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    fishy

    not mentioned in this article here, but J-news said of all those traffic accidents (for those 7 year olds), majority happen on their way to & from school.

    Posted in: Children aged 7 most numerous among all age groups in pedestrian accidents: police

  • 4

    fishy

    toshiko-

    If ten thousand yen, still one hundred wads. Nippon Bank has security g's to escort you.

    it is 100 man yen... bank security guards won't escort you for that amount. they didn't escort me when I had that amount in my bag (I had it to pay for my car years ago).

    Posted in: Opposition parties demand Abe's wife testify over school land scandal

  • 16

    fishy

    This guy certainly deserve his punishment but the press here also look to condemn always a single bad foreign apple

    When Japanese people commit a crime like this, it's on the news. You probably see more news about foreigners in Japan on Japantoday because most of the readers are non Japanese.

    Also, the fact this guy ran away and then caught the same taxi, was driven to the koban, got arrested, makes this more newsworthy (so stupid).

    Posted in: American man arrested for assaulting taxi driver, refusing to pay fare

  • 0

    fishy

    I do not know what kind of mental disability this daughter had, but often mental disability are being considered "crazy" and those people do not receive the same support that physically disabled people receive. I have a family member (not my immediate family, though) who has mental disability and he looks just like everyone else with no disability, so when he does or says something that's different, or cannot do things most people can, people look at him weird and think he's crazy.

    For those who criticize the mother (I'm not saying what she did was right by no means), I just want to say it is harder to live with someone with mental disability than you probably think. You are constantly careful with what you do, what you say, repeat the same things over and over, you are told one thing and do it, and then get denied for doing it by the person who told you to do it (because they forget).

    More than often, those people with mental disability (unless it is very bad), they are not accepted by those facilities, and so you take care of them at home, Or more than often, parents feel guilty putting those mentally disabled children in the institutions and so live with them, get frustrated, get sad, get angry, feel lost.. Hard to explain but I never realized how hard it is to have a mentally disabled person in the family until I had one (he was born healthy and this happened due to accident).

    Not to mention this mother was taking care of the daughter by herself, I'd imagine it was even much harder.

    So sad.

    Posted in: 61-year-old mother arrested over death of mentally disabled daughter

  • 1

    fishy

    I have no problem being called "haafu" (I'm Japanese/French mix). But I do not like the term "Daburu (double) because I think that's simply too much. I just say I'm a mix of the two..

    Posted in: Two halves of a whole: Japan’s habitual ‘labeling’ of bicultural kids

  • 4

    fishy

    Yes, of course it matters. Who is better placed to save them, the emergency services or their elderly father...???

    Ever heard of a word "panic" ?? I doubt their state of mind at that time was anything you could ever imagine unless you were in their situation once.

    Posted in: 2 sisters die after car plunges into sea in Nagasaki

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    fishy

    lucabrasi

    i was born in japan.. with a japanese dad and french mom. i grew up in japan so my japanese is my native language. my french has a slight japanese accent and my english which i learned as a teen in the united states has some japanese and french accent with an american twist :) my kids (both me and my husband are half japanese. husband is half american) speak japanese with no accent and their french and english have japanese accent. learning french and english as their second/third language doesn't change their japanese accent.

    it's not about winning or losing. but you love your kids.. so that's a win for your kids regardless their nationality!

    Posted in: Confessions & Confusions: Raising dual culture children

  • 3

    fishy

    lucabrasi,

    I love my kids. They're Japanese. Don't understand the problem....

    Oh no, it's not a problem at all, I was just curious how it's possible to raise them 100% Japanese as in my book there's no such thing. The fact your kids visited your country made them see outside of Japan and the fact that you being from outside of Japan probably gave them a broader view of the world. They can be Japanese AND English, no need to label them as Japanes, no? (even if they only spoke Japanese). Because being Japanese doesn't mean speaking only Japanese or eating only Japanese food :)

    Posted in: Confessions & Confusions: Raising dual culture children

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    fishy

    lucabrasi

    We raised our two as 100% Japanese. Mainly because of (my) concerns about bullying. Now they're older, I wish they spoke better English. But they're both happy and healthy, so no complaints

    Just curious.. what do you mean by raising your kids 100% as Japanese? Does that mean your family only spoke Japanese at home and ate Japanese food and not interacting your foreign side of family and not visiting your home outside of Japan?

    I mean, I'm just not sure what you mean when you say 100% Japanese because to me, that's not possible. My kids (mixed) go to Japanese school, they speak multiple languages because of living in Japan and having two parents who speak different languages, they have relatives outside of Japan.. They are probably more Japanese because majority of the people they interact with here are Japanese, but we don't raise them "as Japanese", in fact, we don't even think we want them to live as Japanese or non Japanese or half Japanese or whatever.. They are what they are and they eat, speak, and interact with whoever that are in their lives.

    They have brown eyes and brown hair but that doesn't chase their Japanese friends away and they don't get bullied because of the extra languages they speak or the food they eat at home. Like I said in my earlier post, there have been some challenges when it comes to languages because living in Japan, it's not so easy to learn second/third language to be as good as their native Japanese language. But that's just a challenge nothing negative..

    Posted in: Confessions & Confusions: Raising dual culture children

  • 6

    fishy

    You're entitled to your opinion, but I think you're wrong. Like Melodie, we raised our kids 'our way' - they identify as Japanese, since this is where they live and grew up, but they have a pretty strong UK element, including food preferences, attitudes to gender roles, language, culture, etc. Being 'half-something-else in Japan' has never been a problem, and has often been an asset

    Agree with both cleo and Strangerland. Never been a problem (though there were some challenges especially when it comes to languages) and has been an asset. Both for me, and for my children.

    Posted in: Confessions & Confusions: Raising dual culture children

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    fishy

    Saw her being interviewed last night on TV.. She raised 3 children by herself and she, even this day, sleeps by her husband (she has put his clothing on a cuddle pillow and it's in her bed). She said she accepted the whole thing as there was nothing she or her husband could do, and he, after so many years, visited her in Vietnam. There was a picture of him in a wheel chair and they reunited after many many years. He returned to Japan and she remained in Vietnam, their lives were apart once again but really, I felt watching her interview that this former Japanese soldier and his wife have had a strong bond. She said she thanked the emperor and empress that they've visited and that really made her feel better (some tears in her eyes).

    Posted in: Healing old wounds

  • 0

    fishy

    The very notion that men here are nothing more than ATMs and sperm donors

    Excuse me???????

    I am sorry if people around you are in that situation (ATM). But to say men here are ATMs.. I disagree with the comment. Maybe you need to hang out with more decent people here :)

    Posted in: Company promises women the man of their (financial) dreams

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    fishy

    Instead of just saying "my goals have changed" she had to add having a kid and family... I guess she wasn't giving a "happy life" working. A shame because Japanese women need to know they CAN do both. If they want to. Using kids as the excuse to quit just makes it harder for those who want to do both or have to do both.

    it doesn't sound like an "excuse" to me.. she just wants to focus on family now and who knows she might return to work years later and she probably knows she can :) I don't see anything wrong with her leaving the showbiz and be a stay at home mom to enjoy the way she wants!

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  • 3

    fishy

    Some Japanese women feel they have a difficult time finding acceptable suitors

    how about Some women feel they have a difficult time finding acceptable suitors

    Posted in: Company promises women the man of their (financial) dreams

  • 3

    fishy

    Another reason I chose not to bring up my son in Japan - nowhere safe to play

    that's quite a comment. and that's what many of us say about many western/Asian/African countries... not safe. I still think it's much safER here.

    Posted in: 3-year-old boy dies after being hit by truck; driver arrested

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    fishy

    but then again it doesn't say it's a small road. Kids this age on bikes weave left and right with little or no sense of space around them. He could have well veered right in front of the truck, or turned onto the road to cross. We have no idea what happened here except that a child died

    this street is 3.7m wide according to J news. I saw the video and it looks like a quite residential neighborhood.. radio said that the boy came out of garage to the street, the driver couldn't have guessed a child would suddenly appear. but then again, if the truck was going slow.. perhaps this could have been avoided.. or if an adult was there to make sure the road was clear before the boy came out.. but I know, all these should have, could have, doesn't work all the time.

    Posted in: 3-year-old boy dies after being hit by truck; driver arrested

  • 1

    fishy

    since1981-

    This may be the first in Japan but not the first. American military from Operation Tomodachi have file law suits. Something you won't see in Japanese news

    did those military people win the case?

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    fishy

    was the boy riding his bike alone on a busy road?

    this happened right in front of the boy's house. he came out of the garage and then got hit. the street is very quiet and small that a 2 ton truck could barely fit to go thru.. I wonder why the truck driver chose to drive that particular street.. And yes, the boy was alone.

    Posted in: 3-year-old boy dies after being hit by truck; driver arrested

  • 1

    fishy

    According to Happy Science, Shimizu has been an ardent follower since she was a child

    it is known now that both of her parents belong to this cult group. she had already been brainwashed as a child... and whatever happened to her working as a talent triggered all these now.

    I hope, when and if she realizes this is not what she wants, she has a way out.

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  • 0

    fishy

    seems like the kid now destroyed the teacher's life.

    obviously, we don't know the whole story so we can't judge the boy or the teacher. perhaps the teacher didn't think the injury was serious enough (boys get hurt all the time... my boy hurts himself playing sports and stuff but we don't seek empathy from school or teachers). 14-year old should be able to seek for medical help through parents and they just keep going on with their life. Clearly, there was more to this story and the boy's feeling had already been hurt before the injury.

    I feel sorry for the boy.. but at the same time, I feel sorry for the teacher, too.

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