tmarie's past comments

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    tmarie

    ...like far too many people in the world, but Japan in particular, flys under the mental health radar.

    What radar???? Mental health here is largely ignore and pushed underground due to the embarrassment is causes on family members. Pretty much everyday I see people with serious mental health issues out walking the streets alone. The stigma here is horrific and like many other things here, most locals would rather ignore the issue than actually admit there is a problem. Until Japan comes to terms that is has a high number of serious metal health issues within the general population things like this will continue - be it regular depression, PPD, stress...

    What I find "interesting" about this article is the fact that stalkers are not mentioned. How many people have been stabbed by them? How many of the victims actually went to the police and they didn't do anything? Until the government, cops and soviet realize just how scary things are here with regards to their lack of mental help support, the cycle will continue.

    Posted in: Mass killing raises questions about security in Japan

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    tmarie

    I just hope Germans don't sink to the level of the savagery which we've seen. They're civilised people and so there is hope.

    What savagery is that? I'm rather curious as to what you are referring to here.

    Frankly, I won't be visiting Europe anytime soon. Why? I'm a white female and have read more than enough about what women are dealing with due to groups of people who feel women are less than men. Allow the those in need in, send those with views that don't match western ideals back to their homeland.

    Posted in: Germany warns of anti-migrant backlash after week of bloodshed

  • 7

    tmarie

    The attacker was already known to police for previous acts of violence, a police source said.

    So why was he a) out in public and b) allowed to stay in Germany? This is the issue. There are many people actually seeking help and fleeing their homeland for their lives and crazies like this are ruining it for them. Should be a "one strike and you're out" policy with asylum seekers/migrants/whatever you want to call them.

    Posted in: Syrian refugee kills woman in Germany machete attack

  • 4

    tmarie

    She added that he was “not a monster,” but “an amazing man that got mixed up with the wrong people.”

    And this here is the issue. Refusing to take responsibility for one's actions, decisions and life. The guy was locked up on several charges yet the ex wife is blaming others rather than her ex husband? Sure sounds like a monster to me. I feel for the family of the victims.

    Posted in: Inmate grabs gun from officer, kills 2 bailiffs at Michigan courthouse

  • -5

    tmarie

    Because many black men in America are being killed by police officers. Of course the Black Lives Matter has something to do with this.

    More black men are being killed by other black men. Black on black crime is a huge part of the issue and one that seems BLMs doesn't really want to talk about.

    What happened here is a tragedy but the recent demands by BLMs to exclude cops is not the way to ensure that black communities get treated better and that racism gets dealt with.

    Posted in: 5 Dallas police officers killed, 6 wounded at protest

  • 1

    tmarie

    The Miyazaki governer/ tv comedian, actually did a really good job of promoting the region and gaining inward investment. He did a better job for his region than most other governers with political backgrounds. Shame about his controversy with a younger woman.

    Are you suggesting that a guy with a criminal background (destroyed a publishing company office for revenge, bought sex from underage girls, assaulted someone), who is a known cheater actually was a decent governor because he promoted Miyazaki melons? The guy should never have been allowed to run in the first place.

    I'm so glad i'm not the only one who thought "Isn't this the guy who is famous for not marrying socks?" That and his FIL hated him for being a jerk.

    Honestly, whoever gets this job can't be any worse than the jerks they've had running the show for the past few decades.

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    tmarie

    Japan really don't seem to respect human life and dignity when I look at the type of sentences they give out. The was a horrific crime and 4.5 years is laughable. The guy's life has been destroyed and he could have died. It's right up there with rape, child abuse and murder convictions. Rob a store and you get a far worse punishment. Inflict pain on someone and get left off with a slap on the wrist.

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  • 0

    tmarie

    Risky, I mentioned above that I thought they asked to change in the female locker room. Frankly, I agree, find them their own room to change in. I also think life would be easier in the bathroom debate if such people just used the "handicapped" bathroom as they are private. Easier for all that way. I use them all the time myself. Cleaner and private.

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    tmarie

    I always find it amusing when men like to tell women they wrong for how they feel. In this thread alone plenty of male posters are going on and on about how legally this person is female so suck it up and how it's none of their business. It most certainly IS my business if I'm in a changing room with someone who is dressed in drag and insisting I call them Taro. Again, fine sharing a bathroom with stalls but changing rooms cross my tolerance line. Get the surgery and come on in.

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  • 3

    tmarie

    **The worker asked the company to change her health insurance card, while wishing to continue using the former male name in the office. She also asked the company to allow her to use a locker room separate from one for male workers.

    In the last article I believe it said they wished to use the female locker room. Repeating it three times in a meeting is a bit much but I don't understand how someone wishes to keep their male name and use the female locker room without having to explain themselves. If Taro comes to work one day and decides to walk into the female locker room and I'm in there, you can bet I'd be asking someone why Taro is using the female locker room.

    I'm more than happy to support folks in whatever it is they want to do, feel they need to do but as a female, sorry, I'm not comfortable sharing a locker room with someone who has male parts. Bathrooms with stalls? Fine. Changing room? Nope. Sorry. Thumb me down all you want but I don't see why I and other women need to feel uncomfortable if someone hasn't had reassignment surgery. I've spoken to numerous women on this issue and pretty much everyone I've chatted to doesn't care about sharing bathrooms but everyone said they would feel VERY uncomfortable in a changing room.

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  • 0

    tmarie

    How many women have been murdered/raped by local men? Far more than by Americans/foreigners. It's shame that it takes a foreigner to get women's safety made an issue in this country.

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  • 8

    tmarie

    While I think this is a very silly article, it does hit/hint at a problem here - which is basically the work environment in Japan. I have now worked in three countries and Japan is by far the worst for petty squabbling, refusal to help coworkers, gossip, revenge, bullying and just all around childish behaviour. I've seen it all from women AND men.

    I do think though that there more women who are quicker to throw people under the bus. Why? Because many are stuck in going no where jobs while watching idiotic and unqualified men climb the corporate ladder. Of course they're ticked off at that. They're pretty powerless in the grand scheme of things when it comes to company management but they can certainly make daily life a nightmare for those they don't like. I've worked in places where men are scared to upset female OLs because the OLs can make things VERY difficult for these men. I spent two years watching women go for lunch together and men going in the opposite direction - nearly everyday. Work parties were a nightmare to organize because people actually refused to sit next to someone and all that jazz. Often it was the women complaining they wouldn't attend if they had to sit next to someone and the like. It's often a power thing and sometimes those without real power and who find opportunities will find power somewhere else.

    My worst coworker ever was a Japanese female. Bullied everyone, was a nasty cow. The best boss I have ever had has been a Japanese women but many men WERE scared of her. Why? Because she called them on their BS and worked hard to get where she was rather than just be pushed up the chain like most here.

    That being said, silly article.

    Posted in: 34% of Japanese men afraid of their female colleagues, according to recent poll

  • -1

    tmarie

    That poor family and community. I'm guessing the kids didn't have lifejackets on.

    Posted in: 2 brothers killed after jet ski collides with boat on Gifu river

  • 0

    tmarie

    Bu, you aren't paying 100%. You'll also now be getting dependent spouse benefits and tax breaks at your city level. If you decide to enroll your future child into kindy, you'll pay a cheaper rate than a family where both parents work. The info is out there if you'd like to educate yourself on the matter. The way the system is set up hurts women who don't tow the housewife line. Why would you want to punish the working poor any more? Women get paid peanuts in this country and it needs to change. Only way to change that is to get PT working married women to realize they'd be better off earning a living wage and paying taxes rather than support a crappy system that keeps them in unstable, low paying positions. If anything I'm trying to life better for working PT moms. A shame you don't see that. If the system changed and your wife wanted to go back to work, she'd be paid what she's worth. Now? She'll make far less than what she deserves. Thing is though, many are okay with that due to the benefits they get.

    Posted in: Abe pushes equal pay for temp workers to lift economy

  • 0

    tmarie

    Bububu, you might want to go back and check my posts. I have zero issues with working mothers. None at all. What I have issue with are those who play the system and don't want to pay their taxes, pension and health care due to the spouse benefits. HUGE difference. Go and read Cleo's post because you clearly don't get how the system works here and hurts those who are not married, widowed, divorced single moms.

    Posted in: Abe pushes equal pay for temp workers to lift economy

  • -1

    tmarie

    Fizz, I guess a few didn't get your comment. Spot on.

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  • -2

    tmarie

    What's not mentioned are the spouse benefits that many wives here enjoy. Many married women here are more than happy to work under the 1.3 million limit to ensure they get a pension, health care, tax breaks and discounted things like kindergarten and daycare for their kids. When you factor in that the majority of temp workers are women, (and I'd be willing to bet married women) the idea of paying equally is Abe's way of forcing this benefit to be done away with without actually dealing with it directly - as he knows that would be the end of him.

    This benefit hurts women in a huge way but the majority here don't care because they benefit from it. Over 50% of single mothers live in poverty, 1/6 kids. And in the men who can't find a decent paying jobs and you have a huge issue that is only going to get worse in the future. Actually paying women what they are worth would help this issue but I won't hold my breath. No way are companies going to start paying benefits to housewives and no way do these women want to pay their way. None of the women I have spoken to who work PT are interested in working FT nor are they interested in paying pension and health care.

    Posted in: Abe pushes equal pay for temp workers to lift economy

  • 2

    tmarie

    Will city daycares/schools be opened earlier to help support the families where both parents work for the government? I've got a family in front of me with two kids (one in daycare, one in ele school) who are both government workers. No way in heck can they start work between 7:30/8:30 with the childcare hours. When the heck is Japan going to wake up and realize that the number of hours one spends at work doesn't mean productivity??

    Posted in: Gov't employees to start work early, finish early in July, August

  • -1

    tmarie

    ** You would make no attempt to protect your child if they were attacked by, say, a Siberian tiger if it means possibly killing the tiger? Shrug and say "Too bad for you, we intruded in their territory. I pick the tiger over you, son"?**

    Oh dear, is that what you took out of my post? Not worth wasting my time if you clearly don't have common sense to understand that is not what I said at all.

    Posted in: Cincinnati Zoo director defends killing gorilla to save boy

  • -4

    tmarie

    There was at the time. It's been quite a while now. Yes and she's been called a gold digger since the very beginning. Gold digger jokes have a longer shelf life?

    Funny you should be defending someone who is obviously lying about the violence to get leverage in a divorce. This a common procedure, in fact. Were you there for the entire relationship? I haven't defended her at all. I'm questioning the sexist "gold digger" comments. Your post is a fine example of why many victims don't come forward, be it male or female.

    Posted in: Depp's estranged wife files domestic violence police report

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