tmarie's past comments

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    tmarie

    Aly, I think like with such things anywhere (rape, murder, child abuse...) it's always been there but now more people talk about it so it seems there is more happening when in fact, less may be. The media spread information around whereas before, little info was out there.

    I can't say India is more dangerous. When we start making comparisons, we have to ask based on what. Information from Japan is very biased and Osaka has been well known to liar about their crime rat end not even bother to take reports. I certainly feel safer in Japan than I did when in India but I've been assaulted in Japan and wasn't in India. Again, media? Japan covering up stats? I don't know. I certainly feel safer in Canada and the UK though than I do in Japan.

    Posted in: Suspect arrested after Japanese woman raped at Indian resort

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    tmarie

    ** Name these other rape countries that do that? It's a wonder they didn't stone this poor Japanese woman for getting raped.**

    There are plenty of countries that punish victims of rape. You're showing your ignorance if you think it is just India and Pakistan that a) stone b) throw acid at women and c) treat women like crap.

    **@tmarie

    I've grown up with Indians and stayed in India for an extended period but I suppose that you haven't......** Lots of assumptions on your part.

    Inara, exactly. The number of J female friends I know here in japan who have been raped is shocking. More shocking is that not a single one of them reported it.

    Because we don't live in a Utopia. People have to do what they have to do to stay safe. Its all nice to say that but the reality is the men are not behaving, so how can women stay safe? Just don't go. The same way we ALL avoid bad neigborhoods wherever we are. But women are not safe anywhere. That's my point. Someone suggested staying home. We can't say "home is safe" because women get raped in their home. I feel it is better to go out and see the world and do so while trying to be safe about it. I've been to India. Loved it. Had a wonderful time and thought the people were amazing. I would hate to deny other women the same experiences because a few bad apples think rape is acceptable.

    Posted in: Suspect arrested after Japanese woman raped at Indian resort

  • 1

    tmarie

    nteresting! I wonder if I could stay here after my Japanese ex-wife assaulted me with a hammer, broke the door to my room, and then went to report DV and take the most famous lawyer to get all that belonged to us. Could I go and stay there in a shelter? ;-) No need for these shelters because women can easily just claim DV and take the control of everything in their hands. The law in Japan is blind to the most obvious of facts. One day I will publish HER statements to prove how ridiculous the Japanese system of injustice is.

    I'm sorry you suffered what you did - very few men speak up about DV because of the stigma and embarrassment - but DV, be it male or female, is nothing something to joke about. Indeed, some women do take advantage of the laws here and that is unfair. Hugely unfair and I've spoke up about that before. But there are a lot of women here who suffer in silence and the law does very little to help those most in need.

    Clearly the government here hasn't done enough to support victims. Japan has a huge DV issue and I can't help but feel like this is yet another "see, we built it but no one came so we don'T have an issue" type thing.

    Posted in: 10 of Japan's 48 shelters for abused women almost unused: survey

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    tmarie

    Even the most street smart female visiting Japan can be preyed upon and can be caught out. Japan shouldn't be visited alone by females as the risk of danger is too great. Even walking around at night for groups of ladies is not advisable.....

    See how silly that sounds?

    Posted in: Suspect arrested after Japanese woman raped at Indian resort

  • 3

    tmarie

    Do you mean that statement is "incorrect" in that someone can break into your house and rape you? Just want to clarify.

    Plenty of women are raped in their own homes. Often by a boyfriend or spouse. On occasion, the odd break in and rape happens as well. Women are not safe in the comfort of their own home all the time. A quick search of "woman raped in home" brings up enough news reports to show that this statement is not only false but silly.

    Posted in: Suspect arrested after Japanese woman raped at Indian resort

  • 3

    tmarie

    People can and do get raped in any country in the world. The only way to ensure never getting raped is to lock yourself in the house.

    Incorrect.

    ladies-don't go to india. Its that simple No, it's not. Why should women have to stop visiting because men haven't been taught how to behave? Would you the same about women who get groped on the train? Usually agree with you but not here.

    I hope the woman physically recovers. Mentally, she has a long road ahead of her and I wish her well.

    Posted in: Suspect arrested after Japanese woman raped at Indian resort

  • 5

    tmarie

    Meanwhile as long as you have a JAPANESE as a family member (a true partner, a kid to be born, or even a kid from a previous marriage you don't even know where it is) you're granted status.

    This isn't always the case. The man who died in custody while being put on a plane "home" was married to a Japanese woman.

    We are all on the same boat, and you know exactly what many japanese think about us in general, so be positive and stop judging other fellow foreigners. No, we are not. I came here legally and stay legally. I have no doubts that many Japanese have issues with non-Japanese being here but that isn't what this is about. This is about a family who came here illegally, played the system, lost. Suggesting this is the same boat that I and other are in is laughable.

    I've already commented that I think the asylum system here needs to be changed. I'm all for that. I'm not for giving out pity visas though, more so to folks who came illegally.

    Posted in: Japan forces a harsh choice on children of migrant families

  • 3

    tmarie

    If you came with your family from abroad, and are a "foreigner" yourself (even being born here) they simply see you as an outsider. How crazy is this logic? This system needs to change.

    You might want to look more into this issue. "Our" countries are the minority in this. Canada has been looking into doing more to stop anchor babies and "tourism births" just to get passports - which it seems is perhaps what this family was trying to do. Why else have kids if you have no job, no means to support a family and are living as outlaws and unwanted? The majority of the world, like Japan, doesn't believe that just because you are born in a country makes you a national of said country. Pros and cons to this.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jus_soli

    Posted in: Japan forces a harsh choice on children of migrant families

  • 8

    tmarie

    These aren't migrants. They are illegal immigrants. I feel very sorry for these kids/adults because their parents did not follow proper procedures and played the system and lost. Every country should have the right to decide who they allow in and who they allow to stay. I am disgusted with Japan and their lack of asylum granted to those really in need but I get tired of these type of stories because the facts are often distorted or aren't even told - why dd they leave India? Why can't they go back? Why are a husband and wife having kids if they can't even legally work and can't financially support a family? I'm more included to support a Syrian family to come to Japan than allow this family to stay.

    Posted in: Japan forces a harsh choice on children of migrant families

  • 2

    tmarie

    Stupid right wing book? Check. Non-smoking room smelling like smoke? Check. Suggested to use the freebreze they supply to get rid of the smoke smell? Check. No reply to the complaint email you sent to head office and the hotel you stayed in? Check.

    I won't use APA ever again.

    Posted in: The APA way - Always Pleasant Amenities

  • 1

    tmarie

    The guy is an arrogant donkey. From what I recall, his in debt up to his eyeballs. Married to a Kardashian and kept in the spotlight all the time can't be easy. I've long thought he's got mental health issues - on top of his entitlement issues. I wish the guy well but do hope to never have to read about him or see any of his rants again.

    Posted in: 'Exhausted' Kanye West hospitalized; cancels tour after bizarre rants

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    tmarie

    Companies have been cutting labor costs since the 1990s, which increases each individual's work burden.

    But let's be honest, many companies were and still are overstaffed. The issue is that many here have no idea of time management. I see it all the time - be it students, stay at home moms or company workers.

    Posted in: Many companies expect young employees to work long hours to learn new skills. Companies have been cutting labor costs since the 1990s, which increases each individual's work burden.

  • 0

    tmarie

    I received my Permanent Residency card three years to the day after moving to Japan.

    What is this card you speak of? I got jack except a change of visa.

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    tmarie

    The medical payments should be adjusted based upon personal, NOT household, income.

    So housewives get more freebies while the rest of us, already paying taxes might I add, pay more??

    I have an idea, why don't they do it like Canada and tax based on income, stop building bridges to nowhere and have "free" medical care? Now there's a revolutionary thought. It would stop all the private clinics from nickel and diming everything and make the system better overall.

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  • 9

    tmarie

    It would be nice if Japan got with the times. I went out for drinks wth coworkers last week and came home smelling like an ashtray. I took a shower before bed and put my clothes in the washing machine they stank so bad. Woke up the next day with a sore throat. I am sick now. I have zero doubts that second hand smoke helped contribute to me coming down with a cold. I'm sick of smokers being allowed to ruin the health of others. Japan and JT need to get with it. This is costing us million in terms of health care services.

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    tmarie

    ** As a result, the salary for a JET has decreased by 25% and the cost of living has increased by nearly the same amount making it almost volunteer work.**

    Links please.

    No taxes, a free return ticket... Sorry but that is not almost like volunteer work.

    JET is a waste of tax money and time. I certainly enjoyed my time as a JET but even when a JET I didn't see the point of it except to expose kids to a real live foreigner. Most JETs have no idea to teach and many JTEs don't want a JET...

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    tmarie

    This law student is going to learn about the law from the inside.

    No he won't. He'll get a suspended sentence and be let off. He is a) a law student and b) Keio at that. The poor girl is probably traumatized for life though.

    Posted in: University student arrested for pushing his girlfriend off train platform

  • 10

    tmarie

    All in what you put into it. I have dinner with one set of neighbours at least once a week, see the others who live directly next/in front of me a few times and we always chat. There are folks who keep to themselves and that is fine. I have found that having a dog has made a huge difference in getting to know people. When I lived in an apartment and mansion, I didn't really know anyone but I was younger than and didn't really care to know the neighbours. Now that we have a house, I think it is important to know each other and help when needed. That being said, I don't know I would know people all that well if I hadn't made the first step - we've had bbqs, Xmas parties... Besides the weekly dinner neighbours, I don't think anyone else hosts others over.

    Posted in: How well do you know your neighbors?

  • 8

    tmarie

    So who ratted her out and why? Japan's view of weed is bizarre when you look at the history of it here. The US is messed up but not this bad.

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  • -1

    tmarie

    The princess spent a busy summer vacation, traveling with her parents who attended a “Water Day” ceremony in Tokyo on Aug 1 and a “Mountain Day” event in Matsumoto, Nagano Prefecture in central Japan on Aug 11.

    Sorry but I taught kids like this here - able to do the "fun" things but missed school due to "illnesses". I feel sorry for this kid because clearly there are mental health issues/concerns but if the parents/household thinks her skipping school is going to help, they are wrong. She needs to be social, have friends... Based on what the media has written, I'm guessing she's "that" kid who has no friends. A hard thing at her age but it will only get worse by allowing her to stay home whenever she likes. At this rate, this poor girl is not going to fair well if she ever actually gets married and gets tossed from the royal family.

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