tmarie's past comments

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    tmarie

    Stranger, the woman could easily get married, change her and name and be hired somewhere else. Why? Because Japan doesn't do background checks very often. I have worked with some kids in both eikaiwa and as an ALT. I have also volunteered with things that included interaction with small kids. Know how many background checks I had? ZERO. And I'm a foreigner. If anyone is going to have a background check done on them, it's someone who is not Japanese.

    A suspended sentence for this is a joke. She terrorized at least two small children - because yes, this is all she's be charged with - who may suffer because of this nut bag for years to come. Perhaps a lifetime. Taping up a kids mouth could lead to death. Forcing a child to eat something could lead to chocking.

    I feel sorry for the kids and parents. Justice has not been served. If anyone did this to my child and this was the sentence given, I would be enraged. I'm enraged just reading it and reading comment suggesting she7s been given a fair punishment.

    Posted in: Nursery school teacher who forced boy to eat wasabi-laced chicken gets suspended sentence

  • 1

    tmarie

    Foreigners cant blame this problem to the Japanese Government. Their priority are lives of the victims not giving translations to foreigners.

    Did you feel this way when it was Japanese people stuck in the earthquake in Christchurch, NZ a few years back?

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    tmarie

    The language of Japan is Japanese. The more support they can provide for foreigners in situations like this, and it's good they even make contingency plans. But if you expect more than that in such a situation, better to only visit countries in which you can speak the local language.

    How good was your Japanese when you first moved here? How many languages do you speak? Hope You've only visited English speaking countries.

    What a ridiculous statement to make in 2016.

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  • 0

    tmarie

    I "better" look at it because what I've just said doesn't go with YOUR notions of what a feminist should be? Laughable. Just because YOU want to believe all feminists think like that doesn't mean they do.

    My issue with SAHW here isn't the hulu and whatnot. It's that my tax money goes to subsidize them and their choice to stay home. I'm tired of poster like you stuffing words in my mouth and suggesting I have issues with those who stay home. I have issues with the system that supports and encourages able bodied women to stay at home after their children are in school. Worst yet, those with no children nor family to care for. That's my issue. If you want to turn this into some faux femnazi bashing, be my guest but all you're doing us showing your disdain for women who don't live up to YOUR ideals, not mine.

    I've never ever said women need a career, have never dared to suggest that house wives are, what was it, less than human? You certainly do like to embellish.

    Posted in: Divorce among elderly couples surging

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    tmarie

    Feminists still cook and clean. Least I know I do.

    If one states they aren't going to work because they're looking after the kids and house, more power to them. I have zero issues with SAHMs. My issue is the benefits they recieve and the entitlement towards these benefits.

    If you'd have read the article, you'd see that many aren't "towing the party line" of stay at home wives with regards to "meals from scratch" and a clean house. If a man said he was off to work and the breadwinner and failed to uphold his promise, pretty sure his wife would be upset and rightly so. Why can't men do the same? You can't blame men who've worked their balls off for not being happy if their wife isn't doing what they agreed upon.

    As for women tearing each other up, do you think your post is supportive of working women? Not all have the luxury of staying home. And not all are futilely with that. Why not look at how men like yourself don't help matters?

    Posted in: Divorce among elderly couples surging

  • 2

    tmarie

    19, married, young baby and doing high school via distance education. This is the side of society that no one wants to talk about. I feel for all involved but disagree that she's a minor. If you're old enough to get married by law, you should be seen as an adult in the eyes of the law.

    Sadly, that poor child will either face a life of knowing her mother tried to kill her and living with her it will be saved in government care which means an "orphanage" with no real hope of being adopted of being placed in decent foster care.

    Posted in: 19-year-old mother arrested for attempted murder of 3-week-old daughter

  • 6

    tmarie

    I think somewhere "MONEY" /finance is also a key factor. Less than needed or more than expense is bad for marriage. Having the right amount should help to make the bond stronger.

    It IS the key factor. Many unhappy women here won't get divorced because they would lose their cash cow and actually have to go and get a FT job. Many working men want a mommy to wash their clothes and cook dinner. When the husband isn't working anymore, they can do that themselves.

    The pay rate for FT working women is often horrible. Why? Because so many women here don't want FT jobs and would rather stay in an unhappy marriage and work PT, not pay pension and health care, get spouse benefits and only work a few times a week as a way to kill boredom. Why would any company hire a woman FT and pay her pension and a living wage when they can hire a few PT women instead? One can't seperate the issue of crappy pay for FT working women and the spouse benefits in this country. Just as one can't talk about the sexism women face in Japan Inc without looking at the sexism men face here. The thing is, many do.

    Sighclops, excellent post.

    Posted in: Divorce among elderly couples surging

  • 15

    tmarie

    Some Filipino health workers turn backs on opportunities in Japan

    What opportunities??? Come, study the language, pass a bunch of tests, work for peanuts for a certain amount of years and get tossed. Where are the opportunities in that? It's taking advantage of a developing country and its workers. Japan is well known for tossing out hard working foreigners and yet, keeps the deadwood Japanese employed.

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  • 0

    tmarie

    You're not telling me what the reality is. I live the reality which is why I am disgareeing with a lot of your comments.

    I've looked at published competition ratios. The 10:1 ratio you claim is virtually unknown in the subject areas that account for most students: business, social science, humanities. Yes but there are a lot of other subjects out there. But I guess that doesn't support your comments, right? Law, engineering...

    She wasn't preventing three new ones from opening. She was trying to prevent three crappy tandais from becoming four year universities - which they were only doing this to try and survive rather than close.

    I am 100% with you on some of the private unis being crap and needing to close but not all private universities are a calk walk to get into like you are making it out to be.

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    tmarie

    As her husband saw her she was a full-time housewife who did no housework. The house was a mess, the cooking a matter of slapping together pre-prepared supermarket fare.

    I have heard this comment time and time again from men here - Japanese, foreigners, younger, older... Decades ago it made sense to have someone at home who was looking after the kids, house, making things from scratch, taking all day to do chores.... The modern world has made women staying at home full time after the kids have started school an issue for hard working men who are wondering why on earth they are busting their butts at the office while wifey goes and takes hulu, cooking classes and enjoys lunch with friends. I know plenty of men who would love to divorce their wives as they don't really love them - that's what happens when you have a shotgun marriage in many cases - but stay due to the kids and feeling obligated to stay with the mother of their child until the kids go to university. I can only see this type of divorce increasing in the future and I don't blame the men for being fed up with it all. Of course, not all stay at home wives are like this but I do feel that many are like this.

    Posted in: Divorce among elderly couples surging

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    tmarie

    Many private universities actually insist on the center exam for recommendation. And many private universities are used as center exam test sites. It is not primarily for those seeking entrance to national universities. Most Hs students wanting to go to a decent university take it. Not taking it and getting into university happens no where near as often as you seem to think it happens.

    Depending in the university and the department, yes, some are just collecting year fees others are not. Anyone can get into a university these days but not everyone gets into the one they want. Anyone at a decent private university here who deals with entrance exams can so the math when there 1000 wannabe students and only 100-110 places.

    Your attitude towards private universities is rather sad. Yes, horrible ones out there but some great ones as well. The horrible ones should be closed ASAP but they won't be. Tanaka was trying that and look where it got her.

    Also, national universities also accept recommendation. I know a kid who did just the center year and got a very sweet deal at a top ranking national.

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    tmarie

    Utter nonsense and stereotyping. Unfortunately, most private universities are in the position where they have to take anyone who applies. Links please.

    The majority of Japanese college students gain admission without taking a rigorous examination and many take no examination whatsoever. Links please. Most have to take the center exam. I would call that rigorous but perhaps you don't?

    ** Moreover your generalization does not apply to medicine, pharmacy, engineering, the sciences or any field where you have to pass a qualification exam such as accountancy.** Medicine and pharmacy are well known here to be a joke if you have the right money and family name when it comes to getting into university. Certainly not all places but some.

    Open University, and any distance university in my opinion, are great if run properly but many are diploma mills. And many companies here don't want to hire folks who graduated from them - which I disagree with.

    There are a lot of issues here with university entrance, how things are run, lack of mature students... I don't think this will change any of that. I can't help but think this is a way to raise tuition for national universities.

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    tmarie

    There are no rules stating that mature students can't go to university. The issue isn't really the universities but how society seems to think that university is for 18-22 unless for grad school. Grad schools ARE set up for PT students, under grads really aren't though. I can't for the life of me understand why bored housewives attend eikaiwa for years on end when they could go nd get a degree in something.

    I had a male law student last year who was 30. I was impressed that he said "screw social rules" and did what he wanted to do - which was to get a law degree.

    Easy to blame the system but society is what allows the system to stay as it is.

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    tmarie

    The issue, for me at least, isn't the mags in question. It is that they are out at eye level of young kids. Boobs? Fine. But not when some recently turned 18 year old is posing in a sexy pose and that's pretty much it for female respresentation. Women are to be stared at and seen as objects is pretty much the only message in this. They are called "top shelf mags" where I'm from for a reason. Those tall enough can take a look. I HATE walking into shops here and seeing boobs all over the place. I have my own, thanks.

    Posted in: Publishers protest agreement to cover up adult magazines in convenience stores

  • 5

    tmarie

    Oh the irony of someone with a stay at home wife and three kids complaining about supposedly subsidizing a future working mom...

    Posted in: Japan stumbles over baby steps to encourage working moms

  • 1

    tmarie

    If these "teaching housewives" comments are directed at me (as clearly they are), I haven't taught housewives in over 15 years. My comments are based on the conversations I have with the SAHMs in my neighbourhood and the wives on my coworkers and my husband's coworkers. Indeed, not ALL are like these women but I'm willing to bet the majority are. There's a reason why Abe has only discussed cutting spouse benefits rather than going through with it. He knows damn well that would be the end of him. Easier to turn the nuclear power plants back on, change article nine than it is to get rid of the spouse benefits.

    Posted in: Full-time housewives in strong position to enter job market - if they want to

  • 6

    tmarie

    What all these articles omit is the fact that these women WANT low paying jobs do they continue to get health care and pension paid for in part by taxpayers. These women (most anyway) don't want FT jobs or careers. They want hobby jobs. They have zero interest in making a living wage and paying taxes. They want casual and "fun" jobs. Childcare is hard. They don't want hard.

    Posted in: Full-time housewives in strong position to enter job market - if they want to

  • -2

    tmarie

    A shame these same protestors aren't out protesting when Japanese men rape. I'm guessing most would be too busy considering the numbers and how often it happens. I get it. The guy is American, its political but one American is a drop in the bucket considering how many women are raped by locals. Regardless of nationality, should never happen.

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    tmarie

    I wonder if he'll get near the grief Carrie Fisher got for not looking like she did decades ago...

    Disney sure does like the idea of cashing in on baby boomers and 30/40years olds these days.

    Posted in: Harrison Ford to reprise iconic 'Indiana Jones' role

  • 1

    tmarie

    Is this what political correctness has come to?

    What on earth does political correctness have to do with this??

    If the female judge's comments are an indication of the knuckle draggers who visit such a musuem, count me out.

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