most people are not. I'm not dumb enough to think that this would change the mind of millions who have no ideas with animals being stressed out in cages and areas far too small for them. Add in the screaming crowds, the banging on glass/windows... But hey, Johnny gets to see a gorilla so who care about the animals?

    Posted in: Cincinnati Zoo director defends killing gorilla to save boy

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    tmarie

    We have very different ideas of what "safe" means then if you think a crowded area full of strangers is a "safe" place for a four year old.

    Posted in: Cincinnati Zoo director defends killing gorilla to save boy

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