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virgoApr. 21, 2015 - 02:46PM JST
Strangerland I am happy for you! Really! You chose well obviously. I just meet too many people who choose on what everyone else says and for the popular reasons to like someone else. I know so many people who can barely spend an hour alone without talking to someone else, and they end up married for so many wrong reasons.
I love "love". But I also love me and my alone and quiet time. And my freedom to do what I want when I want. In relationships I eaze up a little but someone else's insecurity is not about to be my life. So choosing well and communicating early is important. I don't think modern marriage benefits most men unless they are hell bent on having kids, as having a partner and a secure environment is best. Other than that, it is not needed to have a good relationship with someone. You don't have to do it to raise kids in most western countries but pleas everyone don't scream the reasons its better...I just agreed it is!
@Scipantheist.....you are so right. Your pay minus the expenses for the survival of your family (home, food, kids, all the obvious) should be more than 50% left to the major bread winner. No one is saying the other should be without by any means. It depends on the level of finances brought in. If I bring in $20,000 a month and 7,000 takes care of everything....then I should just give $6,500 to the spouse? Heeeeeellllll no.....but she will live well. And want for nothing at my income level. If she wants Tiger woods money go get him..!
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virgoApr. 21, 2015 - 07:05AM JST
If your life resembles even a third of that list...you're a sucker! If you think modern marriage benifits men, you're a sucker! If you let someone control the finances that you worked for all of you're life...sucker!
Now find a spouse that respects who you are and what you beleive in. If you feel you need a spouse. Many men are pressured into marriage. Bad marriages are many men's fault for picking on cuteness and eye appeal. Then they become hen-pecked suckers. Sorry....thumbs down away but to many lads today are natural born suckers who have drank all the 70's feminist kool aid.
virgoApr. 15, 2015 - 12:53PM JST
Great job Sasha!! One of my old pals from my Tokyo days!!!
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virgoApr. 12, 2015 - 04:53AM JST
@lasolitaria.....Is it the same thing? A blonde blue eyed immigrant with no Kenyan blood? We are talking about a girl with a Japanese mother. We understand the Japanese reaction up to a point...........But there have been years of putting down of groups mixed into Japanese like the Ryukuans/Koreans/Ainu/westerners..etc. Not someone who moved there but one who's lineage goes through Japanese DNA. In African countries...many who have been colonised in the past forcibly...and told they were ugly...to have a blonde blue eyed immigrant representing them would cause some consternation. Understandably. But we as a human race have a long way to go. I for one don't expect the Japanese to be where other places are on the "mixing" scale........but it is good to see there are some people in Japan who are letting nature take its course.
We are all one race...this young Japanese-black girl won't change Japan but it will wake some people to the realities of a future world. And as long as we can keep from the destroying what resources we have left, we will be ok.
Posted in: Multiracial Miss Japan hopes to change homeland's thinking on identity
virgoApr. 08, 2015 - 03:41PM JST
The famous american Cal Ripken broke the baseball Iron Man record for most consecutive games. That man is Sachio Kinusaga. He is a "haafu" with a black father but I had no idea and many of my students did not. It seems if japanese people want to they can deal with it. Especially when they want to champion an achievement. Some of the old timers new but left it out conveniently. This girl will be OK. And she will be an inspiration to younger generation girls that they can stand tall too.
virgoApr. 07, 2015 - 03:57PM JST
As I sit here looking at a Japanese govermnment approved statement in an English Japanese dictionary given to me in Japan........it says..."there is no single Japanese race. Science reveals the people of Japan to be a mixture of peoples from Southeast Asia, the Korean peninsula and the Ainu race." Now as we know that we also have to add in millions of Ryku islanders and other pacifics who were absorbed....the Chinese/Mongol connection through the Korean penninsula as well as others....it is easy to say she is Japanese and thats it. She has other blood in her but if we were to take a million Japanese and test DNA...not all of them will have Yamato lineage or are from the Jomon people who were here first. Some may have more parts of their DNA of Mongols...some this, that, or the other thing.
Part of the problem is that Japanese people (in general) are taught that they are all the same and that there is a purity to being Japanese. I wish someone in the Japanese Heirarchy like the royals would make a statement contrary to this nonsence. As for the 98.5% that number is an outright government misleading quote spread like a virus. There are millions who are counted among that number who were not born as Japanese citizens and many who have less Japanese blood born to a Japanese mother. To promote this number as "racially" Japanese as I have seen done by many officials in discussions of immigration is a falsehood. People I met who were ethnically Koreans who changed their identities to Japanese names to hide and get passports and blend in hipped me to the "scoop". I then learned of many who were haafu or mixed who looked japanese enough to "pass". This whole Miss Japan thing is needed to help move the country forward. In this new millenium..no country will be immune to the effects of multi-culturism..multi ethnics and so forth. With every passing year it becomes more of the norm worldwide. People are crossing borders in record numbers.
No one is trying to force Japan to change......it is happening whether they want it or not. the old guard is dying off and younger generations of humans lean more toward acceptance. Thank God...(or 7th dimensional beings looking down of us like in the movie Interstellar.)
virgoMar. 20, 2015 - 02:51PM JST
WOW! How stupid. A human being has to eat and PM or not if he wants to go into his wife's spot and grab a bowl of stew he should be able too. What a bunch of nonsense if anyone cares.
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virgoMar. 16, 2015 - 02:27PM JST
One of the problems is that people all up in arms over "haafu" are not for the most part haafu. Do you know what ists like to be mixed race? The terms gaijin and haafu if changed to another term won't change the derision from the people who don't like mixed race people. I am a mixed race person. Most haafu people I have met don't decry the word its the attitude of those who don't want mixed "Japanese" around. You can make any word a negative. I can say "white" people in a conversation in such a way as to make anyone in earshot think I have no respect for them (whites). The same as a white can make "black" people a negative.
This girl winning is a positive step. One day many Japanese will see that being "half" of what they consider Japanese will make no difference if the person was raised in the culture of Japan. It will take a while but the same as any country especially in the west....many bi racial people are called half this and that (race wise.) The parents raising there children as not to let the word hurt them and letting their kids realize that they can use it to some advantage as well as a sense of pride in their dual heritage should be applauded.
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virgoMar. 04, 2015 - 03:42PM JST
@ Laguna..I hope people see what you mean!
But what do we owe Bibi...or Bobo or whatever his nickname is? Nothing. What do we owe Israel as a country? Nothing. Will American blood be shed if they are attacked? Of course. Will they do the same and send a few token boys if we were in a bind....yeah right. GTFO Booboo!
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virgoMar. 04, 2015 - 03:30PM JST
The fact that someone outside of your own is highlighting a problem that is world wide, and stopping by to hang out with your first lady is only good on bringing attention to a good cause. I can't believe how so many people look for the negative in everything. Every first lady shops, spends and travels. If educating and raising the level of women gets brought to the table along the way ...(hopefully it will be furthered by others after the fact) that is a good thing. Cambodia always needs help and why not stop for some good will along the way at our allies house? The point is her budget is already set. Your paycheck taxes, and road repair taxes and social security have nothing to do with the first lady travelling nor do you even know how much she reaches in her own pocket.
And Jackie O? Besides being into fashion and being the wife of a womanizer who did have a good heart for the people...who the hell is she? No more or no less than any of the esteemed lady's to serve as the first lady.
If you want see why education for women and raising their chances in life is important why don't you read this...
Education gives people better choices. You should be all for anyone bringing it to the forefront even if its someone you try to hate on.
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virgoMar. 04, 2015 - 11:34AM JST
So @bjohnson....where is the abuse. Has any president or his wife NOT travelled the world furthering American interests? At least in this case she is furthering interests that will affect women. What ..you don't have any in your family?
@Richard Wood.....but you have a choice to not get your kid educated in inner city American schools if you go back home. I was educated and learned to read, write and think critically! That led to an education at a public Ivy. Thinking for yourself and challenging allows you to take control of your own learning. I love Japan but not enough of that ids done here. the lack of common sense is scary sometimes.
@ Harvey Pekar.....agree.
virgoFeb. 13, 2015 - 04:03PM JST
First off...in Japans society that all usually agree is behind in social ways compared to the west, this is a big step even if symbolic. I and all of you who lived/lived in Tokyo know Shibuya is an area with trendy, hip and international folks. (Not all but its evident). This may seem small but it takes a seed to grow. And as young people see more and more tolerance for those not like themselves then they themselves may grow up feeling more comfortable about their own individual circumstances.
I am sorry for those of you who feel the flag and all is too much. Do your eyes feel pain when you see it? I see it almost every day in my part of town. People are people. They do me no harm....visa versa. the Golden rule remember?
The constitution should never determine who can or can not marry. Hell we let stupid people marry and have kids don't we? That is far more of a problem than two loving gay/lesbian people minding their own business.
virgoFeb. 13, 2015 - 03:39PM JST
For those who think India is being picked on I personally feel otherwise. Of course I know of many women who travelled in India/Bangladesh/Pakistan and all felt safe....because they took more precautions than they would at home. On the travel blogs I frequent advice is given to feel safe in these places as women are not respected to the same degree as in western countries no matter how many politicians or female leaders you can point out. Look at the English blogs and media from India and see what the LOCAL women say. Sexual assault is a problem everywhere but in India where the average guy doesn't get it easily, like most any guy in a western country with liberated women who sometimes decide to "do you" when all you did was say hello. Talk to local in India who are western country experienced. India is not sexually liberated as a whole the way we are. Many men are inundated with internet porn making you think that women outside their countries are so easy. This is a country where revenge rapes and honor killings are still common (though outlawed). I can tell you of times where Indians tourists show up to a friends hotel room hoping and expecting to participate in sex with a girl who thought it was only one guy. And they automatically thought it would be OK. I live in a large metro are in the US. Over 4 million. I watch Asian girls here for English school and country small town white girls walk/travel through so called ghetto areas with dangerous reputations and while and occasional rip off/purse snatching or mugging may occur.......rape of a tourist/ foreigner/outsider is rare. Because these guys get laid daily if not weekly. (Sure thats just a partial reasoning) Education around here about sexual harassment etc is very good actually. I would feel safer with my female loved ones travelling alone in many places.....just not India and the like.
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virgoFeb. 01, 2015 - 09:11AM JST
Wow! Anyone even remotely supporting ak48 gets voted down. Just like Bieber and Kardashian millions of people love these girls. Cute is part of Japanese culture to a degree. As said many of these girls are over 20 and every guy who likes a pretty girl in her late teens up to mid 20s is not a pedophile. That being said there are many types of medium in Japan which the rest of the world considers borderline. and we can all see it regularly from manga to young teens in bikinis at 12-13 years old. Agreed. but Our countries all have a dark side and having the girls perform ALONG with other acts and representatives of Japan that may be popular in a few years would not be the worst thing. A few minute melody segue-ing into another act? Relax...I don't think Japan will lose its quirky reputation any decade soon and having an idol group dance and 'sing" wouldn't be the end of the world. I am sure the commitee will think of a good mixture of things Japan is proud of to open the ceremponies. Art and culture some find boring who are in Japan is not as widely known to non Japanophiles and findu=ing a healthy mixture of it to show MAY include another popular teen group if not the AK girls. It will be OK. Japan's reputation and existense will survive an opening ceremony that millions like me don't watch closely. Its just something on TV until we get to the sporting. The most important part.
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virgoJan. 17, 2015 - 05:29PM JST
I've seen many people say "Je suis Charlie", who have:
1- called people racist just because they took the side of what the facts say in the Mike Brown case etc...
2- for what happened with Paula Deen saying the "n-word" 30 years ago and getting her fired.
3- getting Don Imus fired for a dumb joke.
The Facts in Mike Brown? What consistent facts? Prosecuters across the US criticized the prosecuter in the Mike Brown case for manipulating the "facts". We don't know all the facts at all because of misinformation. With so many witnesses and stories and even different autopsy specialists and physics professors challenging the "facts" we were given...It's like trying to say who and how Kennedy was shot. The facts aren't all "FACTS".
Paula Deen was said to have used the N-word more recently. Only "she" said it was 30 years ago. Of course! She is the accused! It was more about fostering an environment where people were made to feel inferior due to race or creed etc, not because they sucked at their job. Her son also was involved. So if this person represented your brand it is up to you to decide if your brand is worth that person. And the public has a say when they do the buying. The price you pay for being fake to get people's money when they lose faith in you.
A dumb joke from Don Imus. Yeah its free speech to say that a group of mostly black women are nappy headed hos huh? Don Imus is old school and grew up in the days where saying blacks were nappy headed as a way to show they were inferior to straight haired whites was common. Talk to many who grew up in the 40s and 50's. For women that is hurtful more than most guys. We go bald. Women link some of their beauty to hair. (For many not all) its hurtful and personal. He called them hos. A street vernacular for whores. I never heard him say "those hos are fine" to describe a pretty group of women he liked? Have you? If your daughter was among the targeted you would at least want an apology right. Young college age women. An age where we all are discovering ourselves and learning to deal with how the world sees us.
These things you say were witch hunts but I say proper reactions to free speech that insults or hurts for many people to come out against them. Killing someone over it is a bit too far. Free speech is important but teaching your young children from an early age the golden rule of treating others how you yourself would want to be treated is more important. Maybe humor shouldn't be censored, but many use it as an excuse to hide their predjudices behind. I am sure there were many like that at Charlie Hebdo. But they deserved their free speech and they deserved whatever ridicule that was thrown at them as a result. But they also deserved to live
Posted in: Following the murderous attack on French satirical magazine Charlie Hebdo, “Je suis Charlie” — I am Charlie -- has gone viral around the world as a show of support for free speech. However, there is also a growing number of “Je ne suis pas Charlie” — I am not Charlie — messages online, triggering a debate about free speech and its limits. Where do you stand?
virgoNov. 04, 2014 - 03:49AM JST
Pharrell has been pretty famous in music for over a decade. Some of you not into American pop/hip hop/R&B may not know but he has a huge award shelf...I remember some of his big hits under his production teams in the late 90s. And the video was cool. Stop looking for negativity everywhere.
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virgoOct. 09, 2014 - 05:57PM JST
I am surprised by your remarks Cleo. As long as you have been in Japan it seems you are losing your western "freedom" gene. You know as well as I know that you don't (especially more so when he came out of school) have a whole lot of choice with employment contracts in Japan. There is very little negotiation. If it wasn't him it would be some other 22/23 year old just out of school to fill the ranks. They would not fire anyone either...just move them around. BUT...this time they got someone who knew he was worth more than the system teaches here. By bucking that system it gives other young creative minds hope. Lifetime stability is fine, but choice is another matter. You were not raised on this system but you seem to have come to embrace it. What about your progeny? For all of you with kids there is much to think about. Risk has rewards...not always but you have to be in it to win it! Or will you teach your kids to be "hammered down"?
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virgoJul. 19, 2014 - 03:30PM JST
Another insensitive off color joke by a Japanese politician. No Frungy he shouldn't be fired...he should have to answer to his public if that is how he was put in office. It was stupid yes....defines his whole character? We don't know. Does it suggest mass rape? That sounds like the deep end at the other end of the pool. Besides....did you actually take seriously that this would be done on a mass scale? I have heard of "poke the hole in the condom" situations. Actually happened to a friend of mine. They use a needle like a sewing kit. The odds of a pregnancy that way are so tiny...mass rape..really?
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virgoJul. 15, 2014 - 11:40AM JST
Always had a soft spot for Utada....but her English singing is not exceptional by any American standards. At All. Still has cute J-Pop tunes though.
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virgoJun. 24, 2014 - 04:13PM JST
LFRAgain I agree with you all the way. I know many unmarried partially for similar reasons. I want in my life to do and go how I please. After living several years in Japan I realized that marriage goes beyond a good supportive wife and even a kid or two...but into a territory where the husband is just the ATM machine in the eyes of many in Japanese society. I am happy without kids. I am always open to a good woman who matches up to me in all the good ways blah blah blah....but who wants to work for years just to be a drone. Family life is sold to us as the end game. I am happy for those who have a good one...but it ain't for everyone. I agree with what Dan West said because in Japan I know many men feel that way. In the states many men feel that way about marriage, but they still have relationships in most cases. There are many articles in American publications saying similar things.
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