JAPAN NEWS AND DISCUSSION
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yasukuni
What's wrong with a 41yr old living at home with his mother?
Posted in: 68-year-old Sendai woman stabbed to death; son missing
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yasukuni
Goes without saying. How can you expect to rehabilitate criminals if you allow them to get away with the crime of self pollution in jail ....
btw, do they have the same rule in the women's prisons? And do people snitch on each other??
Posted in: A resigned Horiemon prepares for life in prison
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yasukuni
Takes me back to when someone told me about Starbucks and cappuccinos and I hadn't heard of either of them. Geez I'm getting old. There was a time when most people drank tea.
@tmarie. Exactly. But I went with a friend once and told him I thought it was rude the way people would finish a drink and stay an hour after not ordering but just doing their homework etc, and he told me seriously that it's okay in Starbucks.
Posted in: Coffee break
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yasukuni
So, let's fix up all our marriages, and if they don't need fixing, rock each other's worlds even more than Mr and Mrs Cleo.
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yasukuni
Hikozaemon, and if Kan goes, we will have a new PM and cabinet. Great. Then in 3 months? 6 months? the public will think they are not doing a good job, and some politicians of some group will tell them they need to resign for the country's sake.
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yasukuni
By the way, what exactly do politicians do anyway?
I mean, 24,000 people died, cities and towns have been destroyed, there is a broken down nuclear reactor leaking radiation 200kms from Tokyo, new hospitals, roads, you name it is needed, we need to prepare for the next earthquake, the economy was in trouble before that, 30,000 people committed suicide last year, etc etc, ... and Ozawa is busy calling for the ouster of the leader of his party, and is going to start another political party.
For a minute I thought the country had serious problems that needed fixing, but now I realize I was just worried too much. Seems like the people running the country have plenty of spare time.
@apec networks, I don't think any other leader would have a great popularity rating at the moment either.
Truly, I fear for this country more than I ever have before. Do we really think that the type of politicians who spend all their time on these shenanigans are the types who will be on the ball when the next quake or crisis hits? I don't think so.
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yasukuni
@tmarie, She may very well be upfront about what she wants. In dating agencies and omiai situations people are usually pretty specific about what they are looking for.
And yes, that goes down to income levels, education levels, whether a parent will need to be looked after, whether she is prepared to live in another city, etc etc.
Whether they will be happy enough is not something I can predict. But different people have different standards for happiness. And yes, there are men who are mainly looking for someone who can cook well, and it also might look better in his job if he is married.
Most of the problems come when things change - the woman doesn't cook as much, the husband loses his good job, the in-laws aren't as nice as they seemed etc.
But the bottom line is, most of the single women I know want to get married, and it's not because they are hopeless romantics. They want - a wedding, financial security, children, and the end of the social stigma of not being married. I even know people who get married and then the guy immediately lives in another part of Japan or the world for study/business. But, at least they got married.
It sounds mercenary though doesn't it.
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yasukuni
@tmarie ...oops I should have read your comment. You said a lot of what I wanted to say. (except where we differ about staying in marriage for the sake of kids).
Posted in: NEET spouse in the house not such a neat arrangement
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yasukuni
@marriedawitch. You have a problem there. And why apologize for venting. It's good to vent sometimes. Good on you for seeing someone for counseling.
My only advice, is that you said she went back to her old ways after two days. You have 4 kids, so as hard as it is, why not just keep trying and being patient. Maybe if she tries again, and again and again, then she will improve - and maybe you can come to some other arrangements.
I honestly think that one of the big problems for many Japanese is that they are products of the 70's and 80's. They grew up with a father who was and endless supply of money, and a mother who waited on everyone hand and foot. In other words, there are too many princes and princesses around, who can't cope with hardship. (and what they think is "hardship" is actually just "real life".
Posted in: NEET spouse in the house not such a neat arrangement
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yasukuni
It seems that everyone sees things from their own experiences - which I guess is obvious.
@Cleo, that's funny about Mr Cleo. But I can honestly say that I can keep house MUCH better than my wife. Even with kids around. Maybe it's my mother's influence, but I like to make beds (or put futons away), but many women don't. I like to dry dishes and put them away whereas some women leave them in the sink.
My wife will complain about how tiring everything is, but when she was in hospital, the place was immaculate, the kids were fed, and they even got to bed early. No boasting (though it sounds like it), but I know from experience that if you do things right, a house doesn't need 40, 50, 60 hours.
If the Japanese wives mentioned here were like you Cleo, there wouldn't have been an article in the first place.
btw, my wife is great at what she does -so I'm not complaining - just saying that I can keep a house running better and cleaner than her in a fraction of the time. But, I like to do things fast - whereas Japanese have a knack for drawing things out.
Lastly, because you are sensible, hard working etc etc, you probably can't imagine what some of these other women are like.
Posted in: NEET spouse in the house not such a neat arrangement
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yasukuni
It doesn't take all day to do the housework. As much as people like to say how hard housewives work, there is no comparison between a 40,50,60 hour work week with commute times, and keeping a house.
Some of you talk about your own situations and how you share housework, finances, etc, and get on fine and that's wonderful. The article wasn't saying all households are like that - it's not really a peer reviewed scientific study after all! But, there are plenty of cases these days where a Japanese man (or man married to a Japanese wife) who doesn't work feels like they are in a bad situation. Sounds like a lot of cases I know.
But the bottom line is the matter of the heart. (Yes, I'll wax romantic). If the guys in the above stories were in love with their wives, and their wives made them feel loved, appreciated, special etc etc, then they wouldn't be complaining.
It's like couples saying they can't stand this and that about their partner - there are usually deeper issues involved. i.e it really isn't all about toothbrushes, toilet seats, 500 yen kozukai opposed to 600 yen.
Then again, what do I know. My wife handles most of the money that I earn, and I'm writing this after feeding the kids and doing the laundry....
but, I was the one who promised till death do us part...or something to that effect! So, people shouldn't be kicking each other out. Don't do that unless you done a lifetime of counseling. The next one you marry might be worse, or have a different set of problems.
Posted in: NEET spouse in the house not such a neat arrangement
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yasukuni
You are all missing the real issue.
Posted in: NEET spouse in the house not such a neat arrangement
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yasukuni
If he had a glum face people would complain. If he were in Japan with a happy face, people would complain because he should be sad and serious. If he were in Japan with a serious face, people would complain that he wasn't showing positive, confident leadership.
If he doesn't go to Tohoku people complain that he doesn't care. If he goes to Tohoku people complain that he is just doing a photo-shoot and wasting time and money.
There are worse things you can do than smile in front of a camera at a meeting that everyone expects you to be at, so give the guy a break.
Anyway, he can probably rest assured that the political, economic and nuclear experts of the Japan Today community will be keeping abreast of things here for him and giving advice where necessary...
Posted in: This way
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yasukuni
P.S I know young Japanese guys who spend lots of money on clothes and hair but who don't know how to approach women. And I know so many women who want to get married but can't who spend money on clothes, bags, makeup, hair, nails, diets, shoes, parasols in the hope that they will be more attractive - but still are waiting for someone to introduce them to someone.
No offense to hair stylists, but people seem to spend so much money on hair these days. Is it really that much of a deal breaker?
Posted in: Keeping up with Japanese metrosexual manes
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yasukuni
And then again there are guys who are overly macho who have bad hair, bad skin and hairy backs but who get the girl because they have the courage (or audacity?) to simply say "Hi", while the metrosexuals are preening in front of the mirror.
Different women like different things. I suppose if you think 60% of women like a certain look and you think you have more chance of a date?/girlfriend/ marriage partner if you get that "look", then who am I to criticize.
But to me, it's getting ridiculous to have guys spending ages in front of the mirror in restrooms while their girlfriend is waiting outside. Just doesn't seem right somehow.
Posted in: Keeping up with Japanese metrosexual manes
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yasukuni
@miamum, that was great!
Best thing I've read on JT in years.
Posted in: Why do famous men with power and influence (Dominique Strauss-Kahn, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, Bill Clinton, for example) risk everything with their sexual behavior?
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yasukuni
@Zenny. Yeah, I know. I was saying good man because of your posts about controlling yourself.
Most women don't realize what an achievement it is.
Posted in: Why do famous men with power and influence (Dominique Strauss-Kahn, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, Bill Clinton, for example) risk everything with their sexual behavior?
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yasukuni
Good man Zenny.
"This makes me want to avoid every man in the world if possible. "
Big mistake. Just find one who loves you and loves you so much that he is willing to be faithful to you. "forsaking all others, and being faithful to one woman" is the greatest act of love a man can do for a woman.
I know plenty of men who haven't cheated on their wives once. But it's been more difficult than their wives will ever know.
Posted in: Why do famous men with power and influence (Dominique Strauss-Kahn, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, Bill Clinton, for example) risk everything with their sexual behavior?
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yasukuni
"“She was being more violent than usual. I couldn’t stand it any longer.”
Yeah, I hate that too.
Posted in: 89-yr-old man held for strangling 85-yr-old wife to death
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yasukuni
And only a woman would be perplexed that the "other woman" isn't slimmer, more beautiful, more intelligent, charming, etc etc than the wife.
So, if you are married and you have a faithful husband, (whether rich or poor, famous or otherwise), make sure you let him know that you appreciate him.
And if you are with a rich and famous guy, be doubly thankful, because he has to work harder at being a good boy.
The real question is...why are so many women so judgemental of rich and famous men who play around, when for every one rich and famous man, there always seems to be 3,5, 13 or 600 women willing to sleep with him even though they know he is married..?
yeah, that's the real question.
Posted in: Why do famous men with power and influence (Dominique Strauss-Kahn, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, Bill Clinton, for example) risk everything with their sexual behavior?