JAPAN NEWS AND DISCUSSION
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- English Instructor (Osaka, Kyoto, Kobe)
- Berlitz Japan, Inc. (ベルリッツ・ジャパン株式会社), Kansai
- Salary: ¥125,000 ~ ¥250,000 / Month
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- FT English Teachers for Kids - Osaka
- Kohgakusha Co., Ltd. （株式会社興学社）, Osaka
- Salary: ¥255,000 ~ ¥275,000 / Month Travel Expenses, Encouragement of Japanese learning*
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- Translator
- ZAIHON, Inc. (日本財務翻訳株式会社), Tokyo
- Salary: ¥6.0M / Year Negotiable
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Oh and his yak connection is well known by those in Osaka.
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Smith, what is even better is that his sibling is a public school teacher. Would love to see them in action about it all.
Well said Ubi.
Lots of praise because it seems a new, young guy is in charge. Hashimoto is right of the line and just a younger version of Ishihara. Roll out the black vans.
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**You're taking my previous reply to another poster who did say that education was wasted on mothers ** I don't think anyone said that at all. Perhaps you would like to go back and copy and paste that post.
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Himajin, Why, yes I did. Magnanimous of you to offer them other choices :-D ...when it has absolutely nothing to do with you, if I may say so. Your dislike of SAHMs is apparent. And your dislike of anyone who doesn't stay at home and/or agree with you is apparent.
It DOES have something to do with me when my tax money is being used to help support SAHM families. Get rid of the tax break, the 13 man cap and I wouldn't really have an issue with it all. Japan seems to punish families with both parents working while giving huge tax breaks to those who tow the SAHM line. I don't care about SAHM moms in other countries. If they can afford to stay home and look after the kids based on their husband's salaries, great. Thing is, that isn't the system here. The system encourages women to stay home using my tax money as an incentive. That pisses me off. Of course, you don't have an issue with it because you seem to benefit from it. - no idea if that is true though.
Feminism was supposed to be about women making their own choices, whatever they may be,not the choices dictated to them by NOW and career women, a narrow range of politically correct choices Indeed, it was. Do you think the women in Japan have a choice? Tax break and stay at home or.. head to work and be labeled an uncaring mom by the community, worry about getting your child into daycare, deal with your family members making snide comments... If Japan really wanted to give women a choice, they would offer up free daycare like France,sit back and see how many of the women here would head to work. Heck, don't even make it free. Just provide enough daycare at a reasonable price and see what choices women make. I also not dictating anything. Interesting that Cleo has stated that someone needs to stay home with kids. Where is the choice in that??
Oh, the slings and arrows, all from women...women somehow think it's their duty (with the strong herd mentality they often display) to check up on other women and make sure they're toeing the party line. Again, your dislike of working women is showing. I personally think you have a right to be pissed. Just as I have a right to be pissed when people here tell me that I will be a horrible mom because I want to work. The difference being, I have a vested interest in where my tax money is being used and think I have a right to question it. Back home? SAHM can do whatever they like for all I care. You should have told those women as much.
I think I love that last one best. My not having a high-flying career keeps some other woman from getting a job, are we all joined at the hip? You do get that this sadly is true in Japan, right? You do get that women don't have the career options because men don't see the point in hiring, promoting, dealing with women, right? Why? Because many women in this country do quit their jobs once they get married and have kids. Is it fair? Certainly not but there are repercussions to this and it is that working women get hurt by it. I probably hate this more than you do based on my situation where if I do have a kid, I am pretty much expected to quit - and have been told so in certain terms. How do you think I feel with regards to this? How do you think other working moms feel? It sucks. I won't disagree with you on that but sadly, it is true.
If we're honest, most people have 'jobs' not 'careers', men and women alike, minimum wage earners to cubicle farm workers. Women were sold on the idea that work was 'fun' and 'exciting', instead of a something that's necessary to put bread on the table. You can think what you like on this topic. I don't agree with you. I wasn't sold of such notions. Which is why I made sure I ended up in a job that I love. I have a career. A damn good one. One that I love. I would hope that everyone could say the same. If not, perhaps they need to rethink what they are doing if they only see it as a means to an end.
However, how many women get the glamorous career (even though what constitutes that may change with the era)? How many want them? I don't. I want a career that challenges me and one that I enjoy. Luckily for me, that is exactly what I have. I don't think people expect "glamour" - and those who do seem to be rather naive.
Each women should decide the course of her own life, how much education she'll receive, whether or not to marry, whether or not to have kids and how many, and whether to raise them herself or put them in day care, and quite frankly, no one else has to be happy with her decisions but herself and her family. Certainly won't disagree with this.
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Part Two
If you think the only use for a uni degree is to get a job and make money....then I have to disagree. When education becomes purely vocational, I think both the individual and society as a whole lose out; I also think university education should be free for those who will best benefit from it Hate to say it Cleo but not many people go to uni now to learn. They go because it is what is expected of them. Without a degree, they won't be able to find a decent job. Hate it, don't accept it but this is the truth. Ask any student today why they are at uni and most will tell you because they want to find a job. I think free uni is a great idea but sadly, not going to happen again with the economy. Free for those who will benefit from it?? Are you suggesting there are some who wouldn't benefit from it??
It doesn't matter who stays at home to look after the kids So someone HAS to stay at home and look after the kids?? Why?
and not let their self-esteem be eroded by people who look down on them and assume all it takes is a bit of sewing and cooking. If one is comfortable with the choices they've made in life, their self-esteem wouldn't be eroded by people who don't share the same opinions as them. I also don't think anyone here has suggested that it takes a bit of sewing and cooking as much as you might hope someone has. I certainly don't let the annoying SAHM/SAHW erode my self esteem with their nasty comments about me not being a good wife because I don't have kids nor stay at home all day. My friends who work and have kids also don't let these women erode their self esteem with the petty comments about how horrible they are as mothers for abandoning their kids and going off to work.
And of course, Himajin hits the nail right on the head when she asks if we really want our kids raised by uneducated women. Do you think those 21 year olds working in the yochiens are all that "educated"? Most of them go to tandais so by your standards of not being uni grads... It appears they aren't educated.
I think I would be wary of assuming that students at an all-girls university are typical of most female students. The very fact that they're at an all-girls establishment points to a certain mind-set and a certain kind of upbringing. Is this a joke? So, uni degrees are good. Uni degrees and students who go to all women's unis are not as good? Wow, way to move the goal posts. What kind of mind set and upbringing do these females supposedly have?? Interesting as studies have shown that all female education environments are better for women... guess Cleo knows something those researchers don't!
The experience of 3-4 years' self-regulated study instills an inner discipline that you don't get from just doing the homework that's handed to you at high school Oh dear, do you know anything about the uni system in Japan right now? If you think the students here are "self-regulated" and dealing with inner discipline, you really don't know what the situation is like. I am willing to be kids did a bit more when they were high school students.
Plus once the kids are off your hands it's surely easier to get back to work if you have some kind of skill or qualification? Wait, what? I thought people were going to uni to learn, not to help with their future employment. What "skills" and qualifications do you think these kids learn at uni that they couldn't learn somewhere else - say, on the job training or doing a trade? Or heck, taking one of the many tests here for "job skills" that this country offers?
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Scotchegg, well said!!!
This is going to be long as there is just sooo much to work with.. Let's start with Cleo.
I don't see more jukus as a good thing. (If the schools do their job, there's no need for extra schooling, if kids need help with their homework, Mum and Dad should be there to give it) I don't either but the way the school systems works here, it seems like you "have" to have your kid in one if they want to get into a decent school. Why? Due to the fact that jukus are now part of the recommendation system that high schools and unis use. They also teach to entrance tests because the schools and jukus work together. If parents here supported teachers and demanded change, we wouldn't need them. Personally, I hate them but... it is Japan and it seems that this is what parents do here.
Clubs and swimming lessons, if it's what the kid wants, fine - if it's to keep the kid out of the way and occupied while Mum does her career thing, not so good. Indeed. I often wonder why SAHM sends their kids to yochien and can't help but feel it is because mom wants to get rid of her kids. They don't do anything that a SAHM coulldn't do so why pack Jr off and spend money on it? Why enroll two year olds in eikiawa? It isn't just the career moms that pack off their kids. At least with a working mom, she's doing it to put food on the table. SAHM? What could be the reason if she decided to stay home and be with her kids? Makes no sense to me. Plenty of mom and kid play groups out there that they don't need to pay someone to do what they said they would do if they became a SAHM.
As for food...not sure it's necessarily better. More expensive maybe, which in terms of the economy might be a good thing; but if Mum and Dad are both busy, it's more likely to be 'quick and easy convenience food' than 'better food'. More likely? Says who?? Plenty of SAHM moms feed their kids crap. Ever looked in a bento made by some of the moms here? IF they even bother to make anything. Most stuff if reheated, pre-cooked food they bought, not made. More money in the family usually means more fruit, veg... There is a correlation with income and obesity. You might want to look into it.
compelled to work to put food on the table but at the same time condemned to unskilled, low-paid jobs because of her lack of education Um, do you think most working women in this country with a uni degree have a skilled, high paying job? Ha! Most work under the magical 13 man a month so they can stay on hubbies pension and health care. They don't need degrees for these jobs. Most won't get hired for a FT job after taking time off to have kids. Most don't want FT jobs either. The women who are being hurt the well educated ones who ARE working FT who get overlooked because well, so many others quit their jobs. If women in Japan want high paying, high skilled jobs, they can't just quit when they get married and want to start a family. The same goes for back home as well. Which is why may take their maternity leave and get back to work. You don't have to like it, you don't have to think it is fair. You don't even have to accept it but that is the way it is and I don't see it changing in the future - more so, in Japan.
an educated woman brings more to the care of her children than an uneducated one does Wow, the snobbery on that one is beyond believable. Do you think someone with a higher degree and more degrees than yourself will care more about her child than you do about yours? There is being aware of things but an "education" in terms of uni and being a better parents? Sorry, nope.
**a girl is more likely to meet a bloke who is also educated, her intellectual equal and likely to go on to make a decent living if she goes to uni than if she hangs around the local spinning mill. ** Intellectual equal?? Do you know the state of the unis here and how people get in? Go back to the recommendation system, dad having money, private schools... Is there anything wrong with falling in love with someone from the local spinning mill? Again, snobbery.
I think you have the whole wrong end of the stick regarding raising a family Of course you do. You think anyone who doesn't agree with you is wrong.
a woman might decide to stay at home full-time, part-time or just while the children are small, or she might decide to zoom back to work the moment her maternity leave is over. The world isn't divided into 'career women' on the one hand and 'women who stay at home and bake cakes' on the other. Yes, actually, it is. The divide between those who never had kids and who got back to work after maternity leave vs those who took years off to stay home and back cakes is very clear in terms of salary and position in the work force. It is rare here, home, in other countries that a women who takes more than her maternity leave will ever be making the same amount of money or have the same position as someone who who didn't take a lot of time off. They aren't seen as career women. Again,you don;t have to agree or like it but this IS how is works. Hence why so many women are waiting to have kids or refusing to have them period. They value their job and position and know that once they step off the merry go round they'll have a hell of a time getting back on. Is it fair? To some, perhaps no. To those who stay on for the full ride, it probably is.
Whatever a woman decides to do, her children will benefit from having a mother who is educated And by this, you only mean by graduating from uni, right? I already stated there are other forms of education out there but you seem hell bent on uni being it.
I really can't believe that you seriously think all a 'mother' needs to know is sewing, cooking and changing nappies. I would love to know where I suggested this is all I think they need to know.
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Spid, you do know that there are more marriages between j guys and foreigner women, right??
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Teachers dating openly and even flirting with students, that's what. WTF?? Sorry but no. Teachers should never flirt with students, nor date them - and that goes for uni students as well. If anyone needs to deal with this, it is the parents. However, let's look at role models their parents are. Unhappy marriages, dad who is never home, mom who doesn't work and is either smothering the kids or doesn't care... Very rarely do I see families out for dinner who speak to each other let alone look like a happy family.
Timtak, the problem is the girls here seem to want their cake and eat it too. They want passion, love, want to be treated like a princess and on top of that, want their man to work their balls off, hand over their bank card and what do these guys get back? The guys are well aware of this and are shunning it. The girls are well aware that many men out their aren't going to be making enough for them to sit at home and are holding out for something better. Not going to happen. The guys have years of being able to have kids and a family. The women? Nope. There are going to be a lot of unhappy households when these women realise their time is limited and marry whatever they can get - they will be bitter that they didn't get what their mommy promised them. The women here want the love, the passion... they see on TV but fail to understand that a) that isn't always possible and b) it takes a heck of a lot of work
Sam, 100% agree with you. If I was a guy here, I wouldn't be keen for marriage. I know a few guys who have done what you expected - why? Cheaper and less stressful than a date, easy to get up and leave and not worry about it. Can't say I really "agree" with the whole notion of it but certainly can see their opinions on it. Good looking guys, smart, good jobs who don't want a nagging housewife for a wife.
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The best thing for a kid is to have his/her mom at home. No, it isn't. The best thing for a kid is to have a happy family. If mom doesn't want to stay home and is forced to, I can promise you it isn't what is best for the kids.
Himajin, did you read my post? I suggested other forms of education rather than just university.
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Edu, right you are!! My mistakes! This women gets more respect than before - and that was damn high already!!
Cleo, working women create jobs - day care, babysitting, having money to spend on shopping, lunches at work... They have more disposable income and use it which means the economy is moving more. A large percentage of a working mom's money goes towards their kids educations so more jukus, more clubs, more swimming lessons, better food gets bought... Win/win for everyone.
Cleo, spending money on a uni degree for someone who won't use it is a waste in my opinion - male or female Your mom probably said such a thing with the expectations that you would work - and most women in the west with a uni degree does. The same can't be said here - at least not for FT work. I personally don't see the point of a uni education for a women if her whole ambition is to stay at home with the kids. Sewing, cooking, child rearing, early childhood education.. would be better money spent I think. It is an education and one that would help them with their path in life but would drop the whole "uni educated women" issue. Nothing wrong with wanting to stay at home with your kids but if you haven't a clue how to do anything while stating it is your goal in life...
I think spending a ton of money of a uni degree is wasted. Uni degrees are basically the new high school diploma. Anyone can get one these days, not everyone deserves to have one - and in some cases, be "given" it because mom and dad paid the tuition. Nothing wrong with learning a skill but the thing is, most people think they are above it these days. Shortage of plumbers and the like in many countries now because for some reason, people seem to think they are above such a job. Hence, a high rate of unemployed unis grads but really, should they have gone in the first place??
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**They are basically not interested in girls at all. **
Can you blame them though? These guys grow up knowing that women only view then as a cash machine or present buyer. I don't think I would be in a rush to marry a local girl either if I was a Japanese male.
Indeed, the number of otaku has risen but I think the number of mother con has dropped in recent years to be honest. There are more people living on their own than ever before. Mind you, that may mean they are at home with their anime and games but they are out of the house.
I wish the decent folks would met, marry and raise smart kids. Sadly, and not just Japan, it always seems that those who really shouldn't have kids are the ones that have them - and many at that!!
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Can we get some news about the offshore accounts??? What happened to the money. Seems news agencies stopped talking about them with all of this.
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Japan needs more companies like this - and more women in charge like her. One thing to note, she has no kids. Seems to picked career over kids which is fine but a shame if she ever wanted to have them. Japan needs women like her to be mothers and set a good example for both sons and daughters. A great model for Japanese women and companies!! Would like to see her more often and raising awareness and making the old ossans in charge actually do something about the issues here with working women and mothers. Something needs to be done and am glad to hear there actually is one company leading the way.
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the only way to cope with situations is to emulate the parents.
I don't think it is a way of coping - I think they just assume it is what is done as that was the model they had growing up.
**Are they ready to make the commitment as a parent after 34 years of being independent? No one knows. ** Are you suggesting that older parents are worse because of age? You might actually want to look into the studies on this as from the ones I have read, older parents are less likely to abuse their kids. More mature, more aware and more patience. Sadly, not the case for everyone but I comparing your average 24 year old mom and 34 year old mom, I would go with the 34 year old mom being better at it.
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Yomiuri Shimbun is a publicly traded corporation not a government organization.
So? I think both are rotten to the core and are run by corrupt old men who only care about their egos and themselves.
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Kuri - well said!
I think the marriage rate for women goes up obnce they hot 30 because the clock starts ticking. They either marry the first guy that comes along, trap someone else "oh I am pregnant" or become those OL's that you see in flower print kid's clothes who live with mom and dad.
Indeed there are some strange, strange men out there - otaku - but I think the princesses who refuse to even think about working just as hard are the men certainly outnumber them. I blame their mothers. The entitlement of some of the women here is shocking. I feel for those women who have a good head on their shoulder, want a career get passed over based on the actions of their female counterparts who quit as soon as the ring goes on. Those are the women whom I feel for.
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Women here have grown up expecting that they should get the best - hot guy with a great job who will a) buy them presents and pay for everything b) listen to whatever they say c) are able to cook, clean and look after the kids while they... sit on their butts and "look after the house". Men aren't able to do this and these guys don't measure up to such expectations. The media has created this notion that Korean/white guys are able to do this and some women here think that they are entitled to a princess lifestyle and when reg Jo Japan doesn't do all of the above, they don't want him.
Japanese guys on the other hand are working their butts off, commuting long hours and know they can't measure up to the change so... some will sit at home and play games, others will pay for it and others will nampa and enjoy their single life. The single life will only stop when "Oh no! I'm pregnant" happens - which now accounts for something like 50% of marriages.
The single guys I know have a realistic view of marriage and the future. The women? Nope. Spoiled princesses who have expect far too much while not giving their fair share.
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Surprise, surprise... Old men at the top who refuse to listen to others. And people wonder why Japan is sinking...
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But in God's law ...... the child must stay with her mother from birth to two years of time. then after completion of 2 years, if a daughter she should remain with her mother , and if a son he should go to her father.
God's law??? WTF? Daughter with mom, son with father? Wow. That is some very old school thinking and thankful, most people would disagree with it. Sadly, not all though.
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I know japanese don't hurt animals, flowers and even insects .
You obviously don't live in Japan if you think this is true.
Why do women snap? Easy. You try staying home with a baby and a four year old 24/7 with no support or help. While you're doing that, deal with the cooking, the cleaning, shopping... Japan doesn't support mothers. "Years ago" they had family and community support. Now? Not much. For all we know, this women lived away from her family and had no friends. 24/7 with two kids and no break? Recipe for a mom to snap. Add in that this country doesn't exactly have stellar child abuse laws nor a lot in terms of mentally ill support and well, dead kids. Certainly not just a Japanese problem ut many other countries either have better family support, community support or outlets for these moms.
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