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tmarieMar. 08, 2014 - 11:29AM JST
Many teachers, coaches, bosses... expect the sempais to deal with the kohai rather than deal with them on their own. They give power to these people who use it to excess. Then when the kohai become sempai, they want revenge and are just as nasty. I used to listen to 1st grade HS students moan about their sempai. When they became 3rd grade, they were just as bad. When I told them off one day about their behaviour the reply was "well it's our job and our turn now". The cycle continues and sadly, very few seem to remember how much they hated the treatment they were given when they were the pond scum. Japan supports this and breaking from it is "bad". And then folks wonder whhy kids and adults kill themselves or take revenge on society...
Posted in: 7 high school students face charges over suicide of classmate
tmarieMar. 08, 2014 - 11:02AM JST
Not sure how they can charge people over suicide. Assult? I get. Suicide? How?
Many Japanese teachers are too scared to do anything about problems at the school for fear of a) the parents and b) being bullied by other teachers or c) being fired. I've watched it first hand. I've also watched teachers' careers be ruined by bullying monster parents when a teacher dares speak up and demands a problem student be dealt with. It's very easy to blame the teachers but they are also victims of the system. And yes, some teachers ARE idiots and just don't want to deal with it all beause they are lazy and have no business calling themselves teachers.
Again, I ask, what did the parents do?? Did the parents go to the school and demand something be done? Did they get their child help? Parents can't expect the teachers to do all the work of teaching and parenting.
Japan can call it "pawa hara", "sekusu hara", "kohai/sempai" but at the end of the day, it is all bullying. Kids watch how adults behave and act accordingly. Osaka's Hashimoto, Tokyo's Ishihara, the bunny ears at the make up company, the forced bowing for screw ups at work... all examples of bullying that goes on here. Until Japan does away with the kohai/sempai, elders are always right, we must be one with the group, don't question the person in power.. this crap will continue.
tmarieMar. 08, 2014 - 10:53AM JST
I'm glad there is more reporting but what is actually happening with regards to prevention charges and punishments? The punishments I've read/heard about here are a joke when it comes to family abusing kids. So many suspended sentences and mothers getting off far too easily in my opinion. Japan needs to start getting serious about this issue. They also need to get serious about DV as the two are related.
And yes, the sexualization of young girls here is sick. Japan is well known for being very liberal in this area and I think it explains a lot of the issues we see here in the news.
Posted in: No. of child abuse, child porn cases reported in 2013 soars
tmarieMar. 08, 2014 - 10:50AM JST
**Police said they are investigating whether to lay criminal charges against the dog owners or anyone else. **
Oh for God's sake! The dogs paid the ultimate price and this owner might not even be charged? Allowed to get more dogs in the future? This is the issue, not the dogs.
Poor kid. I hope she recovers and gets over the trama one day.
Posted in: Japanese girl mauled by dogs in NZ was bitten 100 times
tmarieMar. 08, 2014 - 10:44AM JST
I agree that it is custom but as I said, do you have any idea how difficult it is to find someone who is willing to do the work? Silver service and the like is casual work. Being a nanny or a maid is not. Very few older women want to work as a FT nanny or maid. I've had numerous friends try and find nannies/a helper for their kids. I have had friends try and get au pairs in (visa issues). Unless you have family close by or are able to get your kid into daycare here, you're pretty much stuck. Afterschool care a few days a week isn't so much an issue. It day to day care, all day, that is the issue. Japan needs more daycares. It also needs a better work/life balance for both men and women. Until that happens, women will continue to be margenalized and men will continue to slave away at work.
Posted in: Nomura names woman to head banking arm in first for Japan
tmarieMar. 07, 2014 - 06:48PM JST
Yes Cleo, because that is EXACTLY what I suggested I would be happy with.
I also guess you missed my above comment so I shall repeat it again. Not in the debate mood today Cleo. Enjoy.
tmarieMar. 07, 2014 - 05:29PM JST
Toshiko, while I agree with your notion that they can hire someone to help them, do you have any idea how difficult it is in this country to find, let alone hire, a nanny? Japan doesn't have a visa for domestic workers like most Asian countries. The cost to have a live in nanny who cooks, cleans and the like would be faaaaaar beyod what most families here could afford. Japan needs to get with the program and allow for visas for domestic workers so Japanese women can work and to help out those domestic workers who come from developing nations. China and HK is booming for women because of how easy it is to find such help. I don't know any working female in HK who doesn't have at least a cleaner.
Yes, silver service is fine for a once a week clean but housekeeper? Not happening here. Same reasons as above.
tmarieMar. 07, 2014 - 05:25PM JST
I love Malaysia but them too seem to be suffering from an idiot government as of late. A shame that there is a push towards "Isalamification" because it is a lovely country.
Posted in: Malaysia bans Ultraman book over use of Allah
tmarieMar. 07, 2014 - 02:27PM JST
Thanks for the laugh Suga.
Posted in: Our country never tries to reverse history. Japan has consistently followed the path of freedom, peace and democracy.
tmarieMar. 07, 2014 - 02:25PM JST
**Now that you've seen these signs among the kids you teach, look for it in the wider society. **
I see it everywhere here - and 100% agree with the rest of your post.
How do you know this didn't happen? It is 10 years since the guy was in junior high, it is quite possible that there were attempts to bring him back into education that failed- you can't make someone go to school if they don't want to.
Perhaps it did but because we haven't read about it and knowing Japan and the "help" and "support" out there, tgere s a very high likelyhood that nothing was done. And if there had been attempts, just because a few fail, you don't allow someone to just fall of the turnip truck and become worse, more so when they are young and clearly in need of help.
Posted in: Kashiwa murder suspect says he wanted to fly hijacked plane into Skytree
tmarieMar. 07, 2014 - 11:30AM JST
Cleo, when it comes to being able to have both a family and a career? Yes. Though I certainly don't think they have a good work/life balance here. Weekend dads and all that jazz. But they still have both which is more than most women are afforded here.
Not in the debate mood today Cleo. Enjoy.
tmarieMar. 07, 2014 - 11:28AM JST
That should say "why DIDN'T socia services step in?"
NathalieB, I agree. While I am usually the first one to defend teachers, in cases like this, why did no teacher contact authorities? And if they did, why was nothing done? Clearly all was not well with him as a child and perhaps the parents are lovely people who had no idea what to do but clearly they needed help with their son - regardless of them knowing it or not. Any child who drops out of school for being bullied clearly is not getting the help they need at home. Why not go to another school? Why not continue via "free school", which was an option ten years ago.
Thre sad, scary, upsetting thing is that, in my expereince of teaching JHS and HS here, there are so many kids like him. Anger issues, bullying issues, personality issues... Fear of being stigmatized or labeled. Ticking time bombs when they get older -or in the case of a few, when they are still youths.
tmarieMar. 07, 2014 - 10:53AM JST
Also from the J news - and Japan Times... He took either a stun gun or a taser to JHS, had to cancel a contract on a scooter because he didn't have enough money to pay for it and roughed up staff at the shop, is known to take pics of himself with knives and post them online, is living on welfare (with handouts from his parents) and some online "friends" are not shocked this happened...
First the abusive parents which is also booming
Taken from today's headline.
If it is an increase or not is debateable (more reporting doesn't mean an increase) but sorry, if you have a child that is being bullied so badly in JHS and you allow them to drop out and not do anything else in terms of education, that is, in my books, abuse. It is neglect. Add in that this guy is obviously mentally ill and it seems was from an early age, how on earth is that not abuse by the parents for not helping him? If the parents were not educated enough, couldn't afford help, why did social services step in? It is unusual in Japan for a child to drop out in JHS though it does happen. If this kid was being bullied that badly, why was nothing done to help him?
And why on earth was this guy given welfare? Should there not be assessments done to people's mental health and enrollment in education programs before they just give folks money?
So no job, no education, mentally ill, a history of being bullied... No shockers, eh? I don't think he needs to hang, he clearly needs help - and should've been given it ages ago.
tmarieMar. 07, 2014 - 10:43AM JST
Staffordshire bull terrier crosses are basically a fancy name for pit bulls who are nothing but trouble.
Yes, just as a wire fox is the same as a jack russell... Dangerous owners should be banned.
Still waiting for those quotes...
Posted in: 7-year-old Japanese girl mauled by 4 dogs in New Zealand
tmarieMar. 07, 2014 - 10:42AM JST
They don't quit. They simply move on to a more important job.
Many do indeed quit the job they were working at before they had their child. Perhaps moving onto something more important but they do quit their job. If you would like to call parenting a "job", by all means feel free to do so but the simple fact is that 70% of women here stop working for money - as in, they quit their job.
Rainbow is right, Many resign and move on better position. There are many smaller corporations that hire women executives to increase their financial situation, etc.
That is not true and the research and articles out there prove that. Many quit to stay at home and raise their kids and once their kids are in ele school, they rejoin the workforce in marginalized PT roles where they get paid peanuts (no more than 1.03 million a year) and have no chance of promotion. If you have articles that state otherwise, please post them.
While certainly no business of mine, I can't help but think this woman is single with no kids. There is nothing wrong with that but I do wonder if this is what she was thinking of when she said “from the viewpoint of my junior female colleagues… I might not have been a role model”. Very few women can "have it all" in Japan. A shame when men can.
tmarieMar. 06, 2014 - 06:25PM JST
I don't blame just the economy. My comment was "These random attacks are increasing and I fear only going to get worse with the lack of job security and the tanking economy." Plenty of other issues going on as well but it seems there has been an increase in the number of random attacks here and I feel that this will only get worse. Certainly didn't state that the economy was the only reason this happened. Shame some people can't seem to understand that - nor the research that has gone into linking economy to crime. Mental illness, poverty, crime, economy... all linked.
Posted in: 24-year-old man arrested over knife attacks in Kashiwa
tmarieMar. 06, 2014 - 05:31PM JST
I love George and saw this commercial last night. Was left with a "WTF? Do these folks not get that ths stuff is online and all can see it these days"? I'm sure he made a pretty penny off it.
Posted in: George Clooney appears in new ad for Kirin beer
tmarieMar. 06, 2014 - 05:29PM JST
A silly list but at least it included personality traits. Beats the "rich, tall and handsome", list that is common for what females want in males here, no?
Posted in: Magazine’s checklist for ideal girl has whopping 23 points
tmarieMar. 06, 2014 - 05:25PM JST
Poor kid, poor parents. Not really sure why this is news though.
Posted in: 2-year-old baby dies in Tokyo hospital
tmarieMar. 06, 2014 - 05:23PM JST
Congrats to her!
I look forward to the day when a female head is no longer news.
Mar. 08, 2014 - 03:15PM JST
While this app will eventually be great for tracking commuter trains on the East Japan Railway…
Posted in: JR East launching app that will allow for real-time tracking of train services
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Abe just recognized Obama's efforts for Ukrainian orange revolution but he didn't make any commitment in…
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Mar. 08, 2014 - 03:12PM JST
Vietnam media: Navy confirms flight MH370 crashed into the sea.
Posted in: Vietnam mounts search for Malaysian airliner carrying 239
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Until they recover the flight data recorder (FDR) and cockpit voice recorder (CVR), we really can't…
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So the US government signed the treaty but…
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