JAPAN NEWS AND DISCUSSION
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- English Instructor (Osaka, Kyoto, Kobe)
- Berlitz Japan, Inc. (ベルリッツ・ジャパン株式会社), Kansai
- Salary: ¥125,000 ~ ¥250,000 / Month
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- FT English Teachers for Kids - Osaka
- Kohgakusha Co., Ltd. （株式会社興学社）, Osaka
- Salary: ¥255,000 ~ ¥275,000 / Month Travel Expenses, Encouragement of Japanese learning*
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- Translator
- ZAIHON, Inc. (日本財務翻訳株式会社), Tokyo
- Salary: ¥6.0M / Year Negotiable
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yasukuni
Some crimes are hard to solve and the motive is unclear but this “I hated him and wanted him dead.” says it all.
@bcbrownboy "don't mess with J-ladies!" J-ladies are mostly okay. Just think twice about marrying a Saitama girl!
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yasukuni
Disillusioned and Cleo, if you read my post again, you will see that I was arguing FOR the use of seat belts.
Posted in: How much attention do you think drivers in Japan pay to child safety seats or making sure their kids wear seat belts when they are in cars?
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yasukuni
Disillusioned, you jumped on my one sentence "And most of us got through unscathed." and somehow missed the rest of what I said. Read after the fifth line!
I always use seat belts. I always insist on my kids being in baby car seats. I have had fight after fight getting my Japanese wife and in laws to abide by the law. And I convinced them. I am probably overboard with safety in cars.
I was simply stating that one of the MISTAKES that people make is that of not realizing the danger or necessity of seat belts because they got through unscathed. But I was saying that 99% of the time people CAN get away with stuff, but that doesn't make it right.
And that's why education is important. Because there are lots of people out there who didn't use seat belts who never had an accident, so they MISTAKENLY think that their life experience shows them that they don't have to worry about it.
Read my post again and you might understand.
Posted in: How much attention do you think drivers in Japan pay to child safety seats or making sure their kids wear seat belts when they are in cars?
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yasukuni
What's the problem? Murdoch's organizations have never been anything other than completely fair and balanced.
I suggest he gets the guys on Fox to do a real job on this liberal Cable guy.
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yasukuni
Okay, some people are good with seat belts but most aren't. To be fair, japan is where some western countries were decades ago. There was a time back in the day when I was a kid when there weren't baby seats, and kids sat in the back, or the very back of a station wagon. And most of us got through unscathed. Most of the Japanese kids who sit on their mother's laps while driving in Japan will be okay too. What people need to learn is that somewhere someday doing something unwise will lead to unnecessary loss of life or limb, and the accompanying sorrow. It's like a lot of precautions in life. 99% of the time you might be okay. But it's the crazy, unexpected "who would have thought that would happen?" moments that change people's lives. And they could have been avoided for a few bucks or minutes of time.
My kids were the type that could cry literally for an hour at being in a baby seat. But as I told my wife -let them cry. Even if it takes a you a week of having to wear earmuffs, they will get used to it. And that's what happened. But if I would have given in, my wife and mother-in-law would still be thinking it was showing more love to hold a baby/infant in the backseat on the freeway, than letting it cry.
Yes, many Japanese are okay. But on the other hand, there are many people (probably both japanese and foreign) who have a literal battle to get their spouses to comply with the law. And the hardest thing is when you get the in-laws against you, so then you are looked at as someone is arguing against decades of experience, the Japanese way, and "common sense". But kids get used to anything. One day the thing they hate will become their ritual which they guard with their life.
`limboinjapan - scary story, but another one that I will be able to tell the family just in case they relapse....
What they need here is the same solution for everything. People need to talk about it on TV. TV is the great educator. You can say something for years and be ignored, but if someone who is an "expert" says it's so on Mino Monta or a quiz show, it becomes gospel.
Posted in: How much attention do you think drivers in Japan pay to child safety seats or making sure their kids wear seat belts when they are in cars?
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yasukuni
Fishy that was a really informative post. My point is though that even without licenses and training courses, a lot of people are lacking in common sense.
Just thinking, "What if .." is good enough in most cases. At the risk of sounding like a Cleo groupie, just remembering that ""if there is any danger that kids can get into, they will." and using your imagination, is worth a couple training courses.
Anyway, if people can't think for themselves, all it takes is an hour lecture explaining the dangers of open windows, bathtubs, hot stoves, medicine and scissors etc in low accessible places, cars, roads gates etc etc. As an 11 yr old boy I could have looked after a toddler better than some of the 30yr old mothers I see around me these days.
Gee, I'm sounding like an old geezer. But unnecessary, easily avoidable accidents involving little kids really get me down.
Posted in: Baby girl in critical condition after getting head trapped in car window
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yasukuni
"if there is any danger that kids can get into, they will."
Cleo, that one sentence needs to be taught over and over and understand by everyone who has anything to do with kids. I'm another guy like two other posters married to Japanese women who have problems with our spouses and their seemingly inability to foresee possible danger. It's exasperating to say the least.
I have another thing I try to get across. That is, that if you can't see your kids, assume the worst.
""if there is any danger that kids can get into, they will." Just in case anyone is about to have kids - this one can't be said enough. I've had the sheer panic of seeing my toddler walking outside his daycare center on the road, because people didn't foresee that one unlocked gate is all you need for a little boy thinking he's trying to escape from Stalag 13.
Too much talk about "sho ga nai" and "unmei" in this country (which I love by the way).
I wouldn't press charges against the dare care worker, and I don't think she needs to be punished though. But we all just need to use our brains more.
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yasukuni
Dolphin Girl " but the reason that some women don't say anything while being groped is because they haven't been taught how to defend themselves not because of their gender."
But as a man, I would ask why they don't move or run. So I think it IS a gender thing. If I were being groped by an 8 foot, 400 pound MMA fighter on a train, I probably would be not be able to defend myself either - without getting seriously hurt. And, for that matter, I have NEVER been taught by ANYONE how to defend myself. What makes you think all men are taught self-defence? But, anyway, I wouldn't sit there and take it for 25 minutes. And I don't think many men would. You are saying that women are taught to not even run away?
You may be right in what you say, but I honestly think the days where women were taught to just be delicate flowers who defer to everything and everyone are long gone.
Last post - women need to be taught to get out of nasty situations, and men need to be trained to not abuse women. Unfortunately, things aren't improving.
PS, I think men and women are incredibly different so it's almost impossible to compare them. Most men would feel like their Christmases had all come at once if they were groped by a woman/women on a train or anywhere.
Posted in: Chiba cop arrested for allegedly groping woman on train
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yasukuni
Dolphin girl, I didn't say that men were better than women, or higher than them. But they are different.
Women can only stand up for themselves to a point. Next time a fire starts in a building, it most likely won't be women going in to rescue men. And in the end if a woman is being harassed, another woman may not be able to help her.
Don't get me wrong. Men who grope women on trains are pathetic. As much as I say violence isn't the answer, I would have to work hard not to beat the guy up. On the other hand, like I said, women who are groped and say nothing amaze me - but women are like that and it shows how different they are. I think they need to learn to do something more than just do nothing.
And I think men should man up and help them. That may seem neanderthal to you, but if you get in a bad situation, you'd be better off with me around than some woman who can lecture for ages about equality of the sexes and how men should or shouldn't behave.
Miamum, I hope so too, but the reality is that it's now 2010, and men do bad stuff to women, both in Africa, Japan and the US etc. It's not going to go away.
For what it's worth, I think the best thing you can do as women is to train your sons if and when you have them, to be decent men. Every groper/racist etc was one a cute little baby boy. Scary. But something went wrong somewhere.
Posted in: Chiba cop arrested for allegedly groping woman on train
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yasukuni
Miamum, you have my sympathy and none of what I wrote above applies to you. A woman in your situation is obviously thinking first and foremost about the health of your baby.
Posted in: Chiba cop arrested for allegedly groping woman on train
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yasukuni
Okay here is my advice for anyone in that kind of situation. I speak as a person who has stopped fights on trains and off, between Japanese, gaijin, drunk or otherwise -and also someone who has been able to wake up drunk sleeping guys in the morning who are lying all over a seat making several people stand, and stop other obnoxious behavior. All without punching or yelling.
Go from the easiest and gentlest, non-confrontational steps, and then progress if they don't work. Ie. If a guy is touching you on a train, move that part of the body away. If that doesn't work, tell him quietly to stop. If that doesn't work, go to another part of the train, or get off. Why allow something you hate to continue? If you can't immediately move or none of that works, then maybe you can start talking or screaming and pleading for help. If that doesn't work then bite, scratch or kick or whatever. But don't let it continue.
My point is that there is a lot between doing nothing and beating someone up. Most times, a simple soft word will solve a problem. Or getting yourself out of the situation.
Often a woman won't go to the help of another because she is scared. A man? Well, a lot of men have lost their masculinity. Damn shame! Too many girlie men around. And on the other hand, too many guys who are too quick to get physical. If I saw a chikan situation, i wouldn't immediately start punching. (You can always be mistaken, and you can also get yourself in trouble as others have pointed out). Humans have to learn that you can solve problems without violence. But, if doesn't hurt to be able to defend yourself or others in a worse case scenario. To the commenter who said that he thought he saw a drunk touching a woman's breasts against her will.. I am amazed you didn't do anything.Truly! Why not just approach them and say "Suimasen, daijoubu?" You'd probably then know what's going on pretty fast. . And if you weren't willing to confront the guy, then go to the 3 station employees you mentioned and tell them. You can always hide behind them.
There is something wrong when educated people just do nothing! How can people go to school for 12 years or more, and just do nothing in simple situations? People need to use their brains. And parents need to start educating their daughters and preparing them mentally of unfortunate situations, which may occur. (And the old fashioned "just kick them between the legs" is dumb advice, but seems to be still given out). P.S I am not a trained martial artist, boxer or anything, and I don't fancy myself as any kind of tough guy street fighter. But you can't let bad behavior continue. Harden up people - mentally and physically.
And as for the poor woman who was dragged to the toilet on a train and raped and nobody did anything. My 70 yr old father OR MOTHER would have somehow gotten between them, and I'd like to think that in a worst case scenario that even if the young girlie men couldn't do anything that when I become old and frail, I would spend my last breath going out helping someone in that situation. People are pathetic these days.
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yasukuni
A lot of guys here are perplexed about why women don't do anything. That's because you are men. Forget about the decades of brainwashing you have received telling you that men and women are the same. It's not true. No matter how much women want to feel that they can do anything men can do etc etc, the fact is they are different. No man I know would allow himself to get groped unless he was enjoying it. If the groper was a gay Mike Tyson guy (i.e bigger and someone you think could hurt you), a man would still say stop, or leave. So, the reality is that for whatever reason, even in 2010 women who are high educated will often just freeze and not be able to do anything. Crazy, I know, but ask women around you, and you will find so many who have experienced chikan who say they were just too scared or whatever to do anything.
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yasukuni
25 minutes? A 24 yr old woman puts up with being touched for 25 minutes without being able to move, tell him to stop, scream, ask for help or do anything? Because of shyness? Fear?
But then when she gets off at the station, somehow she can muster up the courage to contact a station employee and point the man out and explain what happened?
And in the end what he was doing was groping her leg?
Interesting.
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yasukuni
Fair enough Mr Zenny.
Posted in: Tokyo salon owners sound off on current state of male style
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yasukuni
Am I the only one who always wonders who Apec Networks is and who his "sources" are?
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yasukuni
The dating game isn't so hard. If you really want to score that hard and think going to a nail salon will mean the difference between scoring or not, then they probably need to lift their games.
Spending money at nail salons to "score" in Japan? What's wrong with just keeping your nails clean and short? If a woman was that impressed with the difference between a guy with normal clean nails, and a man who had obviously been to a nail salon, she probably is probably not worth the effort.
Put it the other way, would you accept or reject a woman on the basis of whether she's been to a nail salon?
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yasukuni
From what I've read of the case, most people would have no problem with her and her son living in the US. The boy's American grandparents want to help look after him. Reducing this to some sham "phone" marriage shows ignorance of the facts.
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yasukuni
jonswan, interesting comment. Crowe was interviewed in England and when it was mentioned that his accent was Irish in parts, he was extremely annoyed and almost walked out. Which is kind of bizarre. I don't think anyone can ever really know if they sound perfect in another language or dialect. e.g I've met foreigners with terribly accented Japanese convinced that they have no accent.
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yasukuni
Hearing a man who runs a nail salon tell you how you need good nails to get women is like having a real estate guy tell you that now is the best time to buy.
Posted in: Tokyo salon owners sound off on current state of male style
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yasukuni
Men getting their nails, hair and eyebrows done to attract women is ridiculous. What a bunch of pathetic girlie men.
Posted in: Tokyo salon owners sound off on current state of male style